WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024

Good afternoon my friends.
I had a good day at the bank getting things changed around. Now I've got a pot of chili simmering away. I was watching the geese wobble about outside like soldiers in a field. Now they have disappeared. Must be a stealth mission, usually they are very loud at takeoff.

Well it's a quiet afternoon here. I need to either find something productive to do, or just take a nap. I think we have rain coming which makes me feel subdued.

Hope you all have a good day!

Annie in Delaware

Hope ya'll are having a good day

Hopefully i got the right 2 pictures of mr Miles at daycare,they got eggs from the chickens this morning..I went back to sleep for a bit and then got dressed..
I love watching all creatures on PBS
Ordered the Real James Herriot a memoir of my father..
So I will start reading that tonight.

Anniesquats100 wrote: »

Good morning ladies!

Machka decision making is different in every family. Maybe I'm biased because both my mother and father had dementia. My mother was diagnosed Alzheimer's but my father is not diagnosed. My father also has undiagnosed depression which may fade as he grieves. But he between that and his hearing, he needs help with decisions. I guess there are very few cases where the patient is totally capable or the family is totally informed and unbiased. Everything is a compromise.

We are going to the bank today to wade through paperwork.

Everyone have a marvelous day!

Annie in Delaware

Agreed. And those are some of the points I have been arguing/discussing during these consultations.

It's not a clear-cut, black and white issue.

M in Oz

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Kylia - I have completed an Advance Directive to state my wishes if I am no longer able to speak for myself. My doctor has a copy and both my sons. I do not wish for any medical intervention if I am not expected to make a complete recovery. That includes antibiotics. Of course, I hope to be able to make my own decisions for as long as possible. That includes not going into a home. I also support and campaign for assisted dying for terminal illness, and incurable suffering. I'm with you.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

I'm aiming for the letter from the King! 😀

Pip Love it!

@Snowflake1968
Your Birthday Card is beautiful.

@Machka9
Stunning Little Bibi

@kymarai
Migraines. Don't get me started. I'm so tired of treatments that don't work, and now I'm out of medicine till I go back and see the neurologist again. He was suggesting Botox last time I was there. I'll let you know if/when I go. I'm pretty stubborn about not wanting to go to doctor's appointments.

Thank you for the insight, I hear Mt. Dew is even higher in caffeine than Dr. Pepper in, which is supposed to be 25% higher than Coke according to someone on one of my other feeds.

@bwcetc
I am trying to keep up, but I guess you're right. I should worry more about checking-in. 😟

More on Elder Care note: I would have put this next part as a spoiler, but I don't know how.
After reading many of these posts, I had been waiting to weigh-in on the topic of managed end-of-life care. and after reading your post, I decided this was a good place to put it in.

I have a 97-year-old grandmother who now seems to be waiting to die and has already said, "No," to some simple procedures. I think she is saying no because she is scared of dying from something small. She has recently developed a large marble sized lump just under the jaw area, above her neck. She says she doesn't want to do anything about it. One of her other granddaughters recently died while going in for a port cleaning of her dialysis equipment and breathing equipment. (I hope that makes sense, I am not an expert on all that was wrong with her, and sometimes I'm like, "What's a port, and how is she talking with a breathing tube?") Anyway, Grandma says, "I know it's coming; I'm just not going to worry about it." In reality, I think she's more worried about it than she's ever been, now that my cousin has died.

I just hope I make sense at age 97, and we are all hoping she makes it to 100. We're talking it up to her, and keeping her spirits high. However, no one plans to prolong her life just so she can reach 100. I'm not arguing with her about her lump; it's her lump. She's a big girl, she's had a few mini strokes, she knows what's up. However, it does not mean that we'll let anything go. We all want her around as long as possible, but it's her choice.

My mother on the other hand, and I've talked here before about her craziness and her less than motherly behavior, is out of her mind. She is not rational, and does not make good decisions for herself. My cousin goes to her appointments with her, and talks to her doctor. My sister used to go with her when she was alive; that wasn't productive since they both were concerned about how many drugs they could get and what type. Right now, my cousin keeps a close eye on my mother's drug use. She needs creative care. Someone who can outsmart her. Example (No lectures here; we keep medical personnel in the loop, so no killing the messenger; just sharing an experience): One day, she was complaining about how she "might" just die and no one would care if she took too many pills. (Again, we got this.) Of course, all her pills are locked up, and she gets her meds like she would in the hospital. So, little chance of her doing anything about it, right? My cousin then tells her that she can't die from any of the pills she is taking, she can only get sick: and wouldn't you know it she reaches over takes out several pills that she had squirreled away and says, "Fine, you might as well take these then."

OMGosh! She is just so difficult. This is a woman who doesn't not need to be making her own choices. I'm all for end of life rights, truly I am, but half the time she does things and turns around a week later and says she would never do a thing like that. Once you're dead, you're dead; there's no coming back later and saying that's not what you meant. So, I my feelings are mixed. If I understand the Australian law correctly, having only read about it here, I think it may be too one sided. And, maybe the US laws are too permissive. Further, what about those who want assisted passing due to long term illness or for any reason for that matter? I don't have the answer, just more questions.

@sh0tzz99
Your weather is coming my way. Soon to be soaking wet here in NV too. 😊

@Anniesquats100
Chili; Yummy!

I've pretty well got over the soda addition at this point. I'm not as miserable now, but my insomnia is back. While getting off the soda, I slept more than I had in recent years. I thought maybe my insomnia was related to my soda intake, but here I am...up again. It's okay; I like to type at night. I hadn't been able to work my way to getting through all the posts during my detox either. Next is to get off sugar as much as possible, I think that I'm not just affected by soda but the sugar too.

I know I didn't get to everyone, but I'm still learning how to manage that. I'll get to more later.

Michelle in NV (Where we should be having rain at 2:00PM is CA leaves us any.)

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Love your doodles Rita! That would make a lovely tea towel. Or silk scarf. I would wear it!

John's passport hasn't arrived yet, but the day is not over.

Zoom went well. My friend B has a stepdaughter in Edinburgh, and they went over there to stay the night and babysit the dog and teenager. They found a very dirty, very, very untidy house, which stank of dog. Her husband wrote a careful email afterwards, but there doesn't seem to be much reaction. Difficult to know what to do in those circumstances. Not good for the teenager.

Love you all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Thank you very much Heather! I never thought to make a scarf out of it! I think I’ll look into that! I pondered cards but didn’t decide until I read your post this morning! Sounds like a good thing to do! I was my first try at that kind of thing. I was happy with it and may try something like it again!

Love,
RVRita

Having trouble posting in February, checking if I can post here.