WOMEN AGES 50+FOR MAY 2024

kevrit · May 19

Today is Devil’s Food Cake day!! And some info on Praia.

RVRita at Bottomless Lakes

cityjaneLondon · May 19

Lisa - Nothing more crushing to the spirit than a bad marriage. Or even an indifferent marriage. They do say our happiness depends on the five people we are the most close to, so choose your mate and your friends carefully. I hung on to my marriage for far too long. It quite literally is 'soul-destroying '. Life is not a dress rehearsal. Carpe diem. The only mystery to me is, why do we stay so long? And far too many of us do

John went out and bought a few red pelargoniums for our outside pot, and put them in yesterday. He bought the trailing type, but I'm sure it's all fine. I wasn't about to look a gift horse in the mouth. Our lettuce and arugula are sprouting happily in the pots. I just give the orders!

I have a phone call with my friend L at 4 pm. Then put the duck legs in to roast. We've been so fishy recently! Having them with mushy peas and sprouting broccoli. Then stewed apricots.

I had a huge Amazon delivery today. Nearly all things for my health before the op. Cranberry juice, spray unperfumed deodorant, (not allowed to use roll on!), gentle laxative, foot file, etc. I've got to use antiseptic shower gel for 5 days, and nostril cream, and wear clean clothes every day!

Tomorrow is my in person check over. Bloods, MRSA etc.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

1948CWB · May 19

dlfk202000 · May 19

Good morning from these cuties
They are doing great-haven't seen the other two that the neighbor says are out there.

Up early, fed all the cats in the bedroom and the one in the kitchen then the kittens in the living room. Put them in the big tote to eat while I cleaned their playpen out. I had planned on having them sleep in the tote again last night where they have been sleeping but they were all cozy in the little cat bed in their playpen so I let them sleep.

Church this morning then need to go to Walgreens to pick up an order(laundry soap 4/$10, bought 8). Going through a LOT of it with all the washable pee pads between the kittens(their playpen is lined with them) and the old momma cat that doesn't use a litter box anymore, just the pads and she goes through a LOT of them daily. Then to FoodMaxx- need chicken to cook for the cats and maybe some for me along with some ribs that dh wants. We picked up some marinate yesterday that he wants to try.

Ordered the galvanized raised beds from Amazon yesterday- half price so only $19.99- ordered 4 so will be moving pots, cleaning that area up and setting up the new raised beds this week. Not as deep as the pots I have been using but these will look so much nicer than the black pots. I will still use them just not right up front.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C1SN6ZWC?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1

Going to make another cup of tea and catch up here then get ready for church. Have one hour until I need to leave.

Debbie
Napa Valley,CA

SophieRosieMom · May 19

Beth - wow, what an ordeal with your mom. Sadly astounding at how goofed up the medical system was. Sending big hugs and hope your knee feels better.

Annie - hugs to you as well. Lots of good ideas being shared here about how to best deal with your dad. If you were to find a buyer for his car, would he be able to sign the title over to someone if it's in his name?

Ginny - sorry to hear about your brother, glad you were able to have dinner with him. My DH's delirium was a shocker - I'm guessing he had a UTI which got getter on its own, but that episode did make his memory loss a bit worse overall.

They say this getting old isn't for sissies and I agree!!

Lisa - so happy things are working out well for Patrick and you are getting to know him better and enjoying him. Corey is and will be a good influence on him. Nice to have a couple like minded brothers when it's time to get things done around your place.

Oh, and I was going to comment - someone in my neighborhood decided to do a sneaky garbage/plastic burn early yesterday morning.

. Hope someone spoke to them about it, it used to happen a lot up until a few years ago. The air settles and the burn can be 1/2 mile away and we still get the stench.

Rita - thanks for sharing your food list, I can use it. Love that your husband is such a wonderful cook. Does he make up recipes, have years of experience and/or just looks things up on the internet a lot? I wouldn't get along with the high temperatures you are having. Sorry about your allergies, pollen is bad here too.

Debbie - those kittens are too cute. You are such a great kitty mom.

Nice deal on those galvanized planters - how did you get them at half price?

Reminder - Weekly check-in tomorrow.

Lanette

SW WA State

GodMomKim · May 19

Hi Gals,

Heather – I wasn’t familiar with kedgeree so looked it up, it looked good but never remembered seeing smoked haddock at a store near me – some goggling and it has to be ordered at a pretty high price, it would be a very special occasion food at my house. The only smoked fish I could find locally is salmon.

Lisa – so delighted to hear how wonderfully it is working out with Patrick.

Rita – you do such a great job of figuring out what you need to be healthy and making it happen – you are inspiring.

Allie – you can do this! Baby steps. No one gets out of shape and heavier than they want to be overnight and we don’t get to our ideal weight and in shape quick, it all takes time.

Eating out - Always been a treat in my world, but it is so expensive. I get that things have gone up for restaurants but is really gotten crazy. I am thankful I can and like to cook.

Annie - there may not be a down payment in your area. But that and the length of the waiting list were eye openers for me.

Someone asked how I figured out which care facility was good. I did a few things, goggled it with the name of the place and reviews, name of the place and complaints, checked Facebook, especially looking for comments that were not from the staff of the place. Looked up heath department info. They are all licensed – is it in good standing. Called do they answer? Do they return calls? Then was a tour, if and made sure to “need” the bathroom some where away from the main entrance, I was looking for upkeep and cleanliness and I wanted to see everything… they have a beauty salon, can I see it? They have a gym can I see it? Asked everyone I could think of what they knew about the senior living locations. Of course, eliminating as I went. Then I found a place to park nearby and watched. Did folks coming and going seem happy, were residents getting outside, and did staff wear uniforms or could I recognize a couple of them. Then if I saw them going to any of the stores locally, I followed them and got in line or starting looking at something near them and struck up a conversation. Folks love to talk and if they have stuff to complain about regarding the place they work it doesn’t take long to get them to tell you. It is a research project, but it is hard enough to move a senior once, I knew I did not want to do it twice.

Thinking of you all,
Kim in N. California

Snowflake1968 · May 19

Terri - how true about how fast the grands grow, I think it’s faster than our children truthfully. I’m really noticing it with Jonah, he will be 13 on our birthday this year.

Heather - that’s a good rule, we don’t go out very often, I think this was the first time since last summer. I don’t particularly care for pizza in restaurants anymore, I prefer my own. I can’t get a burger to taste the way that burger at the truck stop in NB tastes. I have been thinking about it and maybe it’s the beef that’s different. Funny how it all works.

Lisa - it’s wonderful that you’ve gotten to know the true Patrick over the last few days. It sounds like he’s getting to know himself too.

Annie - hugs to you. Such a hard situation you are in.

Kim - that’s some thorough investigating. We don’t have many options here, but even private ones are regulated by the government.
I also found that the families that complained the loudest about anything were also the ones that just blew in, listened to every complaint that their loved one with dementia said, didn’t investigate for truth or not and then didn’t visit again for weeks or months. I don’t think that people with dementia and Alzheimer’s lie, their reality is just different. My Mom tells me my brother moved “up the hill in town” every time we talk, he has never moved. I just go along with her and tell her I hope he’s settled in.
Even with all of my complaints as an employee there, I would put my mom there because I know they take very good care of the residents and have their best interests at heart. I wouldn’t move my mom though, she is happy and content where she is and it would be unfair to move her at this stage.

Michaela has been asking me every 10 minutes when we can go swimming. It is quite cold out today and I’m sorry we are going, it will be cold coming out.

We may leave a little early to go buy her a hoodie, she didn’t bring anything to wear that is warm. She looked at the weather and thought it would be warm.
We are having homemade pizza for supper.

I may buy a cake for dessert.
Tracey in Edmonton.

exermom · May 19

Remember those four kittens I was telling you about that the vet found? Well, a few weeks ago we had asked Jess to be on the lookout for orange male cats (she volunteers at a shelter – something to do with helping to pay her student loans). Anyway, she called and wanted to facetime with Vince (huh?). It seems that they had 2 male orange kittens and she knows Vince is a real softie. One part of me feels bad because we committed to taking 4 kittens from the vet, but the other part of me feels bad telling Jess “thanks, but no thanks, we know you went out of your way”. So...what we’re going to do is take 2 cats from the vet and those 2 orange ones. Vince is sure that when he explains things to the vet’s office, they’ll understand. Jess thinks we can take all 6, but I don’t think so.

Debbie – thanks for the link about the raised beds. A gardener I am not, but I wonder if something like that wouldn’t work for the rebar that we have for the christmas decorations. I gotta run it by Vince, if it would be sturdy enough. It doesn’t look like it has any kind of bottom, but we might be able to make something that’ll do. Maybe?????

Going to cut the grass (what did I tell you? Only we won’t do a complete job, just enough so that when we come back we aren’t coming back to a jungle.)

Michele NC

LisaInArkansas · May 19

Hey guys,

I'm back inside for the afternoon, too warm here already at 1 p.m. for me to work outside. That's OK, I got plenty done, including mowing the couple acres right around the house, front and back. I can get out and mow the other two acres tomorrow after the sun comes up and dries the dew, and before it gets too hot.

Before I mowed, I cleared the last patch beside one of the sheds that had gotten grown up. 60 minutes, 360 calories. Pleased with that. Even at only 75 to 80 degrees, with 80 percent humidity, I was literally dripping with sweat. I lost two pounds just from sweating - and I drank more than 24 ounces of fluid before, during and after!

Annie - Just for you, a picture of my boys this morning. Patrick's smile is the one blazing out on the left, which you probably knew from various pics of Corey I've posted in years past. I think he's 52 or 53. Corey's really looking forward to having him helping out at work. He's been asking for that kind of help for some time.

They should be back in another hour or two. It's been a really busy weekend for us. I'm calling it good - talking to y'all, watching TV and chilling.

Lanette, Tracey, Kim and everyone who commented--I'm ordinarily an optimist, but definitely wasn't in this instance. It was such a pleasure to to be wrong in what kind of person Patrick really is. I didn't know how much I didn't know about the man. So pleased, since he's staying in the area, that it all turned out better than I thought it would.

Heather - Part of me wonders why I didn't leave sooner from my first marriage, but I have no regrets... I think was living, too, that in that same "quiet desperation." I didn't think enough of myself to believe I was worth more. I left when I was mentally and emotionally ready--I don't think I would have been ready for who Corey was had I left any earlier.

Warm hugs and kind words to those who need them.

Love,
Lisa in AR

dlfk202000 · May 19

SophieRosieMom wrote: »

Beth - wow, what an ordeal with your mom. Sadly astounding at how goofed up the medical system was. Sending big hugs and hope your knee feels better.

Annie - hugs to you as well. Lots of good ideas being shared here about how to best deal with your dad. If you were to find a buyer for his car, would he be able to sign the title over to someone if it's in his name?

Ginny - sorry to hear about your brother, glad you were able to have dinner with him. My DH's delirium was a shocker - I'm guessing he had a UTI which got getter on its own, but that episode did make his memory loss a bit worse overall.

They say this getting old isn't for sissies and I agree!!

Lisa - so happy things are working out well for Patrick and you are getting to know him better and enjoying him. Corey is and will be a good influence on him. Nice to have a couple like minded brothers when it's time to get things done around your place. Oh, and I was going to comment - someone in my neighborhood decided to do a sneaky garbage/plastic burn early yesterday morning. . Hope someone spoke to them about it, it used to happen a lot up until a few years ago. The air settles and the burn can be 1/2 mile away and we still get the stench.

Rita - thanks for sharing your food list, I can use it. Love that your husband is such a wonderful cook. Does he make up recipes, have years of experience and/or just looks things up on the internet a lot? I wouldn't get along with the high temperatures you are having. Sorry about your allergies, pollen is bad here too.

Debbie - those kittens are too cute. You are such a great kitty mom. Nice deal on those galvanized planters - how did you get them at half price?

Reminder - Weekly check-in tomorrow.

Lanette
SW WA State

they were on sale for half price- not sure if they still are but that was just yesterday- delivery is today.

ginnytez · May 19

Good afternoon all:

Beautiful day here. Close to 80 right now. Went for 2 mile walk and was happy I did not get overheated like before they changed meds last summer. I was sweating some by the end-but not drenched.

Annie-I'm sure if you let a couple of your dad's friends at church know that you will be dropping him off they will keep an eye out for him and see he gets home. How far is the church from your house? Would it be possible for you to drop him off and then walk there and walk back home with him?

Margaret-I hope your friend has a peaceful passing. You gave her daughter good advice-they do say hearing is last to go.

Allie-good luck with Trulicity.

Lisa-so happy to see you discovered your real BIL.

Debbie-you seem to know all things cats-one of mine (maybe both) has taken to wetting on the floor in the room the litter boxes are in. I will admit-I had left some papers on the floors and that is where they peed. It doesn't seem to be every day. I have two boxes for them. I ordered new ones today and they will have a third. They will sometimes meow when going to bathroom. They are both close to 15. Any ideas?

Kim-excellent research. I know my SIL housemate got placed in a facility with a good reputation and it didn't live up to it.

Tracey-you are correct about fly by visits and complaints from relatives. Once dementia sets in it is taught to tell what is right and not-you have to be there to observe.

Brother Update:

Brother slept last night. He is having a quiet day today (which means he is not having phone conversations with no phone and no one on the other end. Biggest episode is they had to go outside to wait for a ride related to my SIL cancer (which she does not have-one of his discussions with God revolved around that). I called to see how things were going. He talked with me briefly. A rather halting conversation on his end. Could not understand some of it. Wanted to know how I was doing (like we haven't seen each other for some time). Wanted to know if I needed him and SIL to help with anything. Don't know if this episode is running down or not. I hope MRI sheds light on sudden change and perhaps there is something that can help some of his symptoms.

Off to work on ironing and a couple of things for work. Have gotten some random cleaning done today (and some unexpected because of kitties).

Take care all,

Ginny in Ohio

AnnaDaRosa · May 19

Hi! This is my first-time using myfitnesspal, but I have tried other apparently and programs before. I am 53 and a mon of 3. My boys are all grown and on their own, but I have a 12 year old daughter still at home. I really want to set a positive example for her of being healthy and confident.
I also have diabetes and have struggled the last few tears with controlling my glucose levels. I recently started having problems with the vision in my left eye, that has left me wearing an eye patch. My doctor says it will heal as my sugar levels drop so I am really focused on getting that back under control. This has been a scary experience. I started using this app because it shows me how many carbs I am eating and I need that visual and accountability.
Best of luck to all in achieving their goals and feeling happy and healthy!

Anna
Central Valley, California

barbiecat · May 19

Anna, I am happy to meet you. This thread is a good place to come for encouragement as you make changes in your life. We are a busy bunch and range in age from early 50's to early 80's so we have lots of experiences and varied life histories. I came here at age 62 and have made huge changes in my life and habits. I wish the same for you. I live with my husband and two dogs and stay close to home so I have lots of time for walking, knitting, riding my exercise bike, reading, and spending time with my dogs and husband.

Barbie in NW WA

grandmallie · May 19

Hidee Ho all
Went and had lunch with my friends from Massachusetts
I had 2 small pieces of pepperoni pizza and water to drink..the salt will im sure do me in.. but haven't really eaten much else drinking alot of water..
I only eat when im hungry,and im honestly not hungry alot..but im eat things that are good for me ( except for the pizza )

mcmillonmail · May 19

Annie, my mom, would drive and get lost, and I would search for her. When I hired a caregiver for when I was sleeping or needed to run errands, the girl left my mom alone to get her lunch. The agency promised they would not leave her alone. Then, when I got home, the girl left early from her shift. When I called the agency, they denied that it was true. When my mom took off in the middle of the night, I knew it was time for her to be home. My mom loves the place she is at, and she is safe. I had to get rid of my mom's car cause she almost ran over the caregiver during her angry phase. First, I parked it at my mom's house. Then we got rid of it. She was mad, but it was safer. If I hadn't set the alarms, I would not have known that my mom had taken off. My grandma was a runner who took the bus to Venice Beach when we lived in California. The police had to look for my grandma several times. Your dad does not need to drive; it isn't safe. I know this isn't easy at all, and I tried to keep my mom at home with me for as long as possible. Before I brought my mom to my house, these young people had her paying her bills, taking her to the bank, withdrawing her money, and stealing it. They had my mom write a check for $589.00 for an electric bill for their family home. In the south, the banks know you and will tell you everything. Write now. You can hire a reliable sitter to watch your dad, to give you the freedom to get things done.

TerriRichardson112 · May 19

🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

☘️ Terri

pipcd34 · May 19

Stats for the day-

Housecleaning etc- 2hrs 48min 24sec, 68arpm, 85ahr, make/refill hummingbird food, trim hedges, water plants, bathe/dry/trim chispa, etc= 779c

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Machka9 · May 20

Regarding driving with dementia and other medical conditions, it's probably not safe for the driver and also not safe for other road users. It just takes a couple seconds of inattention for bad things to happen.

M in Oz

exermom · May 20

Cut the grass. Didn’t do a fantastic job, but at least we won’t come home to a jungle. Called the gal who used to do the bacon at BK. I’m toying with the idea of asking if I could do it only so that I would get extra hours. That is, as long as it doesn’t take hours and hours. Somehow, I don’t think it does but I wanted to talk to the gal who used to do it before I said anything to anyone. She needs to think on it since it’s been some years since she’s worked at BK (which means it’s been a couple of years that I’ve been working on Sat.)

Anna – welcome. Keep coming back, you’ll get great advice

Watched some TV now off to bed.

Michele NC

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WOMEN AGES 50+FOR MAY 2024

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