Husband left me because of weight. NEW motivation.

I can't believe he could do that!! My husband has loved me through fat and thin and fat again and has always showed he loved me. I'm now thin again and he is pleased for me but I never had a doubt in my mind that he would be here for me, what ever..I'm so sorry, my dear, that your husband couldn't see through the excess weight and love you for who you are. We're all here for you if you need us! Fiona xx

That's complete BS. I have a shovel, an empty trunk, and my ability as a Sicilian to hide bodies in the Nevada desert. Just kidding.

I don't care how many times you've tried and it didn't happen. He should never have stopped supporting you. And to be honest, he cheated because he would have cheated anyway, not because of your weight. That's just a crap excuse from a crap excuse of a man.

Now is your time to get healthy for YOU. You can do this and you will find so much support here. *hugs*

You may not think this now but he did you the best favor EVER by leaving you. You deserve someone that loves you no matter what, plus, being in your early 20s and single ROCKS!

Lose the weight, get healthy, play the field and have loads of fun! You deserve it, you also deserve someone that is worth of you, not some one that is a controlling mentally abusive ahole, Trust me, I am 43 years old and did not get married until I was in my 30s. I have been there done that in about every different kind of relationship situation there is. Had he not left you, you would have woke up in your 30s one day and ask why in the world you wasted so much time with such a creep.

Good luck!

That's low. Glad you are rid of him and gained us

If you like another friend, feel free to add me!

To put it politely, your ex is an idiot and never deserved someone like you. I know what it is like to gain weight and have an un-supportive spouse when you are working to loose it. Forget loosing the weight to prove he's an *kitten*. You already know he is. Do it for yourself. When I started loosing my weight, I found that I wanted to do more, live more, and experience more. I took charge of my life. I lost a person and found myself. I am so much happier too. This is a new chapter in your life, Make it what ever you want it to be. We are all here to support you in more than just your weight loss.

My ex-husband used the same excuse when he cheated on me and left me. He did it right after I had lost a lot of weight. Your weight is not really the issue, he's just all screwed up. Just get out there and do the best you can to become healthly for you! I wish you the best of luck!

I cannot even believe that came out of his mouth. Everything he said and did was clearly inexcusable. I'd be happy to support you into making him regret it by looking fabulous in every way! (I'm petty and believe in looking as good a physically possible as a big ol' F you )

Good luck on your journey. I don't log very often but I like to think I know what I'm doing exercise-wise, if you want some help with that

It is a good thing he is gone. You don't deserve to be treated that way. You have a terrific outlook and I know that you can and will lose the weight. Cutting back is the way to go. The food diary will help track where the calories, etc. are coming from.

He didn't cheat because you gained weight, he cheated because he's a selfish putz and the "you gained weight" excuse was as good as any other.

What a complete jerk and idiot, i will add you now lovely..

Wow. You sound a lot like me and my ex. I was 190 when we got together then started to gain weight and got up to 235. He was a complete *kitten* to me. Verbally and physically abusive to me, as well as cheating on me. Blamed me because I got fat. I tried to lose weight but had little success. Finally after 3 1/2 years of that I finally got the guts to leave him.

I have a new guy that I have been with a little over a year. I am currently at 226 and trying to lose for our wedding in Oct. He supports me and makes me want to continue to exercise. He even works out with me. I just got the 30 Day Shred and am on L1D3. As well as I love the Wii Zumba 2. Great workouts that burn lots of cals in little time.

Just remember, its not about the guy. You have to do it for you. Find a guy that will love you how you are but one that will help you thru your change!

Awe... I am sorry you had to go through that experience. You didn't deserve that. I am so glad you are taking control and doing something for you. All you can do is move foward from here. You are doing great!

Your weight was just his excuse for bad behavior. You go out and change for yourself, you already got rid of the worst part of the extra baggage! 2012 is yours!

OK this kinda happened to me:
The love of my life years ago was very honest. I have always said please don't cheat be a man and be honest. If you feel like you could cheat or want to just leave. I'll be OK. And after 2.5 years he sat me down and said i'm so sorry i have to leave so of course devastated i had to know why. he wouldn't tell me for about a year exactly why but it came out he was honest that because i had gained so much weight (30lbs) while with him that he wasn't attracted to me but he didn't ever cheat he left first. As upset as i was i was OK i didn't stay upset long. I actually respected him more than i did when we were together.
Honesty is always better but at least you are doing something about it. Good job!

He wasn't the right man for you. If he truly had loved you your weight wouldn't have been that big of an issue. He used that as an excuse. Ick. Find yourself a decent guy who isn't going to insult your weight.