Getting hit on by freaks

It's very rare that I think someone isn't good enough to flirt with me. I don't know how to flirt even when I want to, but I'm chilled out with everyone, even the hobos. I talked to one outside of Starbucks once. He was upset 'cause someone turned the sprinklers on him when he was sleeping. I'm not even kidding. People are interesting as hell.

Did anyone actually read the threads before just lumping them together as women not appreciating compliments? With the exception of a couple of posts that were about looks, the vast majority were about guys who either said things that were inappropriate or refused to take know for an answer.

There are plenty of guys who intentionally creep on girls for sport because they get amusement out of it, and frankly, I'm sick of more men not standing up and calling BS on it. The truth is, whether you're attractive or not, nothing makes it acceptable to harass a girl. Most of the men in these stories knew full that their behavior was inappropriate, but they did it anyway because they thought they could get away with it. I don't have any problem with women reacting negatively to this type of behavior.

It's easy as a guy to say "oh, well I would be flattered no matter who hit on me," but we living in a country where 1 in 6 women is a victim of sexual assault in her lifetime. We have a lot less reason to be cautious than your average women does. So I don't blame women for being guarded or abrupt when strangers come up and approach them in random and inappropriate situations.

This one isn't about a man But a boy. when I was 16, I was baby sitting for a lady who had just moved to town, and the little Boy always had a crush on me, I didn't think much of it til one night, I was tucking him into bed and he asked if he could ask me a question. and I was like um Okay. He then asked if he could have sex with me. I was all weired out but asked where he learned about that. he claimed his old babysitter in saskatoon used to do it. I left him in his room and called his mom asap.

i must be invisable, i havent been hit on for years. im not countin the old boys on site who are looking for a bit on the side. cheating *kitten*. i never want to be the other woman or a home wrecker.

Mind you i do work away so my opportunity to meet people is serverely retarded, but if someone has the balls to come up & start a convo, or ask me out then id at least meet them somewhere public for coffee

this is also my problem! lol

although...I went to a concert a couple weekends ago and some guy about half my age copped a feel...I don't look as old as I am apparently (or he's looking for a mom)

Aw.. there, there.. maybe someday an attractive person might hit on you. Have hope.

I'm taking this one to heart.

What's the difference between a creepy guy and a not-creepy guy?

A: If the woman wants you to hit on them, you're not creepy. Otherwise... you are creepy.

To some people: please get over yourself. I'd hate it for you if life threw you a curve ball where your physical looks were altered in a way that going to the gym and losing weight couldn't help you. You would be screwed.

This happened to me over the weekend. I've been told that I should approach more women because I'm introverted and because I don't go out of my way to talk to strangers, that this impedes my ability to date.

This sounds fairly reasonable. So I gave it a try. Even MFP says that the gym is a good place to meet women because you have similar fitness goals right? Well this goes beyond what I would normally do... but I see a woman who I thought was attractive working out. I was next to her. I said "hey how's it going?"

Her answer? "**** off"

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Women are just as physical-minded as men are.

aw...if you said hi to me at the gym I'd probably drop my weights on my foot out of shock...but when I recovered I'd at least say hi. :embarassed:

Many of my friends are guys and so when I'm out at a show or whatever with them, I suspect I don't get hit on because people think we're "together." I also tend to get hit on by married men who try to lie about being married--the last guy who seriously hit on me AGES ago was married, tried to tell me he was separated (although he was still wearing a ring) and did not realize that he and I have mutual friends who KNEW he was still married (and his wife was at the show!) and gave me the heads up. And that behavior made him a total creeper in my eyes, even though he's very attractive and a successful musician in the local scene...and I still take photographs of his band so I occasionally see him...I just try not to make eye contact lol...:ohwell:

Makes me fearful for my daughters...bad behavior by men, involving them if I'm around, will probably get me locked up someday...hopefully not. They are more sheltered than I was growing up, but very capable and strong. My brother is a therapist who has seen too many young woman date-raped in college. It really disgusts me.

What happened to clubbing the girl over the head and drag her to your cave?

Hmm it seems my post was changed a bit, but it was true. I live in a place where certain people from certain cultures and places tnat are not western, do not seem to understand that females do not want to be stared at, gawked at etc. There are two specific countries these people come from since come here to work- apparently naming them is not allowed.

Jamaicans. I know I sound like a total a.s.s, but I'm sick and tired of the old Jamaicans who work here asking me to go over to their place and watch movies, and I'm sick and tired of them staring at me while I shop. Also, in general, it seems that only freaks (and not the good kind) like me. I'm a fan of giving everyone a chance, but more and more I've noticed that if someone is a loner and has few to no friends, well there is probably a good reason for it.

Introverted people tend to be your best soul mates and got their **** pulled together financially, why? Well they were alone the majority of their life so they focus on their career(instead wasting it away at parties) and fantasize about their perfect soul mate and how they would cherish that person once they have found them.

Would you settle for the gigolo or the more innocent type?

I am quite introverted and work focused myself- nothing wrong with this.
Too bad all quiet people aren't like this. However, I still believe in giving people a fair shake.
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Introverted people who have few friends aren't bad people. They just don't go out and socialize with a bunch of people and call them "friends".

It's called quality vs quantity.

Give a compliment (a nice one, not a creepy one) and try to make it funny somehow. A little backhanded compliment, when properly implimented, will go a long way. For example:

"Are you buying 2% milk because you think you're fat? Cuz you're not. You could totally buy whole milk if you wanted to."

That is a seriously weird thing to say to a complete stranger.

I rest my case.