LESS Alcohol ~ OCTOBER 2024 ~ One Day at A Time
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Morning everyone!
AF - 14
A - never
Just hit 30 days AF and loving it. I have been tested several times and I find it very easy to say no now. I have figured out drinkers don't like nondrinkers because misery loves company, and I am not willing to be miserable with them and destroy my life that easily.
Cheers!13 -
WTG on your 30 days, @xbowhunter!! That's amazing!
@Surfergirl1982 and @violetamethyst, you've got this, ladies!! We're all rooting for you!
AF = 14
A = 09 -
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@xbowhunter Congrats on your 30 days, that's quite an accomplishment!!!
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RubyRed427 wrote: »
That's what I do, too. Drinking is my favorite hobby. Sad but true.@SurferGirl1982 I know exactly what you mean by "that's what I do." Just for today, make something else what you do...even if it's just some other beverage out of your favorite glass. That's what I did at first. I still don't have my something else to do. I need to work on that, for sure.
For me it's not just that it's a habit, it's really a part of my identity - the "I'm a drinker" or "I've always been a drinker" way of thinking. I have to work on changing how I actually want to identify myself along with a big change in habits.9 -
@Breathe57103 HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 7
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October:
AF: 3
A: 11
I really have to get some more A days under my belt
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OOPS, I meant I need more AF days
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NonnieDoiron wrote: »Got my tattoo finished last night. I’m going to let the redness die down just a little bit more before I post a picture. But, I am so thrilled with the results! Even better the artist didn’t charge me for the full session. 😁 Now, I can’t wait to get another! The ink-bug has bitten me again. I already know what I want, and it’s a small one that will probably take less than an hour to do.
Totally forgot about this! Can't wait to see pics!!5 -
I'm needing a new identity ?? ... bibliophile...crocheter...ham radio operator...baker...herb gardener...cat parent...flea market addict...putting "daily drinker" far down on the list. 🍷👿 / ☕😇11
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Going to a water park for two and a half days with grandkids tomorrow. There is also miniature golf and other kid activities on-site. We’re staying at the family lodge on-site which I’m sure will wear me out lol.
Today I went to CVS and walked by the alcohol aisle on my way to check out and had a split second thought that maybe I should bring some wine for my daughter and I. Nope I told myself I can live in the moment and will pass on the idea…..a win for me.
I’ll be back closer to the weekend - have a great
week everyone!8 -
8 AF
7 A5 -
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I’ve been thinking about the “drinker identity” being discussed. I don’t think I’ve been identified as a drinker. Everyone knew/knows I like my wine, but I’m not sure it became my identity. I know I don’t identify as a drinker… hmmmm, maybe I’m wrong? Maybe they do identify me as a drinker. You know, I’ve never thought to ask. I was labeled a “mean drunk” by my husband, but I could never remember what happened so I have no way to know if that’s true. (As I’ve been more sober over these many months, I’ve noticed he’s been getting more and more dramatic and over exaggerates a lot as he’s gotten older. 🙄)
Maybe I’ll just identify as a shirt my husband bought me… I’m an f-bomb mom with tattoos, pretty eyes, and thick thighs! 🤣😉
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Another day alcohol free. Since my husband passed, I have dated two men. The last one only lasted 2 months, but it was very intense. Ironically it ended the same day I committed to less alcohol. I've been sad this week and feeling a lot of the same anxiety that I felt following my husband's passing. I just finished a book tonight and on the last page it said "The biggest lesson is that I'm perfectly fine, exactly as I am, where I am, and I will never again look to another person to make me whole." That's exactly what I needed tonight!
Start day 10/11/24.
AF - 5
A - 013 -
@xbowhunter how has it been 30 days already? That’s awesome!
Welcome and congrats to @violetamethyst , and congrats to you @SurferGirl1982 !!!
I went over my goal the day of the football name, but was AF on Sunday, so it evened out- averaged two drinks per day, not bad for a weekend. Monday only one, but tonight I had two, and regret the 2nd glass. Onward to Wednesday. I do see my daily averages coming down, so that’s great news for me!9 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Still AF from 3 October. After a... incident, which involved an ER overnight visit, the partner will be joining me for significantly reduced alcohol. Please wish him luck and strength.
I definitely will. Hope he’s healing well!4 -
Good lord, did I have an eye opening moment today. We have the one bank account that we live off of, and our bank sends monthly snapshots, and a year to date snapshot of what you have spent where.
What we have spent at the liquor store in the past 12 months would have paid for us both to go to Europe on holiday for multiple weeks. I'm not exaggerating. And that's just our main liquor store, it's not the incidental ones we have stopped at along the way, the nights out, the copious money we have spent at wineries etc etc.
I'm stunned and horrified.
Unsurprisingly, our spending at that store has gone down by 40% since I started only drinking on occasions, and now it's going to go down even more because my partner has joined me.
That's going OK so far, bit of withdrawals, and the weekend will be a challenge I think. But it was a hell of a scare and an eye opener.
But yeah... I cannot believe the amount of money we have drunk in a year. I'm mortified.
@SurferGirl1982 Well done on the day, and good for you for not beating yourself up! Every single day is an improvement.
Thank you all for the wishes for the other half x10 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Good lord, did I have an eye opening moment today. We have the one bank account that we live off of, and our bank sends monthly snapshots, and a year to date snapshot of what you have spent where.
What we have spent at the liquor store in the past 12 months would have paid for us both to go to Europe on holiday for multiple weeks. I'm not exaggerating. And that's just our main liquor store, it's not the incidental ones we have stopped at along the way, the nights out, the copious money we have spent at wineries etc etc.
I'm stunned and horrified.
Unsurprisingly, our spending at that store has gone down by 40% since I started only drinking on occasions, and now it's going to go down even more because my partner has joined me.
That's going OK so far, bit of withdrawals, and the weekend will be a challenge I think. But it was a hell of a scare and an eye opener.
But yeah... I cannot believe the amount of money we have drunk in a year. I'm mortified.
@SurferGirl1982 Well done on the day, and good for you for not beating yourself up! Every single day is an improvement.
Thank you all for the wishes for the other half x
I’m glad your partner has joined you! I’ll be praying for continued success for the both of you.
I agree, the financial impact of my drinking was a huge eye opener! I couldn’t believe how much money we could save or put towards other things if I just quit drinking or drank less. $500 per month easy! Over a year that was enough to, like you said, pay for a vacation for my family which is something we need in our lives.
Now… to convince my husband that beer is NOT a staple, and we need to save that money that used to go to wine to pay for that vacation. 😉😁8 -
@NonnieDoiron the tattoo is absolute gorgeous!
@SurferGirl1982 I'm glad to hear you don't feel guilty, no reason to beat yourself up. I hope the yard guy works out for you.
@womona Your moderation is going well - sounds like you're proud of yourself, and you should be.6 -
forestdweller1 wrote: »I'm needing a new identity ?? ... bibliophile...crocheter...ham radio operator...baker...herb gardener...cat parent...flea market addict...putting "daily drinker" far down on the list. 🍷👿 / ☕😇NonnieDoiron wrote: »Maybe I’ll just identify as a shirt my husband bought me… I’m an f-bomb mom with tattoos, pretty eyes, and thick thighs! 🤣😉
Yes, this!
These are great examples of what I have to work on - identify with the positive, fun, amazing things that I do and am!! Thank you for the inspiration.7 -
October:
AF: 4
A: 11
Whew, finally got another AF day in for October, after 10 straight days of drinking. I'm going to work on getting a long streak of AF days in over the next couple of weeks.
@NonnieDoiron and @Alatariel75 The money-OMG! I've added it up on occasion and I tend to spend between 250 and 350 a month, and my SO doesn't drink, it's all me
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Regarding money savings, after 24 days AF, my nomo app says I’ve save $677 and saved 47 hours of time not drinkng.
In a book I’m reading, the author says a heavy drinker spends about $100,000
Over his or her lifetime on alcohol. Not sure if that’s accurate but possibly.7 -
@Breathe57103 I'm sorry your're feeling down and sorry for your loss. YOU are enough :hugs:
@NonnieDoiron LOVE the tattoo!! Very nice work!
@SurferGirl1982 Glad you're not down on yourself. Try, try again! Good luck with your projects
@womona Thank you for the kind words. We're hoping FEMA comes through for my dad's roof. His mobile home is too old for insurance
@Alatariel75 Praying for continued success for your husband...and for you
Have a great day, everyone!
AF = 15
A = 07 -
@Alatariel75 wow. Wow. WOW! Just… wow. When put that way, I’m probably similar to you. My drinking app has a place to put the cost of the drink, but I’m logging so many things right now that I’ve skipped that one. But alcohol is expensive, especially when we go out to dinner. Even my Low Alcohol wine costs the same or more than the regular wine! No surprise that my grocery budget is so high. Eye opening for sure. And horrifying!!3
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Morning my less alcohol awakened wonders!
AF - 31 days
A- Never again
Ran into my brother the other day. He asked me how my joint issues have been. I have had bad joint issues that I presumed were age related. I was happy to tell him they are gone, and it was alcohol and ultra processed foods because after 31 days of no poison I have no more nagging joint issues. Simply amazing!
Cheers and be strong to live long!
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6 vac days AF in a row and 45 consecutive days AF. That spell of irritability around day 30 went away. I am in a state of bliss. After a strenuous 6.5mile hike, we visited the liquor store to see what AF beverages they had and they had none! I went to the deli and found NA corona beer so had that with Mex takeout. I still like my pre-dinner AF drinking ritual.And post dinner chocolate ritual. I treated myself to Brookside brand dark chocolates. Yum.
@xbowhunter big thank you for inspiring me to try AF vacation. If it wasn't for you I would not have felt challenged to do it. Thought it was impossible.
Only a few weeks left of my 58th year. Time and quality of life including best state of mind becomes a priority. Life is indeed better on the AF side.
Today is another day to become happier and stronger in spirit and mind.11 -
@Breathe57103 and @Michieb125 Happy Birthday to you both!
@NonnieDoiron your tattoo is a work of art, very nice!
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@Alateriel75 such a good point about the money saved from not drinking or drinking less. I keep a color coded spread sheet of our finances, but I've always been too afraid to add up all the alcohol expenses. In fact, I'd often put it on a credit card and then pay it off so it would show up as a CC payment instead of a liquor store payment 😬.
@NonnieDoiron love the tattoo!
October
AF 10
A 56
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