Husband left me because of weight. NEW motivation.

Well, you lost the best 175ish? pounds when he walked out the door. Now, just take care of yourself. Don't look back! Good luck to you in your journey! You Can Do This!

Men! ARGH! My ex husband took a video of me walking in front of him, then showed it to me and said 'And you wonder why I don't find you attractive?' referring to my bum. He's now with a stick 10 years younger than us.

OMG, what a *kitten*! Ah, men.... You can't live with them.

Your weight wasn't the problem. He needed an excuse and your weight was what he used. Apparently, you didn't choose a good person and I'm sorry for you for that. I'm not sorry you've decided to take control of your life and lose your weight but do it for YOU! not anyone else. Get healthy, & live longer with a partner that truly loves you.

^^^^^This! He is an jerk and he doesn't deserve you! He was looking for excuses to leave and he was just trying to hurt you in the process. My ex did the same, except the opposite extreme...I didn't have high enough body fat to suit him and he said nasty things about my body too. Trust me chica, being single is MUCH better than being with someone who doesn't love and appreciate you for who you are on the inside! You'll reach your goals and he'll be left wishing he hadn't been such a shallow a*s**le!!!!!! (((hugs)))

Seems like he was just using any excuse to cover up for his cheating.. your young, beautiful and you only deserve the best... he didnt want to give that to you... do it for yourself and just prove you dont need his insults anymore. You can find someone who will support you for you 110%. Best of luck to you on this journey its a very supportive community here on MFP!

He didn't leave you because of your weight. He left you because he's an a**. You haven't lost 20 pounds, you've lost 20 pounds plus however much he weighs. Congrats - you've lost about 200 pounds! That has to feel like a relief

You have lost the most weight, the big jerk that treated you badly! The weight that was dragging you down. I know exactly how it feels when a man dumps you because of your weight. Lose the weight for you and no one else! Lose it to get healthy and be happy with yourself! You are young and beautiful, another man will see your beauty inside and out no matter how much you weigh.

when you reach your goal and I feel your strong and you will! Please, please do not gine him the time of day, he will want you back!

Good riddance! He was using your insecurity and weight issue as his excuse for bad behavior. I am sorry to hear you have to go through it and experience the pain but in my humble opinion you are far better off without someone who is verbally and emotionally abusive. He probably hates himself so he took it out on you.

You are doing the right thing for the right person... YOU. There have been times in my life when I have been disappointed and hurt by people but just when you least expect it, around the next corner, is something amazing you could have never imagined. Persevere. There will be ups and downs along the way -- as they say, it is a journey.

Sorry you went through that sweetie!! There are a plenty of other fish in the sea that will love you for who you are. Not what you weigh. I was married to jerk who was the same way. Very emotionally abusive and he ended up cheating on me too. Left him and found a really great guy who loves me for me. NOT what i weigh. He is behind me every step of the way! If you need encouragement throughout this process this is the best place to get it! We are here behind you! If you need to talk about anything add me as a friend! I would love to help encourage you!:happy:

Sweetheart...your ex husband did not leave you or cheat on you because you gained weight. He was a jerk, to put it nicely, before you, or your weight, ever came into the picture. You deserve a man who will love you no matter what. That is what a husband, lover and best friend is supposed to be. I am lucky and have found one of those special men. You can do this! And like everyone has said...do it for YOU! Feel free to friend me if looking for support. I have a lot more than you to lose! Chin up girlie...jaws will be dropping in your future!

xxxx

I haven't read all of this thread, but to the OP. He didn't cheat on you, nor leave you, because of your weight. You were already 200 lbs when he married you. He did those things because he is a manipulative scumbag. It is no reflection on you.



Good for you for finding inspiration, though! Here's to a healthier and happier you in the coming year.

OMG, what a *kitten*! Ah, men.... You can't live with them.

I'm fully housetrained, you know.

Life goes on - be glad it happened you're young and in the perfect stage of your life to find someone who truly treasures you.

I completely understand what you are going through and sympathize with you. I am an ex military wife, and I believe the military in general breeds this attitude of cheating and berating. It steals emotions and sensitivity. Attitudes like "what goes on during TDY, stays on TDY" encourages cheating. I live by a large army post here in Oklahoma and have met only a handful of soldiers who haven't cheated. I have even dated a guy who told me his fiance had died in a car wreck years ago and surprise! His fiance--now his wife--call me and ask me who I am. I've also noticed young soldiers seem to crave their buddies approval when it comes to women. When I was going through my divorce, I called my ex and his friend answered and proceeded to tell me I was so fat I should kill myself. They are downright cruel and treat it as a game. Instead of loving and supporting, they become embarrassed because of their friends. It is a story I hear over and over again.