WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,247 Member
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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,286 Member
    edited March 2023
    Good evening ladies!

    I did thirty reps of my dumbbells Yay! And ten minutes on the bike to warm up.

    I ate 1168 calories today for a deficit of 323 calories. Yay!

    Thank you all for the encouragement on my weight loss.

    Annie in Delaware, also dreading the time change
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,975 Member
    I'm actually looking forward to the time change this way since it means my cat will wake me up at 6:30 instead of 5:30. For the most part, I like it that he has decided our woods make a better potty than his litter box, but I would gladly clean the litter box once a day to get to sleep just a little bit later.
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,610 Member
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee-oops, next time.

    Michele congrats to Vince. He’s really following your good example. Well done!
    Allie, safe travels! Love your smile.
    Kim ((hugs)) hope you can forgive my unwanted advice, and feel the love, support and admiration I’m whooshing your way.
    Rori why the heck DID you leave Honolulu?
    Karen yours to Kim. Beautiful. Little Rori’s smile, wish you could bottle it, I’d buy a case.
    Annie, pounds and inches shed, progress on taxes, VERY well done!
    Rita sorry to hear your shoulder troubles put weights and yoga on hold. Any chance for PT?
    Welcome @jraekeller Jonirae in So Cal. I share your scars but mine are from a six pack of RC cola I dropped on our cement porch stairs ;}
    Tracey the jam story made me smile too.
    Margaret wise choice. Joe says that while I COULD drive when it’s icy, it’s the other drivers he worries about. Yours to Carla about snleet. I’ve heard grapple but don’t know what it means…
    Welcome @dvmmcw8273 Melanie! Has your MD ordered any pre-surgery PT exercises?
    Kelly thanks for popping in, was missing you.
    Rebecca best of luck with your magnet pocket project. Really admire your can-do attitude!
    Lisa ((hugs)) Your lawyer will really appreciate the big book o’ death. Since it will make things easier for her/him, hope you are cut a deal on the price.
    Katla soon you’ll have your chair and perhaps your new laptop. ((hugs))
    Lanette is that Rosie? Her sign made me crack up. Our dogs are wiser than our powers-that-be.

    Enjoyed today’s break in the weather. Joe took the dogs and me on a chilly hike at the local campground Later I took Shadow to dog group at Azalea park. There was even a moment when I felt the sun warm my face, just before the chill breeze returned. Atmospheric river is forecast to return tomorrow with wind so plan to Vimeo church instead of driving. I’m still leery after that scary drive when the wind driven rain completely obscured the double yellow line.
    03/10: Move:2 sets PT active mins:257 steps:8055
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far: 9+9+10= beans-kidney, beet-golden, broccoli, carrots, celeriac, celery, cherries-dried, chickpea hummus, corn muffin, cranberry jalapeno jelly, mushrooms, oats, parsnips, peanut butter in ice cream, pecans, pepperoncini, pineapple, pomelo, potato chips, radish, romaine, snap peas, soy-veggie patties, sweet mini peppers, tea, tomatoes-in chili, walnuts, wheat-cronut/pita. CI<CO=145
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, hymns, SIL chat, board meeting minutes and emails, Wt:137.6
    03/09: Move: 2 sets PT with dumbbells, active mins:152 steps:2984
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far: 9+9= beans-kidney, beet-golden, broccoli, carrots, celeriac, celery, chickpea hummus, corn muffin, mushrooms, parsnips, pecans, pineapple, pomelo, potato chips, radish, tea, tomatoes-in chili/sauce in lasagna, wheat-cronut/pita. CI<CO=22
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, massage, Dollar Tree, lunch with D, Wt:138.2
    03/08: Move: 2 sets PT, line dance class, active mins:274 steps:7445
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far: 9 =broccoli, carrots, celeriac, mushrooms, parsnips, pecans, pomelo, tea, wheat-cronut. CI<CO=811
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, meeting prep, line dance class, library, recycling, board meeting. Wt:137.3
    Lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    2023: Be of good cheer. March: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
  • pipcd34
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Machka- I love all of the work you have done in your yard! Plus your bees! Wonderful!

    Hugs to everyone! so many that I want to respond to, but I need to jump in the shower and see if I can get rid of the cobwebs in my head. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

    Nice to hear from you again! :)

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    My middle sister told me she might switch to electric heat with a fan. That's what we have. They live out in the country and the cost of the Natural Gas line from the main road up to her place would be thousands of dollars alone, not to mention installing it in the house, changing the duct system etc. She is hoping to get a loan for all this. I hope she's able to, as she has this issue of no heat every winter. She confessed to me that she would go and buy oil transporting it and emptying it in the tank in the front lawn. Over and over, just to get it to come on for a bit when the girls would come home from school. I guess even back then the oil truck can only come out if you're willing to pay for a full tanks worth. Buying lets say $100 worth probably isn't cost effective for the oil trucks to drive out. At least that's the way it is with the propane trucks here on the island. We have a gauge and when we're down to only 30% in the tank, we can order it. We used to buy it at 50% left but they stopped that since gas prices went up.
    I did tell her this week every time my heat went on, I would say a little prayer to her hoping they would get their heating situation resolved. She was able to pay for some more oil in the tank so they have been cozy the last couple of days.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Way back when, my first husband and I lived in northern Alberta and our mobile home used oil heat. The only time we could get an oil truck in was when the ground was frozen solid, so we tried to leave some in the tank come spring so that in the autumn we still had a bit to tide us over until the ground froze solid. But it didn't always work well and I remember one autumn/early winter where there wasn't enough and we had to bundle up at home for about a month before we could get a truck in!

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    I am doing this Happiness calendar for March. Feel free to copy or simply use it if you’d like!

    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org
    RVRita
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.

    Sky, sand and ocean
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    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive.

    Yesterday's 54 km bicycle ride and 5 km walk on the beach ...

    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words.

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    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them.

    :heart:

    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels.

    The only plans we had yesterday was a stroll through a neighbouring arty town to look at the shops.

    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.

    I do box breathing at some point just about every day.

    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food.
    :)

    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
    Many times.

    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.

    Afternoon walk ...

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    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.

    Not so much today. But usually. :)

    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.

    Haven't talked to anyone other than husband today.
    14. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
    15. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
    16. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
    17. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
    18. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    19. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    20. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    21. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    22. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    23. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    24. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    25. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    26. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    27. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    28. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    29. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    30. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
    31. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    32. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.

    Machka in Oz

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :'( Ugh. Tonight the clocks spring forward. The time change really messes with my carefully scheduled life. I have no opinion about whether the clocks should stay on Standard Time or Daylight Time, I just hate the change. We have already moved all our clocks ahead except the ones that change automatically in the middle of the night. We scheduled tomorrow's grocery pickup for 30 minutes later than usual to give us some wiggle room in the morning but I'll still be meeting my friend to walk at 9:30. Good luck to all of you who are changing clocks tonight.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA

    Meanwhile, down here, the Time of Sadness begins in about 3 weeks. :(

    Machka in Oz
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,040 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,997 Member
    edited March 2023
    Good morning, my little chickadees. The snow has mostly disappeared and the wind has settled, but it is still overcast. Our clocks don’t go back until 26th.

    Machka: It sounds like it was just the ticket, apart from the tussle with Rhodi.

    Intentions for March:
    🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
    🔹Continue with Solid Habit development

    Intentions for today:
    📍Solid habits
    📍general chores
    📍Prep: Monday Painters : Tuesday Craft
    📍Family Skype late afternoon
    📍Watch the finals of Dancing on Ice, Great British Pottery Throw-down after dinner

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri
    March Action for Happiness:
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with awareness and kindness
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.Trees silhouetted against the sky; the appearance of snowdrops in spring; the sound of waves breaking on the shore.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I meditate on this each morning when I wake up, and am grateful for each new opportunity to have a good day.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. Positive affirmations are very powerful. Be kind to yourself, always.
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. We chatted with our girls about other family members, and raised a glass to them.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. I will do this tomorrow (7th)
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.Resisting the temptation to plan my day. Serendipity reigns today.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food. ✔️
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I’m a great advocate of deep breathing, and find this works well.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.I wasn’t looking forward to going outside this morning as we had snow overnight and it seemed very cold. However, the sun shone in a clear blue sky, and the wind had dropped right down again, and I spent time with my eyes closed feeling the heat on my face before I went into the centre for Latin Study.
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. Always! Gives me calm thinking time.
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. When I tried to do this with DH this morning, he got distracted by a discussion on What the Papers Say on TV. 😝 However, we often have in-depth discussions, usually over lunc and dinner.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25 Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see
    what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,694 Member
    edited March 2023
    Mary - That is exactly why we never go away with other people. NEVER. :p I can't stand all that compromising and decision making. I'm breaking out in a sweat just thinking about it! Just one other person is more than enough! I need to be in control, or with someone I can have a sensible, understanding, discussion with, and can give each other space. . Groups just don't work for me, and never have.
    Nowdays I am far too set in my ways to want to accommodate other people. Hooray! B) I hate even staying in other people's houses because I love my own routines. I can just about contemplate my DSIL, but she very quickly drives me crazy.
    Still, you have learnt from your experience and will never make that mistake again. :) Knowing one's own limitations is so important. >:)

    It's warmed up a bit! :D I wasn't freezing when I crawled back into our bed this morning. Spring fever! :p

    I don't mind this time change as much as the fall one, because I don't get so hungry! I get to eat earlier. Ours is always the last weekend in March.

    Looking forward to a busy week, including two family get togethers and a pottery session. Going to make a stem vase, which i can use, and maybe a small pot for dips. It's supposed to be a succulent pot, but that's not my bag.
    I'm intending to go to the sushi place beforehand, as I chose badly last time. I eyed up other people's plates, so will give them another go. The sushi looked incredible. Real, live, sushi chef. It is extraordinarily expensive though. Fortunately, most of the price of the pottery session has been paid for by my brother as a birthday voucher last October.
    DH is out for a pub lunch that day, in the countryside, with his cricket friend, so won't need a full dinner. Looks like he will make himself scrambled eggs on toast.
    DH is still keen to come with me for the painting session in a few weeks time. <3

    Love you all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,694 Member
    https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/mar/05/my-marriage-is-in-meltdown-again-how-can-i-save-it-ask-philippa-perry

    This is an article by my favourite psychotherapist. It's not intended for people whose marriages have really hit the buffers, but those that could do with a little bit of a spruce up. That's most of us, I guess. I like it because it's doable. :D Putting it into practice already.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,400 Member
    Lisa-thanks for clarification. I thought maybe you had some "found" money. Hopefully the plan for the second house works out.

    Mary-Sounds to me like your friends were being a bit of jerks-they hijacked your plan. Maybe if you had explained your thoughts on staying places, etc. when first discussing it may have helped. It is always disappointing when the vision in our mind doesn't come close to the execution.

    Machka-sounds like a lovely holiday. Be careful with cat bits-good idea to use a bit of antibiotic cream. It is possible for them to get infected-cat scratch fever is real even if a bit rare. One of my brothers was hospitalized from it years ago.

    Had a dusting of snow over night and more is predicted for awhile. Hope it is not much-need to drive about an hour south this pm for gs bday. Off to balance check book.

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    edited March 2023
    Heather I have definitely learned my lesson the hard way! I agree that family can be tolerable for about 3 days then the old saying about stinky fish I think Lisa mentioned before.

    💕Mary from Arizona/Minnesota
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    edited March 2023
    ginnytez wrote: »
    Machka-sounds like a lovely holiday. Be careful with cat bits-good idea to use a bit of antibiotic cream. It is possible for them to get infected-cat scratch fever is real even if a bit rare. One of my brothers was hospitalized from it years ago.
    Ginny in Ohio

    Cat bites seem to be a family thing ... my sister-in-law, son, and daughter-in-law have all spent time in hospital with cat bites. Recently! It seems to be the thing to do in the past few years. :neutral:

    I didn't have much available when it happened because everything was packed, but then I remembered that there was hand sanitiser in the door of the van, so I put a lot of that on the wound. Gotta love the fact that we've all got hand sanitiser on hand these days! :)

    When we finally got to our next place, I was able to get out the rubbing alcohol and bandaids. Now that I'm home, I've got access to antibiotic cream.


    Machka in Oz
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    Morning ladies
    Mary- that does not sound like a fun outing at all.. I travel with one friend or solo thats it. Life is to short for all that fiddle faddle
    I do feel a bit better this morning and will try and get some things done around the condo today.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,253 Member
    edited March 2023
    Barbara grapple is when it comes down like small ice pellets (not hail). Snarkle is my own word for it because I get snarky when we get snow after snow. I do like Carla's schnit. It snowed three times this week where enough have to shovel. We are in the top 10 snowiest winters, and the snow season is not over yet!

    (((Mary))) That is why I stayed home yesterday! As much as I wanted to go see the dancing getting things were just getting more and more complicated. I listened to my gut and said NO. I enjoyed my long nap with my pup yesterday and it gave me the energy to get the snow shoveling done before I went to bed.

    Yes my mom too used to say three days is the limit for having company. Like fish after three days they begin to smell.

    :heart: Margaret
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,194 Member
    edited March 2023
    :) Add me to the list of people who won't travel with others. Jake and I have figured out how to blend our needs and desires when we travel together but adding anyone else would be horrible. Fortunately, we like being together.

    <3Mary, I don't think there is any "fault" in what happen, just excellent experience that you can use in the future. We all learn by experience and a lot of the experience is bad. What might be a "fault" would be to do it again and expect different results.

    :) I got up this morning not too much later than I would have without the time change, but i know that it will be challenging for at least the rest of the week. I'll miss the daylight on my walk this morning, but daylight on my walk is forever changing day by day, so each day will be different. I go to bed too early to benefit from the added daylight in the evening.

    :)Lanette, I look forward to hearing about your adventure with chickens, When we lived out in the country, I considered chickens but was working full time and decided against the extra responsibility. Since I've been retired, we've lived in communities that don't allow them.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Good afternoon or evening, as the case may be... and welcome to our new chums!

    So, I barely achieved 2000+ steps by lunchtime, but that was just from my chair to the bathroom or my couch to the bathroom and back. Painful and exhausting when it's this frequent. I quit counting at 15 trips. This afternoon, things have slowed down considerably, and I'm grateful for that.

    So... sent Corey off to do the shopping, and he usually runs about 90% getting the ones I actually want. Worked for me. He also got a haircut and stopped to pick up some trim and silicone caulk for the new bathtub. The latex caulk they used basically just melted away. That's OK, it's an easy fix.

    Trying to figure out what to take with me to the lawyer on Tuesday. This is just the initial consultation, and I'm not sure how much this whole shooting match is going to cost--but I want some peace of mind for Corey if I take the dirt nap first, or for our kids if it works out otherwise. I'll probably take the Big Book O' Death, but I need to look through it first and get it updated.

    Also trying to figure out what to do with the extra firm tofu that has been lurking at the back of my fridge for a couple weeks now. I know within reason that Corey will not be thrilled with a tofu meal--he's the original meat and potatoes guy. In fact, dinner tonight is meatloaf, mashed potatoes and gravy, because he's cooking.

    Karen - Miss Rory is so sweet...

    Rori - Love hearing your adventures and the joy you take in all of them.

    Tracey - Love the "kiss for jam" story... it's a moment of love in a hard time for y'all.

    KJ - So good to see you chime in with your expertise. My two youngest grands, 3 and 7, wore me slap OUT inside a few hours the last time they were here. I so respect and admire your ability to give these children a home-based, consistent, superbly personal daycare experience that will set them up so well in their lives to come. Your strength always amazes. I can't imagine being in the same room with a dozen kids that young for five minutes, much less five days a week.

    Allie - Loved that picture of you and your friends!

    ((((Rosemarie))))

    ((((Kim))))

    Quiet night at home in the offing - I'm going to go make some pimiento cheese cornbread while Corey naps out in his chair. He's finally starting to feel like himself again, but the fatigue hits him hard.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR


    Lisa, your writing style always captivates me. <3

    ...“dirt nap” :D:D:D

    ...ditto what you said to KJ - can’t begin to imagine caring for 14 children, especially with the high standards that Kelly has.

    …is the pimiento cheese cornbread recipe worthy of publishing here? sounds so yummy

    ___

    Best,

    Karen in Virginia

  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    yjaq3bfiofl0.jpg This is Mary... that passed this afternoon..
    Afternoon ladies
    Well I woke up this morning with Miles cold..I tested no Covid
    My friend that was on Hospice passed a little while ago.. so there goes another one.
    Kelly - I sure wish I could get you to speak with Tracy you have the expertise about all of this..
    I want things to work out ..but if it gets to be to much physically to take care of Miles then I will let them know..I love him and live spending time with him .. but he is a wiggle worm when im trying to change his diaper and we shall see how it goes once the warm weather gets here.

    Oh, Allie, she looks dear. I’m sorry you lost another friend.

    And I wish Kelly could be Tracy’s role model as well. For your sake. You are one tough cookie.

    Karen in Virginia
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »

    I've never liked dressing on my salads. However sometimes I use a seasoning - herbs. Like a sprinkle of dried dill.

    M in Oz
    I use chopped fresh herbs when I have them. Mint chives and basil are great additions.
    ☘️Terri

    Irish Terri,

    what are mint chives?

    I have garlic chives which I love, but mint chives sound amazing!

    Karen in Virginia
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited March 2023
    fanncy0626 wrote: »
    Just got home from a 3 day bike trip! Vent below!
    I had been planning to go on a bike ride trip since we got our bikes a couple of years ago. This year I wanted to go to Scottsdale on the Arizona trail and take the Indian Bend path to the Rio Salado path and back home on the Grand Canal. I told my friends about my trip and they wanted to join us. Then they wanted to start planning it. They didn’t want to take the Grand Canal trail so that got cancelled. They went ahead and booked rooms at a hotel before I did. Without letting me know they were doing that. With a non refundable payment in full. They gave me information about a hotel that they wanted me to book the other night. I did that and I found out that it definitely wasn’t where I wanted to stay because it was too far away from the trail and I wanted to be close to the trail and not have to ride on busy roads. I cancelled it and booked it closer to the trail. We had to leave when they wanted to because he wakes up at 5:00 am. We met at 8:00 am. which is about the time I might start thinking about getting up! They wanted to eat at the Olive Garden that night even with all of the great local restaurants. My husband and I hate eating noodles! We went to please them and I thought they might have something else to eat but noodles…no! Everything I saw had noodles or pasta. Stomach ache waiting to happen 🤢. The next day we rode down to our other hotel on supposedly the best trail in the area. The husband could only make negative comments before we went and it turned out to be the best trail we were on. When we got to the lake area my husband and I had talked about taking a donut boat out on the lake. They immediately said no. For supper I booked at the best Mexican restaurant in town, according to the motel manager, and asked if that would be okay with them. They gave me the thumbs up. When we were there they acted like they had never eaten or liked spicy foods. In the evening we talked about our bike ride home. I usually don’t ever eat breakfast. I suggested that we ride for awhile then stop for brunch. They wanted to eat back in the town 5 miles away back to where we were the first day. To please them I found a Breakfast restaurant right off of the trail about 8 blocks away from the direction we were heading home just to satisfy their request to eat in that town. They agreed and I said that I’m not leaving until 9:00 am. When we get to the point where we would turn to go the opposite direction to the place where they wanted to eat the husband said why are we going backwards!!!! I lost it! I said you’re the ones that wanted to eat breakfast here in town!! I don’t eat breakfast EVER!! I asked my husband if I sounded angry and he said no I was just direct. I don’t think I yelled 😳 We couldn’t get home fast enough for me.
    This experience has made me not want to go anywhere with them or anyone but our kids and family ever again. I thought that I invited them to join us on our trip that I had been planning for a couple years in my mind. One where we would sleep in, eat all sorts of great things then take a long bike ride and burn off all the calories! Should I be upset with them or is it my fault or my husband’s for not reining them in when they started to change our plans??? Or did inviting them give them equal say in planning???

    I’m glad I don’t Spring Ahead! I really need my rest to recuperate 😄

    💕Mary from Arizona/Minnesota

    You should be upset with them unless you didn’t make it clear that the invitation was to join you for something you had planned. Once they started taking control of the planning, you really had only 2 choices - say "no, I’ve already planned this and you are invited along, take it or leave it" - or allow them to take over and accommodate them, which turned out to be a huge disappointment for you. You were optimistic that you would be able to still work in some of the things you wanted to do, but with them in the driver’s seat, it really didn’t happen. Some people don’t know how to collaborate with others. (((Hugs)))

    Karen in Virginia
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,286 Member
    I'm pretty easy-going when it comes to travel but there are some restaurants that put cheese and butter on everything, and that's tough for a non- dairy person like me. Olive Garden isn't a good choice for me. I also like to be near a bathroom after eating unfamiliar food. A bike trip could be awkward with my delicate digestion.

    Making everyone else get up early because one person can't sleep in is rude. I agree, these people are uncompromising. Lesson learned.

    Time to figure out my darn clock again.

    Annie in Delaware

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