Nudity - and your children

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
edited October 6 in Chit-Chat
So, yesterday this was touched on, but I didn't really follow the thread... I know it's controversial, and that's not my intention in posting this, but I do want opinions on your children seeing you naked. Last night it came up at a gathering with friends and one guy essentially thought it was appalling that my son still sees my boobies.

My story: I'm a single mom of a five year old. I do not lock doors when I'm in the bathroom, changing, etc. I close the door slightly and do my business, but I want to be able to hear him at all times. If he flings the door open with some superhero he wants me to assemble, well, he's going to see boobs.

I personally just don't think nudity should be so taboo, but, i don't want to traumatize my kid with the sight of my knockers *LOL*

What's your take on it? Keep in mind the single scenario and if there's not another parent available to keep an eye on things when you shower...
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  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Your kid, your home, your rules.

    Personally I think it's good for kids in a way. Teaches them that it's normal and not to be ashamed of their bodies. I think people that go too far the other way are saddling their kids with some crazy hang ups and emotional issues. But to each their own.
  • baybeecakes08
    baybeecakes08 Posts: 107
    I see nothing wrong with it at all.
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    Nope nothing wrong with that and as they get older you will see how they ask or start to stare and then you will know to cover up.

    Oh wait I forgot....can I see your boobs? Then I can give a good judgment if they will scare him. Medical opinion you know.
  • ilovedeadlifts
    ilovedeadlifts Posts: 2,923 Member
    I envy your 5 year old son.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    Just don't feed him any pizza!

    :wink:
  • papastu
    papastu Posts: 737 Member
    on the same subject , sort of, how about going out for a meal at the local pub today and a woman was breastfeeding her baby while we ate, surely she could have sat in a corner, but no, right in the middle of everyone, even my wife said she could have made an effort to protect herself from all the ogling young men


    :noway:
  • souperficial
    souperficial Posts: 122 Member
    Growing up, the bathroom was always super busy in the morning, since we all had to get ready for work and school at the same time. I saw stuff. We all saw stuff. Nobody really cared. I'm not traumatized. I'm almost 20 now, and when I'm home for breaks like I am now, it's still like that. We have a house rule that only family is allowed upstairs, so mom's been known to just walk around naked while she gets ready for her day.
  • CiciPorcayo
    CiciPorcayo Posts: 380 Member
    I honestly don't think their is anything wrong with that. Maybe when he becomes more mature... 12yrs or older that might be a little weird you know but honestly the world is perverse now a days. Things that were once so innocent aren't because ppl have sick twisted minds. Like you can't have pictures of your baby in the tub due to child pornography? This was so common when I was a baby my mom has tons of these pictures. I never thought my mom was weird for having naked bubble bath pictures of me at age 2 and 3 now if I was 13-14 okay THAT WOULD BE BAD!! but no... My son is 4 and sometimes sees me naked. I try to not let him not because I find it wrong or apalling but because I don't wanna scar the poor kid. :laugh: but in all honesty young kids under 12 yrs don't know or wouldn't know the difference...
  • AmyLRed
    AmyLRed Posts: 856 Member
    to me, at 5, not weird at all. at 12, yeah, thats different.

    My son is 2 and a half, and i am starting to teach him about privacy. I am in the bathroom when he bathes and uses the bathroom, but trying to teach him that he doesnt need to be in the room while I do! :) He giggles if he sees me topless changing though. I just tell him its not good manners to laugh at mommies boobies. Please go play. And he does.
  • Alisha_countrymama
    Alisha_countrymama Posts: 821 Member
    Every person feels different about this subject. Honestly some kids breast feed till their that age. i don't think it will scar him for life.
  • sportsjunkee70
    sportsjunkee70 Posts: 173 Member
    We were all born naked and I believe it is natural. I see nothing wrong with it.

    I envy your 5 year old :P
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    I have never locked my door.....my son is 13 now so I'm thinking it's time..........but he's a very young 13 year old.........at 5 - he saw it ALL!!! My daughter is a girl so it's free range with her. Although not vice-versa - I haven't seen her naked in years. Well my son either......but we were talking about them seeing us right???!!!
  • TheCats_Meow
    TheCats_Meow Posts: 438 Member
    With my daughter, I don't really care what she sees because she'll eventually have it all, too.

    With my son, though, I don't necessarily try to avoid him seeing at all costs, but I at least try to be covered up when he's around. Although, he is the WORST when it comes to barging into my room at the exact moment I'm completely naked. Never fails.

    I don't really care either way, though. They're both still relatively young (DS - 5, DD - 7) so I don't think they'll be traumatized.
  • Coltsman4ever
    Coltsman4ever Posts: 602 Member
    Society has made the human body such a nasty thing. How dare you show your body to anybody! Especially children. Who probably care the least because society hasn't had the opportunity to teach them how wrong it is yet.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I envy your 5 year old son.

    *smooches*
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    on the same subject , sort of, how about going out for a meal at the local pub today and a woman was breastfeeding her baby while we ate, surely she could have sat in a corner, but no, right in the middle of everyone, even my wife said she could have made an effort to protect herself from all the ogling young men


    :noway:

    You are joking right?
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I have a 6 year old girl and I do tell her that it isnt appropriate for her to just barge in to a room without announcing your presence, but it is more to teach her limits and to make sure she doesnt barge in while the boyfriend is changing clothes. But if I am nekkid and she knocks I will let her come in. She is gonna have the same parts I have, and I dont want her to think that the body is something gross that one needs to be ashamed of.
  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
    single mom with (almost) 5y.o. daughter...sometimes she still takes showers with me. Most the time doors aren't closed all the way for the same reasons you stated.

    My best friend and I use to talk to her mom when she'd take baths and she'd just cover herself with a towel and we never thought twice about it.
    Rare times I take a bath, my daughter is usually playing with barbies in the bathroom talking to me.

    I think it's harmless up until a certain age...being that I have a girl, she'll prolly always see her mom half naked hahaha
  • NeshBeMe
    NeshBeMe Posts: 148 Member
    I'm a single parent as well. I have 2 daughters but it's the same concept. My youngest was ALWAYS into stuff when I went in the bathroom or turned my head. I see nothing wrong with it. Now if he was a teenager, maybe but he's 5!! Don't feel bad and don't let someone else's opinion change how you run YOUR household.
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    on the same subject , sort of, how about going out for a meal at the local pub today and a woman was breastfeeding her baby while we ate, surely she could have sat in a corner, but no, right in the middle of everyone, even my wife said she could have made an effort to protect herself from all the ogling young men


    :noway:

    Sorry as guy and I am being serious I see nothing wrong in that and I say that because my daughter-in-law breast feeds and covers up so as to not bother anybody and I think it's normal.....I think you are going to get slammed by this comment...sorry.
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    on the same subject , sort of, how about going out for a meal at the local pub today and a woman was breastfeeding her baby while we ate, surely she could have sat in a corner, but no, right in the middle of everyone, even my wife said she could have made an effort to protect herself from all the ogling young men


    :noway:

    Sorry as guy and I am being serious I see nothing wrong in that and I say that because my daughter-in-law breast feeds and covers up so as to not bother anybody and I think it's normal.....I think you are going to get slammed by this comment...sorry.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    I do think that seeing boobs is one thing, and seeing a wiener is another.
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I think at five years old, that's probably fine. I think as the child gets older, you could be more modest. I know I didn't want to see my parents naked as a child, I thought it was GROSS... I remember seeing my thirty year old cousin naked in the shower and thinking her boobs were gross and wondering WHY she wanted me to come into the bathroom (to grab her kid out of the shower) and I was about 9. I think to each their own. I know in my house nakedness was very taboo and now I'm very weird about nudity because of it. It messed me up and I don't want that for my children...but I don't think I'll just be careless about it. I figure, if it happens, it happens, but I'm not sure how far I would go with allowing them to see me naked.

    I think what you've mentioned is just fine, though.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I totally think that when they're young it's not a big deal, I agree with most everything everyone else said. Your situation is similar to mine in that we have sons. I think that if I had daughters I would never think there was an age that mattered, but at some point I know my son will think it is disgusting to see me naked, and then he'll probably avoid it at all costs!
  • TheCats_Meow
    TheCats_Meow Posts: 438 Member
    OMG, can no one PLEASE bring up the breastfeeding in public thing again.

    It was torturous enough yesterday.

    Please....LET. IT. DIE.
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    I am naked in front of mine, boy is 2 and girl is 9, would probably be different if it was the other way round though.
  • ddecarr
    ddecarr Posts: 103 Member
    Send me a picture of the boobies in question and I'll tell you if I'm offended LOL!
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    I think its completely normal and fine. I have three boys and the older two (4 and 7) are often barging into the bathroom while I'm showering and yanking back the curtain to tell me something... usually to tattle on the other one.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I just tell him its not good manners to laugh at mommies boobies. Please go play. And he does.

    Love it :)
  • EpiGaiaRepens
    EpiGaiaRepens Posts: 824 Member
    i think as long as you have a healthy relationship with your kid, your kid will let you know when they are not comfortable with it. Just be receptive to clues- like your kid wanting privacy for themselves.
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