JUST FOR TODAY... One day at a time .. Daily Commitment for 2023!
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JFT Monday - no treats after dinner!
1. Elliptical if possible. Can't bike to school until I have room for the bike in the room. Check that all files have transferred. Also need to ask what to do about Ss who continue to take their phones out; what is the appropriate response if I ask them to turn them in to me & they refuse? send student to office??? needs to be IMMEDIATE follow-up.
2. Continue putting files in cabinet.
3. In class: get folio, set up name cards. Check Chromebooks. Choice reading. Narrative technique lesson. Reading - memoir. CANDY! 4th - check bus #s at start of block.
4. Planning - Check grades for Awa. Enter grades. Continue parent calls; focus on Ps with no email.
5. Begin building Likert scale for Othello. Choose texts for benchmark; begin building exam.
6. Check in with union members. How did we develop "an army of subs" before???
7. Create sheets with members names & contact info - including room locations!
8. Evening: Rehearsal. Dinner: Soup. Drink more water. No, more. Keep the pitcher in the fridge full. You're not actually hungry. Make some tea. Drink more water!
9. Bedtime: Gratitude journal. Update IG. Therapy exercises: crunches, push-ups, squats, ankle lifts, box jumps, plank. Meds. Floss, rinse, brush teeth. Update JFT.
10. Upcoming: Set up digital portfolio. Get elastic for shoes & take to shoe repair. Discuss Clois & Stuffy. Check in w parents regularly. Get stamps! Need to rs testing to after primary visit so it doesn't get mis-billed AGAIN. Need to return the Dolly wig. Need to turn in receipts. Need to return/renew library books.
Scale goals
End of 2017: 174.6
End of 2018: 189.2
End of 2019: 196.4
End of 2020: 187.4
End of 2021: 194.4
End of 2022: 201.2
Today: 200.2
Long-term goals/progress
1. Professional / read current research. 2. Professional / present at conferences. 3. Professional / publish scholarly articles. 4. Professional / observe student needs and develop supports. 5. Professional / complete a doctorate. 6. Personal / retire comfortably. 7. Personal / renovate house. 8. Community / local progress. 9. Community / time with friends & family. 10. Family concerns. 11. Medical/fitness.
1. Research: Five paragraph essay. How student attitudes affect standardized test results; student surveys.
2. Presenting: Promote YT channel. Invite guests. Record mini-lessons.
3. Publishing: Read one journal article weekly; respond in a blog post. Clois for CWG. S&F for YT channel. Goodreads purchase list for McKay’s. Weekly blog series: Weekly Wishes (Monday) and Weekly Wins (Friday).
4. Observed student needs: Changing words between parts of speech (vocabulary/grammar). Synthesizing info from multiple sources, drawing conclusions (RI/W). EFFECTIVE transitions (W). Every day v everyday; any one v anyone (grammar). Sub/obj pronouns & structure (grammar). Poss v pl nouns (grammar). Short nonfic from Lat Amer/Africa/Asia (World Lit).
5. Doctorate: Research programs, requirements, resources, cost, timeline.
6. Retirement: Update name on JSSB acct. Check investments. Theater CV. Entertainment experience. Duolingo/Lang8.
7. House: Floor joists. Siding. Gutters. Floors.
8. Local progress: Library. Theater. PC2V. City/county govt. Community kitchen. She Should Run vision statement. Ed assoc. Ugly Christmas sweater. Prison abolition; reduce / re-allocate responsibilities dumped on cops. Push for diversity. Turn left!
9. Friends & extended family: Organize photos. Write postcards. Call weekly! Look for activities to do with friends. Purchase doll with long hair; practice French braid. Dance: tap, salsa, samba. Rhythm nation.
10. Immediate family: Clean room; work toward sleeping in room. Clean up behind desk. Make appointments for hearing, sleep study, vet. Keep track of plans for Rock City (Friday?) and Disney. Drive white car together; practice solo driving. Work on staying home solo when dark.
11. Medical: YMCA classes. Lift @ lunch. Maintain @ 155 w defined muscle tone. At 189, 1pr black 1pr white leggings; purple All-Stars. 179, 2 Svaha Rachel dresses. 169 suit - Indochino? 159 swing dance lessons. Talk to PCP about feet (cannot do calf raises, pushups, planks, mountain climbers, etc.) Also back and shoulder pain. Why can’t I sleep better? Is ADHD a possible factor? ADHD testing Aug 10 2P and Aug 15 2P. Therapy Wed Jun 21 3P. Dentist April 19 11a. Biometric Th Aug 24 9AM. Annual exam Oct 11 9A check calendar; ask about migraines? Massage Aug 19 6P. Need to RS colonoscopy and check on ADHD testing.
13. Therapy thoughts: Prioritizing is hard. There is so much that feels important. I need to talk to my parents about end-of-life plans (particularly funeral arrangements) and I'm not sure how to go about it. I do somewhat trust that they are capable of deciding when they need assisted living but should probably offer help in finding out what sort of place would be best BEFORE it actually becomes necessary.
14. Just for fun: Start sketching dragon on a pile of books, offering one to the armored knight, & banner that reads "Treasure should not be hoarded / It should be shared." Use AI for ideas.
WFTY: Priorities. Friday was another good day and I'm so pleased!2020 WFTY: Progress. 2021 WFTY: Persistence. 2022 WFTY: Focus.0 -
Trying to get back into healthy eating habits this week. I’ve been making bad choices lately and been paying the price for it.0
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more_freggies76 wrote: »JFT for 8/21/2023 (today)✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).
3) No peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)
4) Don't weigh again until Monday, 8/21
5) Up to 2.0 oz hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/14). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.
8) No beef jerky today.
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)
11) Only 1 ice drink today.
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)
13) Snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).
Hour commitment - I won't eat again until after 12 pm.================== 4DW started =============
4DWs (4 Day Wins) are here, in a shared file:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1zarlETHtkiVUD1O6BKpHA7GCNFJS8IdF/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=108259155343870939869&rtpof=true&sd=true
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »@emgracewrites - I hope things settle soon. I know too we’ll how that type of stress makes you ill.
@pridesabtch - are you looking forward to an empty nest?
Empty nest hasn't really kicked in yet. We've been really busy. Tonight will be the first night we will be home since we dropped V off. I have a feeling it will be sad...1 -
Hour commitment - I won't eat again until after 5 pm. None of the same foods at dinner as at lunch. Can still have my dose of metamusal.0
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I will walk around the block, walk at least 5000 steps, track my food to the best of my ability and eat small portions of meals that are prepared by other people so I don't have to ask about what they fed me. If I am hungry, I will fill up on fruit. I will drink lots of water.2
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JFT for 8/22/2023 (tomorrow)✔️more_freggies76 wrote: »JFT for 8/21/2023 (today)✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.✔️
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).✔️
3) No peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)✔️
4) Don't weigh again until Monday, 8/21✔️
5) Up to 2.0 oz hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/14). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.✔️
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)✔️
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.✔️
8) No beef jerky today.✔️
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)✔️
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)✔️Didn't eat today.
11) Only 1 ice drink today.✔️
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)✔️
13) Snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).
3) Peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)
4) Don't weigh again until Thursday, 8/24
5) No hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/21). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.
8) No beef jerky today.
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)
11) Only 1 ice drink today.
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)
13) No snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).
Hour commitment - I won't eat again until tomorrow.================== 4DW started =============
4DWs (4 Day Wins) are here, in a shared file:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1zarlETHtkiVUD1O6BKpHA7GCNFJS8IdF/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=108259155343870939869&rtpof=true&sd=true
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JFT Tuesday - no treats after dinner!
1. Elliptical if possible. Can't bike to school until I have room for the bike in the room. Check that all files have transferred. Also need to ask what to do about Ss who continue to take their phones out; what is the appropriate response if I ask them to turn them in to me & they refuse? send student to office??? needs to be IMMEDIATE follow-up. Also, where do I find the dress code?
2. Continue putting files in cabinet.
3. In class: get folio, set up name cards. Begin with finishing NRI work from yesterday and continuing with practice. Lesson on subordinate conjunctions. Journal 4. Call students BY TABLE to put portfolios away and then SIT BACK DOWN. All students should be seated until I call their names to be dismissed.
4. Planning - Check grades for Awa. Enter grades. Meet with Ss with significant behavior markers. Continue parent calls; focus on Ps with no email. Send welcome email and mark replies.
5. Choose texts for benchmark; begin building exam. Craft booklets for gift. Need to pick up frame with mat and booklet covers; take pens to rehearsal.
6. Check in with union members. How did we develop "an army of subs" before???
7. Create sheets with members names & contact info - including room locations!
8. Evening: Rehearsal. Dinner: Soup. Drink more water. No, more. Keep the pitcher in the fridge full. You're not actually hungry. Make some tea. Drink more water!
9. Bedtime: Gratitude journal. Update IG. Therapy exercises: crunches, push-ups, squats, ankle lifts, box jumps, plank. Meds. Floss, rinse, brush teeth. Update JFT.
10. Upcoming: Set up digital portfolio. Get elastic for shoes & take to shoe repair. Discuss Clois & Stuffy. Check in w parents regularly. Get stamps! Need to rs testing to after primary visit so it doesn't get mis-billed AGAIN. Need to return the Dolly wig. Need to turn in receipts. Need to return/renew library books. Need to script and shoot videos. Need to write blog posts. NEED TO GRADE JOURNALS!! Honestly I would also like to re-craft my school necklace and make a few bracelets with round beads. And I need to head in a little early once my bulletin board is mounted and we get the car back so that I can shoot my new-room video.
Scale goals
End of 2017: 174.6
End of 2018: 189.2
End of 2019: 196.4
End of 2020: 187.4
End of 2021: 194.4
End of 2022: 201.2
Today: 200.2
Long-term goals/progress
1. Professional / read current research. 2. Professional / present at conferences. 3. Professional / publish scholarly articles. 4. Professional / observe student needs and develop supports. 5. Professional / complete a doctorate. 6. Personal / retire comfortably. 7. Personal / renovate house. 8. Community / local progress. 9. Community / time with friends & family. 10. Family concerns. 11. Medical/fitness.
1. Research: Five paragraph essay. How student attitudes affect standardized test results; student surveys.
2. Presenting: Promote YT channel. Invite guests. Record mini-lessons.
3. Publishing: Read one journal article weekly; respond in a blog post. Clois for CWG. S&F for YT channel. Goodreads purchase list for McKay’s. Weekly blog series: Weekly Wishes (Monday) and Weekly Wins (Friday).
4. Observed student needs: Changing words between parts of speech (vocabulary/grammar). Synthesizing info from multiple sources, drawing conclusions (RI/W). EFFECTIVE transitions (W). Every day v everyday; any one v anyone (grammar). Sub/obj pronouns & structure (grammar). Poss v pl nouns (grammar). Short nonfic from Lat Amer/Africa/Asia (World Lit).
5. Doctorate: Research programs, requirements, resources, cost, timeline.
6. Retirement: Update name on JSSB acct. Check investments. Theater CV. Entertainment experience. Duolingo/Lang8.
7. House: Floor joists. Siding. Gutters. Floors.
8. Local progress: Library. Theater. PC2V. City/county govt. Community kitchen. She Should Run vision statement. Ed assoc. Ugly Christmas sweater. Prison abolition; reduce / re-allocate responsibilities dumped on cops. Push for diversity. Turn left!
9. Friends & extended family: Organize photos. Write postcards. Call weekly! Look for activities to do with friends. Purchase doll with long hair; practice French braid. Dance: tap, salsa, samba. Rhythm nation.
10. Immediate family: Clean room; work toward sleeping in room. Clean up behind desk. Make appointments for hearing, sleep study, vet. Keep track of plans for Rock City (Friday?) and Disney. Drive white car together; practice solo driving. Work on staying home solo when dark.
11. Medical: YMCA classes. Lift @ lunch. Maintain @ 155 w defined muscle tone. At 194, purple All-Stars. 189, 1pr black 1pr white leggings. 179, 2 Svaha Rachel dresses. 169 suit - Indochino? 159 swing dance lessons. Talk to PCP about feet (cannot do calf raises, pushups, planks, mountain climbers, etc.) Also back and shoulder pain. Why can’t I sleep better? Therapy Wed Jun 21 3P. Dentist April 19 11a. Biometric Th Aug 24 9AM. Annual exam Oct 11 9A check calendar; ask about migraines? Massage Aug 19 6P. Need to RS colonoscopy and check on ADHD testing.
13. Therapy thoughts: Prioritizing is hard. There is so much that feels important. I need to talk to my parents about end-of-life plans (particularly funeral arrangements) and I'm not sure how to go about it. I do somewhat trust that they are capable of deciding when they need assisted living but should probably offer help in finding out what sort of place would be best BEFORE it actually becomes necessary.
14. Just for fun: Start sketching dragon on a pile of books, offering one to the armored knight, & banner that reads "Treasure should not be hoarded / It should be shared." Use AI for ideas.
WFTY: Priorities. Yesterday (Monday) wasn't a BAD day, by any stretch of the imagination, but... my students are less willing to give me grace than I'm used to. They come in with the mindset that the time taken up by class is about compliance rather than learning, and many of them aren't particularly keen on compliance.2020 WFTY: Progress. 2021 WFTY: Persistence. 2022 WFTY: Focus.1 -
Michele's death followed by taking my little one to college has blown a hole in my world. My drinking and eating have both been out of control. I made a change yesterday, I signed up with a coach from a program called Adult Onset Athletes, hoping he can get me back to consistent exercise and into running form by April. Michele and I ran together at the Cooper River Bridge Run a few years ago and then did the 1/2 century the following day on the bikes. It was hard, but a good time. I want to revisit those memories. Though I hope it will be a tad warmer next year than it was the year we ran.
Tomorrow I have a root canal scheduled. Not looking forward to that, but I do get to sleep in a bit.
Goals for today:
- Be kind to myself
- Do some work things
- Dinner with friends (limit drinks)
- Bed by 10:001 -
more_freggies76 wrote: »JFT for 8/22/2023 (today)✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).
3) Peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)
4) Don't weigh again until Thursday, 8/24
5) No hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/21). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.
8) No beef jerky today.
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)
11) Only 1 ice drink today.
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)
13) No snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).
Hour commitment - I won't eat again until after 12 pm.================== 4DW started =============
4DWs (4 Day Wins) are here, in a shared file:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1zarlETHtkiVUD1O6BKpHA7GCNFJS8IdF/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=108259155343870939869&rtpof=true&sd=true
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I had a notification from MFP today. It said "7 years of My Fitness Pal. Your commitment has lasted longer than most marriages."
😂Awkwaaaard.
Anyway, took the kids to the museum today. It was good but i got really annoyed when I found out that you had to pay for the exhibition I wanted to take the kids to. (The digestive system one).
I wouldn't have minded if I had known before hand, I wouldn't have got the kids all excited about it but dropping a £45 price tag on us is not something I was prepared for. So no poo-hat pics unfortunately! But we all still had a really really good time.
I did want to ask a parenting question for the more wiser lot.
Marleys 7. And she just makes racist comments but not intentionally, like she doesn't know it's racist for starters. And she's merely commenting on her surroundings but I don't know how to approach the situation.
For context, we got the bus today. About a 40 minute journey. It's a busy bus route so naturally there were lots of people on the bus, and it was very multicultural. At one point Marley starts saying something and I can't make it out so I asked her to repeat herself twice. To which she raised her voice so I could hear and said, "This bus is like an Indian bus".. then she turns around and said "Look at everyone!".
I didn't handle it the best.. I didn't shout but I just told her to "shut her mouth. And don't say things like that." I then went beet red. Ash asked.me what she had said because he was sat separately and I just said "I can't repeat it out loud. It was just something very silly.".
Everyone seemed okay about it. And I got the "it's okay" look from everyone but Jesus Christ. They don't put this sorta stuff in the parenting books.
After the bus ride. I took Marley to one side and explained properly..but how do you even explain racism to a kid?0 -
I had a notification from MFP today. It said "7 years of My Fitness Pal. Your commitment has lasted longer than most marriages."
😂Awkwaaaard.
Anyway, took the kids to the museum today. It was good but i got really annoyed when I found out that you had to pay for the exhibition I wanted to take the kids to. (The digestive system one).
I wouldn't have minded if I had known before hand, I wouldn't have got the kids all excited about it but dropping a £45 price tag on us is not something I was prepared for. So no poo-hat pics unfortunately! But we all still had a really really good time.
I did want to ask a parenting question for the more wiser lot.
Marleys 7. And she just makes racist comments but not intentionally, like she doesn't know it's racist for starters. And she's merely commenting on her surroundings but I don't know how to approach the situation.
For context, we got the bus today. About a 40 minute journey. It's a busy bus route so naturally there were lots of people on the bus, and it was very multicultural. At one point Marley starts saying something and I can't make it out so I asked her to repeat herself twice. To which she raised her voice so I could hear and said, "This bus is like an Indian bus".. then she turns around and said "Look at everyone!".
I didn't handle it the best.. I didn't shout but I just told her to "shut her mouth. And don't say things like that." I then went beet red. Ash asked.me what she had said because he was sat separately and I just said "I can't repeat it out loud. It was just something very silly.".
Everyone seemed okay about it. And I got the "it's okay" look from everyone but Jesus Christ. They don't put this sorta stuff in the parenting books.
After the bus ride. I took Marley to one side and explained properly..but how do you even explain racism to a kid?
Well Bex, racism is a hard one. We live in a very "white" state, where there were only a few people of color in the schools or in the community. I just tried to tell the kids that it's ok & normal to notice differences in people, but people aren't always happy when you point those differences out. If you need to describe someone who is of a different race, its ok to say they are a person of color, but it is just as effective to tell me they are wearing a yellow shirt.0 -
Hour Commitment - I won't eat again until after 5 pm. None of the same foods at dinner as at lunch. Can still have my dose of metamusal.0
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more_freggies76 wrote: »JFT for 8/22/2023 (today)✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.✔️
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).✔️
3) Peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)✔️Didn't eat today.
4) Don't weigh again until Thursday, 8/24✔️
5) No hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/21). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.✔️
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)✔️
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.✔️
8) No beef jerky today.✔️
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)✔️
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)✔️Didn't eat today.
11) Only 1 ice drink today.✔️
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)✔️
13) No snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).✔️
JFT for 8/23/2023 (tomorrow)✔️
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).
3) Peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)
4) Don't weigh again until Thursday, 8/24
5) Up to 2.0 oz hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/21). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.
8) No beef jerky today.
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)
11) Only 1 ice drink today.
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)
13) Snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).
Hour commitment - I won't eat again until tomorrow.================== 4DW started =============
4DWs (4 Day Wins) are here, in a shared file:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1zarlETHtkiVUD1O6BKpHA7GCNFJS8IdF/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=108259155343870939869&rtpof=true&sd=true
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I won't go over my calories unless I'm hungry, and if I'm hungry, I will eat fruit.0
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@pridesabtch - I think you need to give yourself some grace. You’ve had a tough few weeks m, with a new job on top of it all.
@Bex953172 - I think every parent finds themselves in your situation at one time or other. She probably wasn’t being racist, just pointing out how many there were on the bus.
My MIL is fond of telling us about my DH saying a man was dirty when he was little. She said she wished the ground would have opened up and swallowed her.
Our daughter kept pointing out a man’s huge nose. It was the brother of the man that raised my MIL. The more I tried to tell her to be quiet the louder she got.
I think a quiet conversation at home about what is appropriate and what isn’t would be helpful.
I am going to be away for a week starting tomorrow so I’ll start back on here next week again.
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pridesabtch wrote: »I had a notification from MFP today. It said "7 years of My Fitness Pal. Your commitment has lasted longer than most marriages."
😂Awkwaaaard.
Anyway, took the kids to the museum today. It was good but i got really annoyed when I found out that you had to pay for the exhibition I wanted to take the kids to. (The digestive system one).
I wouldn't have minded if I had known before hand, I wouldn't have got the kids all excited about it but dropping a £45 price tag on us is not something I was prepared for. So no poo-hat pics unfortunately! But we all still had a really really good time.
I did want to ask a parenting question for the more wiser lot.
Marleys 7. And she just makes racist comments but not intentionally, like she doesn't know it's racist for starters. And she's merely commenting on her surroundings but I don't know how to approach the situation.
For context, we got the bus today. About a 40 minute journey. It's a busy bus route so naturally there were lots of people on the bus, and it was very multicultural. At one point Marley starts saying something and I can't make it out so I asked her to repeat herself twice. To which she raised her voice so I could hear and said, "This bus is like an Indian bus".. then she turns around and said "Look at everyone!".
I didn't handle it the best.. I didn't shout but I just told her to "shut her mouth. And don't say things like that." I then went beet red. Ash asked.me what she had said because he was sat separately and I just said "I can't repeat it out loud. It was just something very silly.".
Everyone seemed okay about it. And I got the "it's okay" look from everyone but Jesus Christ. They don't put this sorta stuff in the parenting books.
After the bus ride. I took Marley to one side and explained properly..but how do you even explain racism to a kid?
Well Bex, racism is a hard one. We live in a very "white" state, where there were only a few people of color in the schools or in the community. I just tried to tell the kids that it's ok & normal to notice differences in people, but people aren't always happy when you point those differences out. If you need to describe someone who is of a different race, its ok to say they are a person of color, but it is just as effective to tell me they are wearing a yellow shirt.
Yes it's not the first time. Where we lived previously it was a predominantly white area. There was maybe one or two black/again kids in her class. But when we moved to where we are now the classroom was very multicultural. I think she was only five? But she said "I don't want to play with the brown girls".. to the teacher. So they asked me about that and I had to explain that she hasn't even seen black people before.
But thank you for your advice. And yeah I get the t-shirt thing lol that makes alot of sense. I might try use that to explain to Marley.
Also thank you @Snowflake1968 for the advice. Yep I wanted to die on the bus. If I didn't get the "its okay" look I probably would of cried lol. Public embarrassment is the worst lol not like I could get off the bus 😂1 -
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more_freggies76 wrote: »JFT for 8/23/2023 (today)
1) No dessert today, unless I want sugarfree or no sugar added.
2) None of DH's stash today (including candy, peeps, ice cream, bagels, frozen cookies) and no more of the cookies from the picnic (gave to DH).
3) Peanut butter ok today, 2.5 to 3 T (last 8/17)
4) Don't weigh again until Thursday, 8/24
5) Up to 2.0 oz hard cheese today (trying not to have cheese everyday) (last 8/21). Note: some grated parmigiana cheese has always been allowed and doesn't count towards hard cheese. Hard cheese at restaurant ok. Can have cheese with restaurant meals.
6) No honey today(1-3 Tbsp.). (last) (a little in honey mustard ok)(last 7/17)
7) Nuts ok (22-30 g) or 12-14 in-the-shell nuts. Some of fruit stand mixed nuts ok.
8) No beef jerky today.
9) No chicken Vienna sausage ok today (trying not to have higher sodium stuff everyday)(last 7/30)
10) Sweet potato and/or pumpkin ok today. (last 8/18)
11) Only 1 ice drink today.
12) A few tic-tacs as needed everyday. (No max for now, unless it's a problem)
13) Snappeas ok today (no more than 2 servings).
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