Biting my tongue at seeing overweight children

mmmichelle8486

so..our local walmart used to have a mcdonalds..they took it out and put in a Subway. Who said Walmart was dumb?? *looking around*

Oh yes..I am the BAD mother for giving my child a Krispy Kreme. Sure..ok.

I hope you know *someone* is staring at you in disgust, about to toss their cookies... it isn't me, my kids ask for donuts too... they get one once a week (WHILE WE ARE GROCERY SHOPPING) I so feel ya...

ahoefs87

p.s. I personally have a niece who is 14 months old, she is 29 lbs, but her doctor says she is healthy. To me, as long as the children are happy and healthy they can deal with weight issues later in life! Once again, I am disappointed to read such a horrible blog about children! To an extent they can not help it!

capaxinfiniti

And I do watch the Maury Show with those overweight children. And what did they do? They offered those women education and help from a counselor, not call CPS and snatch those children away. :grumble:

Do they throw in any free paternity testing too? :laugh:

Of course not! They gotta save that for the next episode! :laugh:

auticus

I'm sorry that the sight of fat people makes you sick to your stomach. The sight of uneducated mouth breathers having children also disgusts me.

Thank you for motivating me to write my congressman to pass a law taking away the children of mouth breathing cretins. Those poor children. Being raised to be intellectually devoid and emotionally raised to be cruel and vapid individuals...

O.o

unifil

Amen to this!!!
Parents are suposed to be responsible for their children!

taramaureen

so..our local walmart used to have a mcdonalds..they took it out and put in a Subway. Who said Walmart was dumb?? *looking around*

Oh yes..I am the BAD mother for giving my child a Krispy Kreme. Sure..ok.

It's cool, I'm the bad one for giving my kid Pizza... we're in the same boat.

hollyeverhart

I am a very blunt, forward person. Get a few drinks in me and I'm like a truth machine. It's both a curse and a good thing.

So the other night, a few of us went to our local cafe after hours where they were showing christmas movies. We had a few drinks, enjoyed some cafe treats, and cozied in for the politically incorrect Rudolph.

Looking to my left though, I noticed two extremely, and I mean extremely overweight girls dressed in tight multicolored dresses, the buttons on the blouses gapped and barely holding. They couldn't have been any older then 8 or 9. Mom had gotten them the cafe's baked mac and cheese, both their own, with the chowder to dip it into, and chocolate brownies for desert. The cafe also served free popcorn in which I was behind one of the girls in line, as she scooped up and filled her bowl, stopped, realizing she could fit more in, and piled it higher. I swear she snorted at me as she turned to walk back to her seat.

I felt sick. Nauseous. I couldn't even get my handful of popcorn. I wanted to eject the dinner I had and the cookies I had eaten. I wanted to say something to the mother. I was sitting next to them the whole time. Listening to them eat. Watching. It was like a horrible movie montage. As the one girl finished her mac and cheese, her smaller brother had half of his left, and so she finished his for him.

I saw the beginning of a long journey of self-esteem issues and hurt as they get older and realize how much their size is going to effect them.

I also hated myself for thinking the thoughts I had. What right do I have to judge them?

Thats awful, I would have had to bite my tongue as well. Poor kids, my mom wouldn't have let me eat like that as a kid. When ever we went out to eat as kids, even now we spilt all most everything, portion size is crazy, and also we spilt desserts. One person does NOT need all of that. They are going to grow up dieting and having self esteem issues The most you can do is make sure if you have kids you raise them eating healthy! thats what I will do.

capaxinfiniti

I'm sorry that the sight of fat people makes you sick to your stomach. The sight of uneducated mouth breathers having children also disgusts me.

Thank you for motivating me to write my congressman to pass a law taking away the children of mouth breathing cretins. Those poor children. Being raised to be intellectually devoid and emotionally raised to be cruel and vapid individuals...

O.o

mouth breathers:laugh:

CaptainGordo

It's not that my mind has changed, it's that I agreed that we need SOMETHING that tells parents of obese children that what they're doing is not okay. People are putting words in my mouth so fast I can't even read them all.

Nobody is putting words in your mouth. After this...

Here in the UK I'm pretty sure allowing your kids to get obese counts as child abuse and people have had their kids taken away as a result.

The US needs this, hardcore.

...many of us raised questions about the opinion you stated.

Now, this...

I get shot at so much for agreeing randomly with something that I have to fight for something I don't believe in to the full extent.

...is confusing. What do you not believe to the full extent?

Elle_Jamaicangirl81

Listen...

We ALL judge.. we're human. I've looked at some of the kids i work with and say "Damn, i wanna run some of these kids up the stairs a couple of times" But then, i know what some of these kids eat... so i guess i can say some stuff...

Anyway, i digress... it's what u do with said judgement that makes u bad or acceptable.

Dont Gawk and stare and point over these strange kids... you dont know them AND they arent yours.

So quit worrying about them. U dont need to be feeling nauseous over them. Worry about you and hope they're parents know what they're doing.


SIDENOTE: but in truth tho... the portions in the US are MASSIVE. For example, the kids soda in the movie theatre is what we have as our adult medium, not to mention the largest sized popcorn here.. is your small..0_0 ... I do believe some parents need to teach their kids about control. It really isnt healthy. It really doesnt matter how much they cry and carry on about what their friends eat. If they are taught not to have certain things, they wont.

killagb

And I do watch the Maury Show with those overweight children. And what did they do? They offered those women education and help from a counselor, not call CPS and snatch those children away. :grumble:

Do they throw in any free paternity testing too? :laugh:

Nattiejean57

Here in the UK I'm pretty sure allowing your kids to get obese counts as child abuse and people have had their kids taken away as a result.

The US needs this, hardcore.

Because ripping a child from their parents, lives, family, friends, animals, comfort of their own bed...IS EXACTLY what the child needs to get thin/healthy. -eyeroll-

Someone give me an AMEN
Why is the first thing people say is TAKE THE KIDS AWAY! It's not the solution and in fact it makes it worse.

I am totally with you guys...Many moons ago I worked for social services and unless you have worked in that field I think it is hard to understand how the process works. When you are loaded with cases that you are barely making it through and then the government starts pushing that parents who have over weight children are not fit to be parents and it gets out in the media sadly theses case can get pushed to the top of the heap because it's whats being cracked down on.

Also personally their is a fine line for me about what I want the government involved in in my personal life. They end up making a general rule of thumb for everyone and because they can not go through everything on an individual basis sometimes a perfectly fit parents loose their children. This can happen in suspected abuse cases too unfortunately

writtenINthestars

Here in the UK I'm pretty sure allowing your kids to get obese counts as child abuse and people have had their kids taken away as a result.

The US needs this, hardcore.

I think that should be a last resort. First the family should be put in nutrition education classes and counseling for what is probably food addiction. Only if the parents fail to cooperate should further action be taken. Removal of a child from the home should be only in extreme cases.

Agreed.

DietingMommy08

Seriously...if Im in Target..and my 6 yr old who is 43lbs wants a donut and it keeps him from screaming for the hour Im in the store...by God..hes getting a stinking donut! lol

LOL!!! I have a 2 year old so I totally get that!

Some parents remove their children from such situations immediately rather than allowing them to learn that temper tantrums in public will get them what they want.

some children blah blah blah.. yeah you try taking a 2 year old to the post office while you wait in line to mail a package and they continue to run for the door and want to play... they scream and holler and throw fits do you lose your place in line to leave and mail the package later or do you take the sucker that the post office employee offers to calm him down?? hmmm, I take the sucker and it usually it works so the hell with you saying you can immediately leave when it comes to temper tantrums and let's see how it works out for you

\My 3 year is better educated then that.
He dont throw tantrums in public places and he listens to me when I explain to him that he needs to settle down and he can have something healthier when we get home.
Its all in how we raise and educate our children in how its appropriate to behave.
If you wanna let your children walk all over you, thats your problem.

auticus

We shoud also prevent ugly people, or hell anyone who isn't "hot" from reproducing as well. Those poor kids. Think of them.

Think of the children.

cessnaholly

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FearAnLoathing

I like how judgey people can be since a good number of the people on this site have or had weight issues themselves.
If you need to bite your tounge when you see an overweight child maybe you should bite a little harder to not be such a judgemental ****
next time.

DietingMommy08

wow, im that blunt all the time, and i dont drink. And sure, there are kids with odd dietary needs, but no diet calls for 3lbs of mac and cheese, buttered popcorn, brownies, and a milkshake in one sitting, especially for an 8 year old. And the op does not need therapy for getting squicked out. Im disgusted by overweight people eating junk food in much the same way i get disgusted seeing people smoke or take handfulls of vicodin. It's detrimental to their health and i dont particularly enjoy watching people kill themselves. However, i have the option of simply turning my head and not staring, which is the option i pick. Overweight children under about ten years old bother me, because that is simply the parent's food choices. No 5 year old can buy their own double whopper and fries.

Exactly!

katcod1522

so..our local walmart used to have a mcdonalds..they took it out and put in a Subway. Who said Walmart was dumb?? *looking around*

Oh yes..I am the BAD mother for giving my child a Krispy Kreme. Sure..ok.

It's cool, I'm the bad one for giving my kid Pizza... we're in the same boat.

\

Sweet. my KIDS love pizza..lol

taramaureen

. No 5 year old can buy their own double whopper and fries.

I beg to differ. My 4.5 year old can get the money out of my purse, walk up to the counter, and order his own food.... just sayin'.

kschhr

It's not that my mind has changed, it's that I agreed that we need SOMETHING that tells parents of obese children that what they're doing is not okay. People are putting words in my mouth so fast I can't even read them all.

Nobody is putting words in your mouth. After this...

Here in the UK I'm pretty sure allowing your kids to get obese counts as child abuse and people have had their kids taken away as a result.

The US needs this, hardcore.

...many of us raised questions about the opinion you stated.

I understand that. However, I've also stated multiple times that I'm talking extreme cases. I've also stated that I think the parents should have time to try to get their child in a healthier state before the government steps in. People overlook the majority of what I say and just focus on what they don't want to hear.

galegetsthin

I'm sorry that the sight of fat people makes you sick to your stomach. The sight of uneducated mouth breathers having children also disgusts me.

Thank you for motivating me to write my congressman to pass a law taking away the children of mouth breathing cretins. Those poor children. Being raised to be intellectually devoid and emotionally raised to be cruel and vapid individuals...

O.o

You use the word "vapid" rather often. Was it on your Webster's word of the day calendar or something?

katcod1522

I love it when my son walks all over me...especially my back after using the bow flex

hollyeverhart

:noway: How DARE overweight people go out in public! I'm so sorry you had to look at that :sad:

Uhh thats not at all what she said...Don't get all crazy & off topic. I agree with the original poster.

auticus

I'm sorry that the sight of fat people makes you sick to your stomach. The sight of uneducated mouth breathers having children also disgusts me.

Thank you for motivating me to write my congressman to pass a law taking away the children of mouth breathing cretins. Those poor children. Being raised to be intellectually devoid and emotionally raised to be cruel and vapid individuals...

O.o

You use the word "vapid" rather often. Was it on your Webster's word of the day calendar or something?

Hmm. Where else did I use the word "vapid"?

hollyeverhart

Let me tell ya something... LOL! I'd have had the same thoughts! Don't feel bad. Everybody judges everybody. I'm sure big people judge fit people all the time.... "...look at her, she thinks she's all that because she can wear a size 0, pshhhhhhh, she ain't got nothing on my lovely lady LUMPS!"

It is a SHAME that parents teach their kids to NOT have self control. That kid probably sensed your "disapproval" and made that face because she's been taught, "Eat up, honey! The more the better! Nevermind if you develop juvenile diabetes or are teased by kids, because you can squash them!"

**IF anybody is offended by what I say, that's too bad. I would think most of us MFP's are ALL for children's health.

I second this.

AGREE great response!

mlemonroe2

First off bribing your child to be good by stuffing a donut in their face is NOT the way to get them to be good. I know, I'm not a parent so I don't truly understand what it is like to have a screamin 2 year old in the grocery store when I'm running on 3 hours of sleep BUT I still don't think it's right for parents to bribe their children with food to be good. That is not a good way to raise them because then they'll learn that every time they throw a tantrum they will get what they want. They need to learn they are not the boss and they do as mama/papa says.

my child is 2. she throws lots of tantrums. for the most part, i just let her, but when i'm in the store and its been a long day and i just need to get out of there, i bust out the cheerios or fruit snacks to keep her busy so i can get out of there. all i said was i understand how the person who gives her kid a doughnut feels. not that i give my kids cake all the time to make them behave. it's easy to think how you would react if you have kids and totally another story when you actually do. props to anyone who never gives their child a snack or toy to stop a screaming fit. It dosn't happen a lot, but it happens. No one is perfect, not even parents

eeeekie

I know a 2yo that's tall, kind of husky and he can ride a bicycle without training wheels. YUP he's 2 and he looks 5...and acts 5. Should he be taken from his mother because he's husky? His mom nor his dad are big people...she doesn't over feed him, she doesn't feed him like ****. He's just a big boy (husky and tall).

You NEVER know the story of a child or family dynamic/income when you see them out. You may 100% judge this child thinking his mother is over feeding, he isn't active, and she's a bad mom but you'd be 100% WRONG.

Do you know a 2 year old that rides a bike with no training wheels?


I also know a 6yo girl who's VERY thin, active and her mother feeds her like *kitten*. Just because she's thin doesn't mean she's healthy.

CaptainGordo

I understand that. However, I've also stated multiple times that I'm talking extreme cases. I've also stated that I think the parents should have time to try to get their child in a healthier state before the government steps in. People overlook the majority of what I say and just focus on what they don't want to hear.

I only questioned where the line is drawn. You say "extreme", but that is pretty vague. I prefer not to give that kind of "vague" authority to the gov't.

taramaureen

Seriously...if Im in Target..and my 6 yr old who is 43lbs wants a donut and it keeps him from screaming for the hour Im in the store...by God..hes getting a stinking donut! lol

LOL!!! I have a 2 year old so I totally get that!

Some parents remove their children from such situations immediately rather than allowing them to learn that temper tantrums in public will get them what they want.

some children blah blah blah.. yeah you try taking a 2 year old to the post office while you wait in line to mail a package and they continue to run for the door and want to play... they scream and holler and throw fits do you lose your place in line to leave and mail the package later or do you take the sucker that the post office employee offers to calm him down?? hmmm, I take the sucker and it usually it works so the hell with you saying you can immediately leave when it comes to temper tantrums and let's see how it works out for you

\My 3 year is better educated then that.
He dont throw tantrums in public places and he listens to me when I explain to him that he needs to settle down and he can have something healthier when we get home.
Its all in how we raise and educate our children in how its appropriate to behave.
If you wanna let your children walk all over you, thats your problem.

You obviously do not have a child with ADHD. Children are different. My two children are polar oposites of eachother. My dauther is calm, cool, collected. At 18 months old I knew I could take her to a funeral and her not tip the casket over. My son... well lets just say he's the demon child from hell who would not only have tipped the casket over but jumped into it and pretended it was a truck. You pick your battles, dude.