Biting my tongue at seeing overweight children

Seriously...if Im in Target..and my 6 yr old who is 43lbs wants a donut and it keeps him from screaming for the hour Im in the store...by God..hes getting a stinking donut! lol

LOL!!! I have a 2 year old so I totally get that!

Some parents remove their children from such situations immediately rather than allowing them to learn that temper tantrums in public will get them what they want.

some children blah blah blah.. yeah you try taking a 2 year old to the post office while you wait in line to mail a package and they continue to run for the door and want to play... they scream and holler and throw fits do you lose your place in line to leave and mail the package later or do you take the sucker that the post office employee offers to calm him down?? hmmm, I take the sucker and it usually it works so the hell with you saying you can immediately leave when it comes to temper tantrums and let's see how it works out for you

\My 3 year is better educated then that.
He dont throw tantrums in public places and he listens to me when I explain to him that he needs to settle down and he can have something healthier when we get home.
Its all in how we raise and educate our children in how its appropriate to behave.
If you wanna let your children walk all over you, thats your problem.

You obviously do not have a child with ADHD. Children are different. My two children are polar oposites of eachother. My dauther is calm, cool, collected. At 18 months old I knew I could take her to a funeral and her not tip the casket over. My son... well lets just say he's the demon child from hell who would not only have tipped the casket over but jumped into it and pretended it was a truck. You pick your battles, dude.

You always have an excuse.
In everything you post. Lol.

Actually, I have ADHD and I never acted like that.

You know what my mom did if I dared throw a tantrum over something like donuts? Spank the crap outta me. Take a wild guess how many tantrums I threw :laugh: Caribbean parents don't play that game at ALL. especially the Jamaicans :bigsmile:

:noway: How DARE overweight people go out in public! I'm so sorry you had to look at that :sad:

Like I said.... EXCUSES... Lol.

I didn't read the rest of the posts, just the OP, but I have to add my personal story and opinion...

My son, who is 9 years old, is overweight. He has been for a couple of years, and the fact is that, although he does occasionally have junk food, it is pretty rare since it isn't something we have in our home and I don't give him fast food (pretty much ever) or even eat out at a restaurant more than a handful of times a year (and even then, I usually don't let him get fries). He likes when he gets to cheat with junk food, but he also loves veggies (especially broccoli and pretty much any green salad), fruits, and other healthy foods.
The only beverages he has access to on a daily basis are water and milk (and, when my husband can sneak it in, some 100% fruit juice, although I try to limit that as much as possible because it's better just to eat a piece of fruit). Although my son would love to sit in front of a screen for hours if allowed, I am pretty good about making sure he does active things frequently.

On the other hand, our neighbors have two extremely skinny kids around the same age as my son. They eat entire (large size) bags of chips in one sitting and basically live off of canned and/or frozen meals, very few of which include veggies (even canned veggies). They drink soda daily (Mt Dew is a favorite) and spend a good chunk of their free time in front of a screen while their parents smoke in the house.

So, who is healthier? The overweight kid who eats primarily nutritious, well-balanced meals and gets moderate exercise, or the skinny kids who eat nothing but junk food and live in front of the TV?

The fact is, my child is getting the nutrients his mind and growing body need and their children aren't, yet if you saw them in a group and didn't know this about them, you would probably assume that I am a terrible parent for causing my son to be overweight and wouldn't think twice about how the skinny kids' parents are raising them.

As parents, we have a responsibility to nourish our children's bodies - to provide them with quality nutrition, healthy activities, and a home that teaches good health habits (including portion control).

A parent ordering deep fried junk for their skinny child is every bit as bad as a parent ordering deep fried junk for their chubby child - regardless of the size of the child, you aren't taking care of them when you fill their bodies with junk and, when a child is already overweight, you are just exasperating the problem (but even if they're skinny, you aren't giving their bodies what they need to grow and develop in a healthy manner).

You know what my mom did if I dared throw a tantrum over something like donuts? Spank the crap outta me. Take a wild guess how many tantrums I threw :laugh: Caribbean parents don't play that game at ALL. especially the Jamaicans :bigsmile:

Yeah, that'll get CPS repelling down from helicopters on ya here. My husband had the audacity to take my son out of the store when he was throwing a tantrum and we had the sheriff called on us.

I wish I had popcorn

Like I said.... EXCUSES... Lol.

Again, not every child acts the same. As a mom you should know that.

Excuse as to why you keep claming it okay to give your child some sort of junk food to keep them from screaming.
How do you know if my son is special needs or not?! Im pretty sure I never said whether he was or not. So quick to assume towards nothing you have no knowledge of.

I am a very blunt, forward person. Get a few drinks in me and I'm like a truth machine. It's both a curse and a good thing.

So the other night, a few of us went to our local cafe after hours where they were showing christmas movies. We had a few drinks, enjoyed some cafe treats, and cozied in for the politically incorrect Rudolph.

Looking to my left though, I noticed two extremely, and I mean extremely overweight girls dressed in tight multicolored dresses, the buttons on the blouses gapped and barely holding. They couldn't have been any older then 8 or 9. Mom had gotten them the cafe's baked mac and cheese, both their own, with the chowder to dip it into, and chocolate brownies for desert. The cafe also served free popcorn in which I was behind one of the girls in line, as she scooped up and filled her bowl, stopped, realizing she could fit more in, and piled it higher. I swear she snorted at me as she turned to walk back to her seat.

I felt sick. Nauseous. I couldn't even get my handful of popcorn. I wanted to eject the dinner I had and the cookies I had eaten. I wanted to say something to the mother. I was sitting next to them the whole time. Listening to them eat. Watching. It was like a horrible movie montage. As the one girl finished her mac and cheese, her smaller brother had half of his left, and so she finished his for him.

I saw the beginning of a long journey of self-esteem issues and hurt as they get older and realize how much their size is going to effect them.

I also hated myself for thinking the thoughts I had. What right do I have to judge them?

Yes. I believe you are right to judge. You didn't say anything to anyone so you didn't offend anyone that would cause a scene. People who allow their kids to eat like **** and be fat deserve to be harshly judged. Parents are making their kids fat! Might as well give your 8 year old a loaded gun to play with while they devour their mcnuggets, frosty, fries and brownies.

You know what my mom did if I dared throw a tantrum over something like donuts? Spank the crap outta me. Take a wild guess how many tantrums I threw :laugh: Caribbean parents don't play that game at ALL. especially the Jamaicans :bigsmile:

Yeah, that'll get CPS repelling down from helicopters on ya here. My husband had the audacity to take my son out of the store when he was throwing a tantrum and we had the sheriff called on us.

Like I said.... EXCUSES... Lol.

Again, not every child acts the same. As a mom you should know that.

& as a mother you should know that giving yoru child anything they want to shut them up isnt going to teach them any good morals for when they get older. You have to instill discipline and understanding.
If you cant control your children then maybe you just aint cut out to be a parent.