WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023
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{{{Kim}}} ... I remember you were learning about wills/estates/etc. Did you get Power of Attorney for your mom? You can make a lot of decisions for her and without her input if you do have it.
I'm speaking from my NY/OH perspective, but costs of facilities are measured by the level of care you need. With your mom requiring hands-on-assistance, she would never be in a facility that charges $3000 as Carol mentioned. That rate would be for ambulatory individuals that need just basic care. (Although the south does seem to be comparatively less expensive.)
For one-to-one care (not using mechanical lifts) the prices get expensive as you have found out. If your mother has any convertible assets besides her house, it would be worth your mental health to find her a temporary placement and spend that money. If you decide to bring her into your home, I suggest you don't leave her current facility until all services and equipment you require are in place. Work with the social worker or the doctor where she is currently receiving rehab. There is a lot that can be provided in your home if that's the route you want to go ... it just takes time to get it established.
My heart is with you, Kim. It's a huge, thankless job. Your mom is dang lucky she has you!
Beth
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(((Kim))) — Sending love. ❤️0
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Kim, coast to coast and everywhere in between, much love coming your way. Some days, the triumph is simply standing up and putting one foot in front of the other. So glad you have a therapist you trust, and that listener you need.
There's been lots of advice from others, I have none. Neither Corey nor I have parents left. But I'm learning from everyone here what to do to make sure our kids don't go through what you're going through now--and have a lawyer's appointment next week to begin that process.
Their birth mom, on the other hand... well, that's a whole different kettle of stinky fish.
Gentle hugs, my friend.
Much love from Arkansas,
Lisa
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Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.
Happy Birthday Debbie and Machka!
Geraniums and dragon begonias are my favorites, Margaret! Lantana are so stunning though. I think I have to plant some of those this year. What kind of Lantana do you have? My problem is sun. My garden is mostly shaded, but I suppose I can push it further into the sun "this" direction if I really wanted to.
Heather those paintings are awesome!
How wonderful of your sister to share that with you, Rebecca.
Great writing ideas, Rita. Thanks.
Isn't that the truth, Tracey? You just feel like the whole world should stop with you and yet everyone else just keeps moving on.
Oh gosh, Kim, that's terrible. I mean it's wonderful that Mom is doing so well and working so hard to get better, but terrible about the emotional and financial strain.
I'm so sorry that SMiles isn't feeling well, Allie.
9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others... isn't that the truth!
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN5 -
Oops! Double posted.3
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Went to Chipotle with a friend of mine and then we went for ice cream. Came home and saw the SpaceX launch. It’s just amazing to see how the booster can come down with such accuracy. Then laid by the pool, went for the walk with Vince, will have dinner, go to cards, and then finish walking around the parking lot
After exercise stopped at Hobby Lobby. I needed some embroidery thread. I thought I’d brought enough with me, but not of the one color. In case it was a wrong shade, I got it in the morning and could return it when we went to lunch. But I didn’t have to return it
Lanette – I’m definitely going to have to check out those waffles. I’m always looking for something high protein for the days when I’m working. Protein keeps me full longer. And you can only have so many eggs.
Rita – happy belated birthday and happy early anniversary
Kim – sending love
Vince walked 4 times around the parking lot! He’s slowly increasing. I’m so proud
Michele off to dinner then cards4 -
I had to step in and do the demo at flowers today as our group leader was ill. It was a rush designing an arrangement and sourcing flowers, but it went well in the end. We are having very wintry weather again, and have had a severe weather warning for today and tomorrow.
I am skimming tonight as I still have to do my Latin prep for the morning.
Intentions for March:🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
🔹Continue with Solid Habit development
Intentions for today✔️
Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
March Action for Happiness:1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with awareness and kindness9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I’m a great advocate of deep breathing, and find this works well. [/spoiler]
2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.Trees silhouetted against the sky; the appearance of snowdrops in spring; the sound of waves breaking on the shore.
3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I meditate on this each morning when I wake up, and am grateful for each new opportunity to have a good day.
4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. Positive affirmations are very powerful. Be kind to yourself, always.
5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. We chatted with our girls about other family members, and raised a glass to them.
6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. I will do this tomorrow (7th)
7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.Resisting the temptation to plan my day. Serendipity reigns today.
8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food. ✔️
10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.
11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.
12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.
13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
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Michele - this is the waffle/pancake mix. I get it at Walmart, best price I've found:
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Kodiak-Cakes-Power-Cakes-Buttermilk-Pancake-and-Waffle-Mix-20-Oz/47375763?athbdg=L1200
For the longest time I just made a big pancake, but I like making waffles better since I can put a quarter in the toaster for a quick snack. I like adding chia to the mix, makes it a little crunchy.
And a tip of the hat to our Rebecca on Whidbey who initially found the prepared waffles in the frozen foods section.
Lanette
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Carla begonias should do well in your yard. Geraniums do well in my yard where they get morning sun. They can take it with less watering too. The Lantana I have are pink and yellow. A friend of mine said her sister calls them Barbie bouquets. Lantana does like more sun. So I have that at son's house that has much more sun.3
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Stats for the day-
Short walk w/family- 51.13min, 2.15ap, 2.15mi= 200c
Strava app= 247c
Short walk w/kirby- 18.58min, 3.15ap, 1.03mi= 108c
Strava app= 127c
Total cal 3082 -
I am always amazed (not in a good way) at the costs of healthcare things in the States.
The home I work at if a full on nursing home. All residents need medical care 24/7. A semi private room is 62.35 per day and a private is 70.10 per day. Everything is included in those costs except 10.00 month for personal items (toothbrush/paste, razors, Kleenex) we buy it but charge 10.00 per month for that convenience. Hairdressing is available on site and we add to the invoice if necessary and cable costs 35.00 a month. Any special equipment is partially covered by the government and a small portion covered by the resident. All meals are provided for this.
The residents can still own property and have savings here. Everything doesn’t need to be sold to be taken care of.
I am always grateful to live here when medical costs are talked about.
Tonight is my last ceramics lesson for this session. Next Thursday is a break and Spring session starts the week after. I need to start a new project tonight.
Tracey in Edmonton6 -
Evening ladies
Well ol Allie has severe heartburn.. ,so im going to sleep with my head elevated tonight..took something for it and hope it kicks in..praying does..havent had it this bad in awhile..
Anyway.. I am packed... and have my outfit ready for the flight.. .. now all i have to do is get some 5s and 10s to and a few dollars the few dollars if for the transport from the parking lot to the terminal, the 5s are for the assistance i will get to the gate. Atlanta depending how far we have to go might get 10.. always try and take care of them..
I have TSA precheck so i get to wiz right through.6 -
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Our daughter was here and we had a good visit. The moving truck will be at her place soon. My favorite chairs will come to my place & I am excited. The truck will be unloaded including all of our furniture and other items.
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Hi Gals,
I can tell from some of the responses that I was not clear. My mom would spend 40,000+ (about) in the 14 weeks she would need care and that would then mean she would not have enough coming in each month from investments to live comfortably the rest of her life. This means what? That at the end of 3 months she is miserable maybe hungry and cold for the rest of her life??? She is 94 granted but a very healthy (other than the hip) the doctors all say to expect a number of more years! So if I work out a bit of a sacrifice now, she will have comfort for the rest of her life.
I accept that some of you could not do that, but for me I could not look myself in the mirror and face myself if I do not try. I consider it paying it forward so that maybe when I need help someone will be there for me.
I am under a lot of stress and feeling pretty raw, so as my friends, please be gentle with me.
(yes, Heather your response was hard to read without tears, we all are wired differently, and hopefully we can each accept that without judgement - I understand that you are trying to protect me from myself, but I need support not protection)
Kim in N. California
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Good evening ladies!
I rode my bike ten minutes and did my dumbbells. Yay! I ate 1120 calories for a deficit of 421. Yay! (Edited to correct for half a banana that I didn't eat)
My knee is a little bit sore, after horseback riding and all. But not bad. I wore the brace to get up the stairs but it's coming off now. I figure it will take at least until next week to get any stronger. I'm doing the PT exercises 3x a week, plus the bike now.
Kim wishing you comfort in your tough situation.
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Lanette – thanks for the link. I absolutely must check it out when I get home. I like the protein content. That’ll be good for the days I work
Allie – have a great trip. Feel better soon
katla – I can feel your excitement. How wonderful that your things will soon be there.
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »I am always amazed (not in a good way) at the costs of healthcare things in the States.
The home I work at if a full on nursing home. All residents need medical care 24/7. A semi private room is 62.35 per day and a private is 70.10 per day. Everything is included in those costs except 10.00 month for personal items (toothbrush/paste, razors, Kleenex) we buy it but charge 10.00 per month for that convenience. Hairdressing is available on site and we add to the invoice if necessary and cable costs 35.00 a month. Any special equipment is partially covered by the government and a small portion covered by the resident. All meals are provided for this.
The residents can still own property and have savings here. Everything doesn’t need to be sold to be taken care of.
I am always grateful to live here when medical costs are talked about.
Tonight is my last ceramics lesson for this session. Next Thursday is a break and Spring session starts the week after. I need to start a new project tonight.
Tracey in Edmonton
I'm not sure about prices in Australia, although I will likely be finding out soon. Nevertheless, I think many aged care health things are covered.
M in Oz0 -
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Kim: Adding my love and hugs to the giant wave of light gushing your way.
Rosemarie: Keep being gentle with yourself. I'm glad to read you have some help with preliminary clearing of your home.
I'm finally caught up with reading all your news. I wish I could reply to everyone, but it would be a book. Just know I send everyone energy to heal, cope and maintain your amazing grace and strength. The photos, quotes, stats and stuff continue to inspire me.
My update is upbeat. I'm just off a bit of musical binge. I worked/attended 3 concerts in 4 nights this past weekend. For those interested, it's in the spoiler.1. Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band. I wasn't working were I could see him up close, but I did run into the arena to catch 5 of my favorite songs. At 71, he's still can sing and play continuously for 2.45 hours. My Big Rock Show Craving was more than satisfied. 2. Nathaniel Rateliff and the Colorado Symphony performed the entire album "A Little Touch of Schmillson in the Night". This record came out 50 years ago. My 48 y.o. tenant said he has never heard of Harry Nillson, so I've been keeping Alexa busy playing his hits, and I had forgotten how many great songs he wrote. 3. Hawaiian Music Masters. Three musicians and one dancer ifrom Maui performed beautiful slack key guitar and ukulele music. It was a brisk 30 degrees outside, but the appreciative audience took the opportunity to dress in aloha attire and just for a couple of hours pretend we were in the tropics. Always makes me wonder why the heck I ever left Honolulu...
Meanwhile, I still work pro basketball games and the excitement is building as we get closer to starting the playoffs. My supervisor has tested me in few different positions and seems to have settled on keeping me at one of the busiest, most interesting entrances to the locker room. Fine with me! I love the boys and am meeting so many interesting people. Spending 6 hours on my feet can be strenuous, but I always recover quickly, and can hardly wait to get back to work.
Spring is coming to the N. Hemisphere. I see green shoots popping out. I am another one who loves plants inside and out. I love the color and warmth they add to a space.
Stay well friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills5
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