Husband left me because of weight. NEW motivation.

You cannot let him upset you, he sounds like he did not want to be in a relationship and just used your weight as an excuse. But it is great that you are wanting to lose some weight and get in shape. You need to do this for YOU and not anyone else (it will be a great feeling at the wedding when you see him and your lose weight and are all done up). You can do this just stay motivated keep logging and don't stop moving. I have to lose approx. 45lbs by next may, cause I am in a wedding. I am the oldest person standing up so I told myself I am not going to be the odest and heavyest, LOL.
I wish you all the luck in the world. I hope you do not let your past weigh on your heart. That chapter of your life is over, you are young and beautiful....
Take Care,
Kim

I completely understand what you are going through and sympathize with you. I am an ex military wife, and I believe the military in general breeds this attitude of cheating and berating. It steals emotions and sensitivity. Attitudes like "what goes on during TDY, stays on TDY" encourages cheating. I live by a large army post here in Oklahoma and have met only a handful of soldiers who haven't cheated. I have even dated a guy who told me his fiance had died in a car wreck years ago and surprise! His fiance--now his wife--call me and ask me who I am. I've also noticed young soldiers seem to crave their buddies approval when it comes to women. When I was going through my divorce, I called my ex and his friend answered and proceeded to tell me I was so fat I should kill myself. They are downright cruel and treat it as a game. Instead of loving and supporting, they become embarrassed because of their friends. It is a story I hear over and over again.

Sounds like your surrounding yourself with the wrong people. I know it goes on. Not everyone is like that though. Cheating goes on in the civilian world just as much as in the military. Last unit my husband was with was all about family. They also did marriage retreats every 6 months.

Good riddance to bad rubbish...is what i say about your ex. Your man should love you through thick & thin. What if you were scarred in a fire...would he love you??? That's not the man for you. You are a young beautiful woman and do not need someone who is beating your spirit down. You have gotten back on track and are committed to being a healthier you. I'm proud of you!! You keep your head up!!

That's terrible! Being healthy is one thing, but being criticized for weight alone? No way! If my man EVER talked to me like that, he'd be out in a minute. Never put up with disrespect from any man, life's too short to waste on *kitten*!

No offence but your ex is an a**. If he hadn't been an a** to you about your weight, he would have found something else to be an a** to you about. Someone who really loves you will support you and help you with your journey, not cheat on you and then use your weight as an excuse. I know it hurts, but honestly, good riddance. Lose the weight that you need to lose for yourself and then find someone who deserves you and will love and support you always.

Lose it for you and the multiple reasons it will lead to good and you'll have so much more from life. I'm sorry you've had to go through this but you are going to be stronger!

Thats crazy talk! He is a jerk! You deserve better!

You're biggest loss (but more of a gain!!!) to date is the 200 lbs (or whatever) of dead weight in that so called husband of yours. Move forward, don't look back! Lose the weight for yourself, never for another person, and especially NOT to "get even". Let that go.... as I see it, he's done you a favour by walking out that door!

yep.i hate your ex-husband too. he's a complete narcissistic *kitten* bag and worse, he even managed to convince you that it was your fault that he is a complete narcissistic *kitten* bag. well, he's wrong! its his own fault. you lose the weight, feel fabulous about yourself and then look for a decent guy who deserves you.

Well you should not want to be with someone so shallow anyway. I get they we have to be within our weight goals and try to be healthy,,,,,,it sounded like you were trying really hard. Oh well, just think how good it will feel when you meet your goals and r walking around looking hot and want nothing to do with the ex.......

I am sorry honey, I think that is just an excuse. If he loved you, he wouldn't have left you, he would be by your side motivating you! What a blow to your self esteem. you have to do this for YOURSELF no one else. YOU come first..to hell with him.
If there is anything I can do to help..left me know.

Just keep in mind that he was just looking for an excuse, and he picked one that would hurt you the most. Keep your head up and realize that he wasn't good for you.

Honey, you are beautiful! How dare he treat you the way he did! You are deserve so much better! He is just a sick, sad, and unhappy person to say the least! I am really glad you are on here and sweetie- this "boy" is going to be regretting this decision for the rest of his life because you were the best thing he will ever get. He deserves to be alone for the rest of his life! Stay strong and stay on top! You can do this! Add me as a friend if you want! I am also 20 years old

He wasn't worth the effort. He wasn't ready for a commitment. My husband has been with me for 10 years. I was 150 pounds when we met. After I had our 1st child a year and a half later, I was 200 pounds. I continued to gain weight, with a high of 245 ish pounds. I haven't been under 200 pounds for the last 8 or so years until the last 6 months. He has always been encouraging, he has always loved me for who I am regardless of what I looked like. We have had a few moments were I had to teach him that it wasn't ok to negatively motivate me, but he was willing to learn and understand. I'm finally losing the weight. I tried to run him off, but he stuck to me like glue.
You don't deserve to be treated like that. He left because of him, not you. He had a conditional commitment to you. A condition that he can not control... Please expect better next time around. You don't deserve to be treated well because of how you look, you deserve to be treated well because you are a human being.

I am so sorry! I know how you feel. My husband doesn't insult me, but he did cheat on me when my twins were only six months old. I have tried to understand because I know it is tough with me being in school and having two babies at one time, but the trust is gone and I do not know how to get it back. He really hasn't been very supportive, but this time I am going to do it. I have to for my health, my career, and my kids. I am going to see how things go with us and hopefully our relationship gets better, but if not I will have to consider making yet another change. The following quote has been on my mind lately and I am guessing with good reason:
"if you can't accept me at my worst, you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best" -Marilyn Monroe
It is something like that ...LOL
I wish you the best and you deserve to reach your goal and show him what he lost and cannot have back.