WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023
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Happy International Women's Day!
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And you don't need to provide excuses or reasons why not. "No." is a complete sentence.
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Hi I'm here reading when I can. Mom is doing well - I am trying to get everything done. Feeling very overwhelmed. It is sounding like instead of 4 ish weeks of mom living with me it could be 14 weeks. Ended up in contact with my sister - long story but first contact in 25 years maybe more - and she told me some things that I did not know... I'm reeling I scheduled a couple of hours of counseling tomorrow - I feel like my world just broke in two.
I'll write more when I can.
Kim in N. California16 -
Annie DE – how wonderful you have that bike and enjoy it so much.
Played cards and then went for a walk around the parking lot. Now to take a shower.
Michele2 -
Evelyn - Our granddaughter didn’t talk much until she was 4 either. Same as yours she understood just didn’t want to talk. She is 7 now and talks a lot! She is ahead in classes and does very well. I think children should be allowed to be children for as long as possible.
A lot of the ones that know that were pushed too hard and too soon have struggled terribly as adults as they don’t feel they’re ever good enough, have depression and anxiety issues.
Kylia - I hope that customer has someone treat him as he treated you. Those types of people drive me crazy.
Ginny - I like that you meet with the Supervisors for new collective agreements. I’ve had two new collective agreements since I started here and only find out about changes when I’ve done something wrong.
Karen - thanks for the reminder about women’s cardiac health.
Your analogy for Rebecca made sense.
Rosemarie - I’m so terribly sad that those you love and care for are not here for you as you need them to be.
We all listen and care here.
I think my daughter summed it up well when we were home when my FIL passed. She said, “Mom, it just feels like the whole world should be as shocked and upset as we are. It makes it hard to comprehend that their lives are just going along like it’s a Monday and we are heartbroken and our whole world changed”.
Allie - I would not tie myself down that way. If Tracy wants to do that she will need to make some tough decisions. You already put yourself out when you aren’t feeling well to help out. She expects a lot from you. Also, he’s only 1!
Katla - I am so happy for you that you are getting your things. It will make you feel more settled I’m sure.
Lanette - 😂
My daughter and her friend have decided to get into houseplants the last little while so had a lot of fun taking slips from “Grammie” before we left NB to come home. As they were doing this my SIL said, “don’t let Tracey take them they’ll be dead before they get to Edmonton”. That is when my daughter piped up and said “Mom’s kept Bob alive for a long time”. I didn’t know she had named my plant. We showed my SIL a picture of it and that’s when I found out I have a prayer plant. I have had it 23 years this month.
Everyone thinks I can’t keep them alive, truth is I don’t like them that much so purposely kill most any I’m given. It’s just something to take care of for me.
Katie - my biggest fear is buying a new mattress and not having any change in how I feel. They are so expensive and the return policy isn’t the best. They always feel good for the first few nights.
Evelyn - I looked at quilt batting last Fall and was shocked! I don’t know how things have gotten to be so expensive.
Annie - you are doing so well! Keep it up!
Kim - Biggest hugs to you.
I got a call today from the resume I submitted last week. I have an interview next Monday.
My back and hips have been hurting terribly since the return to AB. I think it was the travel day that started it all. It was almost 24 hours of mostly sitting. I then went right to work and was so behind I sat all day for a week and a half. All of this left me exhausted so I sat a lot at home too. I finally this weekend dug my Physio exercise sheets out and started making sure I am getting up regularly. Today was a bit better at least.
Tracey in Edmonton
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(((Kim)))— What an unexpected surprise. I hope your counseling session will be helpful. Sending good thoughts your way.
🤞🏻❤️🤞🏻
Katla2 -
Annie- hope you can help your dad get all the paperwork he needs. I talked to former hubby this evening. He was saying he had tried to get the SS paperwork for his mom(he has power of attorney or what ever). They said they couldn't help him, had to take dad in(his mom is in the dementia ward). After a lot of run around, it turns out that Carl didn't loose the paperwork, they had not sent him anything and had not been. They also have not been sending Shirley's SS checks either, for the past 4 YEARS!!! Carl thought that his and hers were combined. They now owe the back pay. That will be a great help to pay for Carl's rent(he has moved in to the same assisted living as Shirley just in a different floor.
I had a great walk around the wetlands. Nice to get out and walk after so many days of rain.
Got my 5 miles in. Tomorrow I will see if it is sunny or rain- 50/50 chance if you listen to Alexa.
I have zumba tomorrow night so if I don't walk, it will be ok. Yep, going to class on my birthday. Dh and I will go out to lunch on Thursday instead beings we are both off. Not sure where yet.
Going to head for bed a little early. Want to get extra sleep so I can keep up at class.
Debbie
Napa Valley, Ca2 -
Kim - Those kind of shocks can send you reeling. The stories we tell ourselves to make sense of our lives, suddenly need to be rewritten. So glad you have scheduled therapy time for you to process it.
Is it time to think about other arrangements for your mother's care? Once people start falling, it is a slippery slope, and often a rapid deterioration. Unless you want to be her full time carer, and be paid to be such, I don't see how you can make it work. You may have to make some loving boundaries for your own survival, both emotional and financial. Sending hugs.
I don't have any living things in my house, apart from my basil in the kitchen window. No pets, no plants. I absolutely hate taking care of things. Too much responsibility. It takes a massive mental energy from me and I feel far too responsible for them. I prefer to be FREE. ( My word for the year)
Last autumn, Bea helped us plant a big pot with bulbs, outside our dining room window. It is beginning to look beautiful with the crocus and the tiny daffodils. Later the tulips will come through. No maintenance at all.
Our garden is a wildlife sanctuary! DH does occasionally cut the grass. He maintains the bird feeders. We love watching the birds while we have breakfast every morning, but they are not our responsibility.
I've sorted out two lunch reservations in wonderful places in London for later this year. My old/new friend and I are going to The Wolseley - just about my favourite interior - Art Deco, and for DSIL's 70th in Noble Rot Wine, I've managed to confirm that DH'S daughter can't come, so it's just the four of us for a belated celebration. I do love the cozy, historical, venue. It's important to my pleasure to have no background music.
There is something else hopefully going on in May which I am hugely looking forward to.
Love you lots, Heather UK xxxxxxxx4 -
Kim, I am so sorry. Siblings and their kept secrets. The disillusionment is profound and most definitely may require some therapy for processing, as the information changes fundamental beliefs that we hold as true since childhood. Hurting for you. Much love.5
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Tracey, I hope the physio exercises give you some relief!
Kim, 14 weeks instead of 4?? Someone did not communicate to you properly at all! I hope your therapist will be of great help.
Well, I think I may have the flu. I tested neg for Covid, but am achy, no fever, but chills and am spending WAY more time in the bathroom than usual. Already texted DS as I'm supposed to have DGD tomorrow. I will just have to see how I feel in the morning. And on that note, I'm heading to bed! It's an early-ish nite for me, lol.
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
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Evelyn, So sorry you are under the weather. (((Hugs)))
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »Rosemarie - I’m so terribly sad that those you love and care for are not here for you as you need them to be.
We all listen and care here.
I think my daughter summed it up well when we were home when my FIL passed. She said, “Mom, it just feels like the whole world should be as shocked and upset as we are. It makes it hard to comprehend that their lives are just going along like it’s a Monday and we are heartbroken and our whole world changed”.
Tracey in Edmonton
That's very true.
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »This afternoon I will head to a local B&B and enjoy the spartan, cleanliness of the room I chose. I have been to this room before. The clutter of the house is beyond my physical ability to clean it right now. The ALS Association will come get the hoyer lyft. The yard man took the bed. He is going to take it for metal scrap. A friend will have breakfast with me tomorrow at the B&B.
I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
Staying at the B&B for a little while is a great idea.
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Yesterday was a recharging day for me. I didn't do much other than read a novel. Just didn't have the energy.
There was a big storm overnight and throughout the day as a low pressure system and cold front moved in with wind, rain and snow down to 800 metres.
Today, I am a little bit more energetic. I've been reading, but also got out for a short walk with my husband.
Machka in Oz
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Machka, Yay for recharging days and for those who recognize the need. It’s a little bit like plugging an electric car in.
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Rosemarie,
I agree with all the sentiments that have been expressed so eloquently here.
I hope your time at the B&B is peaceful and meditative.
Much love,
Karen in Virginia3 -
Kim-sorry in addition to your mom and her condition you are being hit with family secrets. Hopefully you can get stabilized.
Tracey-good news on the interview! Even if that job does not come through it is important to get practice selling yourself so every interview helps. I feel I must go over the contract with supervisors-it is their job to enforce!
Debbie-I'm really surprised if ex MIL is in a facility that SS payments weren't going directly to facility. Assuming she uses Medicare and or Medicaid-they are usually pretty good at looping all of that together. Strange.
Annie-glad bike is off to good start, you are smart to start slowly.
Evie-my only caution with how you are feeling is that I started feeling bad on Sunday and didn't test positive for Covid until Wednesday. Do keep an eye on it!
So when I made reservations through work to stay at hotel for two day meeting, I was thinking Thursday started early in morning-turns out not until lunch time! So-I will go ahead and pay for tonight on my own and let work pick up Thursday night. Worth it to me to have some time in a different space and to decompress-I have extra time in for the week so won't have to do any work tomorrow morning unless I want too!
Running into office briefly this am then coming home for lunch-then to two meetings this am and then an hour or so drive to hotel and will pick up dinner around there somewhere.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio4 -
dlfk202000 wrote: »I had a great walk around the wetlands. Nice to get out and walk after so many days of rain.
Got my 5 miles in. Tomorrow I will see if it is sunny or rain- 50/50 chance if you listen to Alexa.
I have zumba tomorrow night so if I don't walk, it will be ok. Yep, going to class on my birthday. Dh and I will go out to lunch on Thursday instead beings we are both off. Not sure where yet.
Going to head for bed a little early. Want to get extra sleep so I can keep up at class.
Debbie
Napa Valley, Ca
Exercising on our birthday is a great way to celebrate it.
Happy Birthday from one birthday girl to another.
Machka in Oz
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Machka, you advocate so well for your hubby, perhaps its time you advocated for yourself in regards to possible heart issues. That tightness and nausea etc does not sound good at all! Be the squeaky wheel!
Evelyn, on beautiful, sunny Vancouver Island
It's been a back-burner thing. I had the encounter with that last cardiologist just a few weeks before my husband's accident.
Among her final words to me were something like if I ever have an episode like I described again (she doubted I would ... she doubted I had ever had any kind of episode), I should go straight to Emergency ... and maybe someone could observe it while it was taking place to figure out what it was.
I've had those episodes many times since, but have not gone to Emergency. It's hard to "go to Emergency" when you're sitting on a bus, about 45 minutes away from town and probably an hour away from Emergency. Or when you're out walking or in the office or at home or wherever. By the time I would actually get to Emergency, the episode would be over. And part of the reason it would be over is because when it hits, I'm immobilised. I can't walk. I can barely breathe. I can't do anything until it eases and I can move again. And according to this cardiologist, if I'm not actually experiencing something in Emergency, they have no way of determining what it might be.
But I finally have a new GP.
And I've sorted the muck-up from my previous GP and have got an appointment with a kidney specialist in early May. I would have had that appointment several months ago if my previous GP had actually notified the kidney specialist!!
So I'll start with that.
M in Oz
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Morning ladies
The last 2 days ive woken up at 5:30 am no alarm needed..so thats good.
Tracy and Kyle had mini splits put in.. they are electric and im sure you have seen them.on tv they are put high on the wall .and do both heat and air.. but the electric is ghastly expensive .so they run it high at night ( why I dont know ) and then when I get there ,bundle up Miles in heavy clothes and turn the heat off.
So it gets to about 61-62
And there house was built in the 40s and not insulated well.. Tracy puts plastic on the windows in the winter time.3
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