did you just say i was pregnant EXSUSE YOU?

Even if you were pregnant, it's still rude. I don't see how it's any random stranger's business.

I've had someone ask me when I was slim!!

It's called being polite, taking a interest in someone, being friendly... As long as they're not asking you how many weeks pregnant you are, when they know damn well you're NOT preganant, and just want to upset you by saying in a roundabout way that you're FAT, I don't see the issue. If they ARE being genuine, then what does that tell you? And if you don't recognise this problem yourself, then why are you on MFP?

My comeback would be "I'm not pregnant with a baby, I'm just storing fat for World War III. But let's be optimistic, that isn't going to happen, so thanks for pointing out that my fat stores hopefully won't be required. I'll do something about getting rid of them"

Very few people would say something to purposefully hurt you. They either genuinely think you're pregnant, or are too stupid to contemplate the fact it might be fat and not a baby, and engage their mouth before their brain.

Think about it, if you weren't "fat" they wouldn't be saying it. So who's the one with the problem? One they're actively looking to sort out? I've just shifted my "4 month bump" :-)

It's called being polite, taking a interest in someone, being friendly... As long as they're not asking you how many weeks pregnant you are, when they know damn well you're NOT preganant, and just want to upset you by saying in a roundabout way that you're FAT, I don't see the issue. If they ARE being genuine, then what does that tell you? And if you don't recognise this problem yourself, then why are you on MFP?

My comeback would be "I'm not pregnant with a baby, I'm just storing fat for World War III. But let's be optimistic, that isn't going to happen, so thanks for pointing out that my fat stores hopefully won't be required. I'll do something about getting rid of them"

Very few people would say something to purposefully hurt you. They either genuinely think you're pregnant, or are too stupid to contemplate the fact it might be fat and not a baby, and engage their mouth before their brain.

Think about it, if you weren't "fat" they wouldn't be saying it. So who's the one with the problem? One they're actively looking to sort out? I've just shifted my "4 month bump" :-)

If they were being polite and taking an interest in you, why would your come back be so sarcastic? I would rather suspect if you felt they were genuinely interested in your welfare you'd say something like, "I don't mean to make you feel uncomfortable, but actually, I'm not pregnant. I'm aware of my weight issue and I'm working on it." Where as your comment rude to someone who was interested/excited about your situation.

So, the one with the problem is the one who makes comments about the size of others.

I had that in Italy once (we'd been walking around all day and I was dying for the loo and was swelling up coz of it)

A lovely older lady patted my belly and happily said 'bambino?'

I said 'no - I'm bursting for a wee!!!'

She thought it was hilarious when I came back out of the ladies and my 'bump' had disappeared!!!

It's called being polite, taking a interest in someone, being friendly...

It is not polite to ask someone about what is going on in their uterus. Ever. To quote the great Dave Barry, "Never ask a woman if she is pregnant unless you see an actual baby emerging from her".

Definitely not polite; definitely rude, rude, RUDE. It is just hurtful to someone who isn't. You don't even have to be "fat" or have any kind of weight issue to have someone ask you that. I once had a woman ask me that when I was younger and had a perfectly flat stomach. When I looked at her perplexed, she said, "Oh I wondered because you are busty." Yeah, she was just being polite. Barf.

I agree with the Dave Berry comment the previous poster shared.

I am sorry someone hurt your feelings like that. Been there.

a few years ago i went shopping one night with my brother. Outside the store in the parking lot as we were leaving some guy probably in his 50's was standing by his truck (next to our car) with his labrador. The lab was very friendly and came right up to me and jumped to put his paws on my stomach. I thought it was cute he was being playful. The guy instantly yelled at the dog and said "No No!!! Down!! She's pregnant, you dont wanna hurt the baby!!!" I felt so upset/angry instantly.. My bother was right there and gave the guy a weird look and we just left.. In the car my bro said "did he actually just say that to you??" I said "yep, and all i thought i had was FAT! Who knew i was having a baby too!" Tried to joke about it to make myself feel better but it really bothered me. My bro thought the guy was rude as well.. One of the most crappy awkward moments ive ever had.

Why was that rude of him? He didn't want his dog to harm a pregnant woman. Do you think he really wanted to say get down off of that overweight woman? He was showing concern. I have been on the receiving end of the how far along are you and when are you due questions. The people asking weren't being rude, they were excited. It was my problem that I let myself get to the point that I looked pregnant, not theirs.

lol yes it has happened to me this year. To be fair it was a case of mistaken identity because another mum in my child's class was pregnant, though I obviously did have that look about me. Worst of it was, the woman who offered congratulations spotted me from a distance and kind of run towards me with the big smile and open arms. I flippin knew what she was going to say before she got there lol.

It's happened to me many years ago and in my opinion there's nothing worse than someone thinking you're pregnant when you're not. Humiliating.