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Ok I hadn't seen ur other comment when I made my post. I stil belive that but id does sound like ptsd from an outsiders opinion. Does he go to therapy alone too? That may help. I wish you the best and hope it works out but I've seen guys come back from war and it changes who they are. Sometimes its hard to understand. But it still boils down to willingsness to compromise. Obviosuly he is going through some things. Can u try to support this until he gets some therapy and you continue to work on ur relationship? Not cut out ur friends but say ok I will not talk to them until we resolve our issues? Just an idea! Good luck!

Yes, I would be more then willing to meet him halfway and work this out, I just felt blindsided by all of this.
He went to therapy while he was getting out of the army and then stopped. I see a counselor on my own and see the same one in marriage counseling. Whe we go to marriage counseling I let him do almost all the talking because I want him to open up more. Most of the time the counselor will let us argue for a minute then take us back and tell us where the communication went wrong. A lot of the time, I will say something simple like " I would be happier if he helped me more around the house" but then he would say "oh, do you are saying I'm a useless piece of crap..." etc.. so he takes things I say to the extreme and out of context. Me asking for more help just mean throwing out his beer can instead of leaving it next to the computer, or maybe just not leaving trash on the coffee table. I am not trying to put him down, it's just something that would make me happier so I get it out in therapy. He started thinking the marriage counselor was on my side and hasn't gone the past 3 sessions. When the couselor told me not to have guy friends it was during one of my one on ones. I have a friend thats a guy who is married with 2 small children and we worked out together one day and he showed me how to use the weights and such and I was telling the counselor how nice it is to have friends to help me and he said having friends of the opposite sex can be dangerous because you bond with them more then your spouse, but honestly, I probably bond more with my counselor with my spouse because he always seems to understand what I am trying to say without judging me. lol. I don't have guy friends I'm attracted to. I don't hang out with guy friends alone in our homes or alone at bars, we are in groups with other people and girls. The only time I hung out with a guy alone was at the gym and like I said, married with 2 kids and no attraction. If hanging out with guys bugged him, I can work with that, but deleting everyone off facebook, it's jsut too extremem for me and I'd feel like I'd be losing a part of myself. I will find out more when we talk. I am begging him to go back to one on one therapy so well see if he decides to go back or not. He doesn't like talking to people so he was never big on it. I wish he had more friends to talk to and connect with so he would open up more. Sometimes I can be super mad at him and a friend will put me in my place and tell me that I'm flat out wrong and that will wake me up and I will go to him and apologise. He doesn't have that. When he gets mad or thinks a certain way, he has nothing to break him out of that way of thinking because he keeps to himself. I am huge on listening to people and forming my own conclusion based on the information provided. I think it makes you a better person to look at all sides and hear everyone out, weather you believe the same thing or not. He doesn't think like me and doesn't want other people's opinions so when we have discussions about things that upset us, I have to almost play therapist for the both of us and find out where his anger came from, what provoked it, what I can change, what can prevent it in the future, etc...He never looks at my point of view so we always end up agreeing to disagree. I am the main giver in the relationship and I have never had a major problem with it until now. I think PTSD may have a lot to do with it, but I just never know. He's not the same guy anymore. I wish he would open up to me and talk to me but sometimes, it just doesn't happen. I am going to try to be nice when he gets home and talk about other things in his life and she if there is something else triggering the feelings he has about my friends. Maybe he's sad that other people share the same lifestyle as me and he doesn't so it makes him insecure and sad? I won't know until I ask him. I don't want to think he's cheating on me...we made a pact when we got married that if we no longer wanted to be together we would get divorced and not cheat on each other. We are both honest when it comes to serious issues like that. Neither of us want to look for other people or give up on this relationship. It's not easy for everyone. The war messes with people. He will never be the same person again and I am trying to evolve everyday and learn how to change and learn how to live with the changes and still not lose myself. If we had met after he had been to war, we would not have gotten married. We probably wouldn't even have met each other. We originally met through a guy friend of mine. He was his best friend. We all hung out all summer and went swimming, hiking, horseback riding, four wheeling, eating out a lot, going to movies, etc...we loved being together. Now he's an introvert. Hates crowds, doesn't like talking on the phone..etc...our lives would be so different....but we took our vows and I am determined to stand by him regardless of his changes, because he stuck with me through back surgery and my flaws. If it ever gets abusive or if he cheats on me, those are the only exceptions where I would leave. I want us to have a happy ending, but he's gotta let me in and let me know what he is feeling and why, not just putting demands out on the table.