At a loss for words...my journey is put on hold.

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  • amycdsteinberg
    amycdsteinberg Posts: 52 Member
    Yes, your journey is on hold, but congratulations on the reason why!!! Any baby is a blessing! This exact thing happened to me in 2010-I found out we were accidentally pregnant just as I had realized I weighed the most I had ever weighed in my life and was determined to get it off. I cried, and felt so overwhelmed(my TWIN girls were only 18 months old)!!! But then we were excited and I ate very carefully during the pregnancy and though this is rare, I did not gain ONE pound during the pregnancy and a week after delivery I was 44 pounds less than when I started. We had an incredibly beautiful healthy baby boy, and though we are SO DONE, I am so thankful for him! I did put alot of that back on and am now struggling once again, but it is a battle I will win! Hang in there, with God's help you WILL make it!
  • becka_anaily
    becka_anaily Posts: 21
    i think you should delete this entire conversation cause all these ppl seem to be doing is guilt trippin you about having the baby i think you should speak to your midwife and do what you like at the end of the day this is your baby x
  • karenwill2
    karenwill2 Posts: 604 Member
    it happens. I lost weight during my last pregnancy.
  • CZenks
    CZenks Posts: 17 Member
    Good luck to you and almost all the time it all works out okay in the end. Keep on eating healthy and keep moving (as long as doc says its okay and you feel like it). That can only help you throughout your pregnancy and post pregnancy.
  • Queenb62303
    Queenb62303 Posts: 77
    i have been there before. the week before we were moving to north carolina (from missouri) we found out we were pregnant. had already had everything packed, rental truck booked....and no where to live after friday! i had given my notice at work already...and had already been replaced= no job! from a weight perspective, i weighed already what i did at full term with my first son, and i had JUST found out i was pregnant!! Needless to say everything worked out for the better! Dont know youre religious views, but i believe everything happens for a reason! Thats the attitude and mid set i had, and tried to be positive. 2 months after finding out i was pregnant my grampa be came very ill and ended up dieing- if we had moved, i dont think i would have been able to make it back to spend any last time with him, or even for the funeral....so keep your head up! this is a great blessing you have been given! Congratulations!!
  • Queenb62303
    Queenb62303 Posts: 77
    I don't see the problem with saying that a pregnancy is an accident. It happens.
    Now saying that a child was a 'mistake', that would be different.

    agreed - and accidents can be blessings too :)
  • slk1954
    slk1954 Posts: 8
    Well, congratulations are in order first and foremost. And you don't have to let all the hard work be for nothing. You can be the most physically fit cute mommy in the world if you want to be. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you can't work out, doesn't mean you can't eat healthy foods and watch your calorie intake. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you have to feel and look like the Goodyear Blimp and then have to work extremely hard to recover after the little bundle of joy is here in the real world. Make it your goal to be healthy to be physical not to gain too much of your weight back and be happy all the way around. Find a fitness group and nutritionist in your area to help you design an exercise and diet for you while you're pregnant. Don't be discouraged, this is not the end of you of the road for you insofar as getting your body back in shape. You just need to make allowances for the little person sharing your body with you. Don't be discouraged, don't be unhappy, just make some adjustments, that's all. Let us know how you're doing, okay?

    Sheree (sLk1954)
  • ShrinkingNinja
    ShrinkingNinja Posts: 460 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...
    so wait...are you telling me unless she doesnt want another baby she should stop having sex with her husband??? wow...that's a lovely idea....:noway:
    No...just don't refer to a baby as an accident.

    Its her baby.... She can called it whatever she wants. Although, I waited until my kids were old enough to know I was joking before I affectionately gave them the nicknames Spawn 1 and Spawn 2. lol
  • LelliAmi
    LelliAmi Posts: 327 Member
    You can still exercise while pregnant. Just don't do anything you wouldn't normally do and take it easier in the third trimester. You'll bounce back faster that way, too!
  • Millissa8
    Millissa8 Posts: 3
    sweetie... I have 6 kiddos and each one is a blessing :O) not to say they are not insanely hard but KNOW that eventually they all grow up and you WILL miss these moments so try,as hard as it may be, to enjoy this cause you will NEVER get this time back, even your pregnancy... keep your chin up
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    Accident? Really?
  • lovelyrose11
    lovelyrose11 Posts: 609 Member
    Well everyone. I have been working hard and lost 20 lbs, which is great, I am happy. My husband and I found out we had a little accident and we are pregnant. I was just really working hard on trying to lose the weight from our last one. Of course I would always love any baby that comes into our family, but I'm not ready right now, we have 3 healthy children and I feel so lost and confused. I could use some inspiration if anyone has some.

    I understand your frustration. I am working on losing the baby weight my 6 month old gave me and I would be in so much shock right now if I was pregnant again. I want to be very healthy before the next one comes along. However, just think of how much you are gonna love this child! This child is gonna mean so much more to you than the 20 lbs you lost. You have the tools to maintan a healthy pregnancy weight and lose the weight once it's over. Focus on the new baby and having a healthy pregnancy:happy:
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    Accident? Really?

    Yes, accident. Because sometimes people use protection, but something unexpected happens, which makes it an accident.
  • mistresseeyore
    mistresseeyore Posts: 717 Member
    I lost 25 pounds while I was pregnant with my son. The doctor had me on a strict diet due to Gestational Diabetes caused by PCOS. It can be done.

    I pray every night to give my son a sibling, so be thankful your fertile and don't have to look into taking fertility treatments.
  • dvcab
    dvcab Posts: 78
    just hang in there!!! and get your tubes tied!! LOL

    Or better still get your husband fixed its easier to do...lol but congrats as someone else said we are only given what we can cope with, i have four boys (well men now) and i wouldnt change them for the world. The shock of someone you you know dying giving birth is only relevant cause your pregnant is they were hit by a bus would you stop crossing roads. Everyone has their own path to travel and we cant tell when our journey ends or how. So live for today and look forward to your blessing.
  • leanmachinedream
    leanmachinedream Posts: 223
    Personally I would have an abortion. No one says you HAVE to be pregnant and if financially and emotionally you can't handle another child then abortion is a legitimate option for you. Don't let anyone guilt you into thinking otherwise.

    Either way, you can still exercise and log what you eat. Continue to eat healthy, and don't use pregnancy as an excuse to pig out. If you have the mentality that your journey is on pause, then you're already off on the wrong foot.
  • dvcab
    dvcab Posts: 78
    just hang in there!!! and get your tubes tied!! LOL

    Or better still get your husband fixed its easier to do...lol but congrats as someone else said we are only given what we can cope with, i have four boys (well men now) and i wouldnt change them for the world. The shock of someone you you know dying giving birth is only relevant cause your pregnant is they were hit by a bus would you stop crossing roads. Everyone has their own path to travel and we cant tell when our journey ends or how. So live for today and look forward to your blessing.

    And ps yes keep eating healthy with a few more cal for bub and exercise. :happy:
  • ZCEmama
    ZCEmama Posts: 29 Member
    Congrats on your new little one. It is difficult to find yourself pregnant when you aren't expecting it. My last child was a surprise also. We already had 4, our oldest was 17 and our youngest was 9! I was overwhelmed to find out I was pregnant at 37! But, we started over and were blessed with a sweet baby girl who turned 2 in November. I was also trying to lose weight when we found out I was pregnant. I ate very carefully and did moderate exercising. Walks and swimming. I lost 3 lbs during the pregnancy and gave birth to a very healthy 8lb 9oz baby girl. I came home from the hospital in my jeans and went to the 6 week appt in a smaller pants size! LOL

    It will all work out for the best and when you hold your new baby, you'll wonder why you were ever worried... :flowerforyou:
  • pixiestick
    pixiestick Posts: 839 Member
    Its her baby.... She can called it whatever she wants. Although, I waited until my kids were old enough to know I was joking before I affectionately gave them the nicknames Spawn 1 and Spawn 2. lol

    It might take a while, but "Spawn 4" could be a term of endearment :wink:

    But seriously, congratulations. A good friend of mine was in a very similar boat to yours (had two, were surprised by the coming of a third) and had gained a lot of weight with the second preg. She went to a nutritionist and started walking every morning. She wound up losing weight during the pregnancy... and didn't have a whole host of other issues she had struggled with (pregnancy induced diabetes, for one). The birth wound up being the easiest one she had had.

    :heart: :flowerforyou: :wink:
  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    Personally I would have an abortion. No one says you HAVE to be pregnant and if financially and emotionally you can't handle another child then abortion is a legitimate option for you. Don't let anyone guilt you into thinking otherwise.
    Brava.
  • sweetrice12
    sweetrice12 Posts: 101 Member
    I work in a fertility clinic where women are trying to get pregnant all the time, so I suppose we should consider ourselves lucky.

    I have to politely disagree - the inability to conceive would take a lot of pressure out of my life.

    If OP is happy, I am happy for her and offer my congratulations, but I guess it's just a stupid pet peeve of mine that I should feel "lucky" just because I can do something that someone else can't.

    It just makes me appreciate what I have, that's all. Babies are blessings.
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    Babies are blessings.

    To you.
  • Twinsmama75
    Twinsmama75 Posts: 76 Member
    I have 4 kids and while we tried for all of them, our first pregnancy was a set of twins. I was scared, depressed and other feelings I am very ashamed of :( I can look back now and say that a lot of my feelings were because of shock and just the normal pregnancy hormones that make dealing with things that much more difficult. But now I am soooooo thankful we got twins, once we got past the hard part, it was a breeze.

    That being said we are D.O.N.E. so if I got pregnant I would feel the same as you. But I firmly believe God has a plan for each family and I would try to trust in that, if you are a praying person. You will feel different as you adjust to this shock. My brother passed away from suicide a few months ago and I remember thinking how I wish I could get pregnant again so I could feel that "life" and a GOOD shock instead.

    Goodluck and go easy on yourself, you have 9 months to adjust to having a 4th child. (I know I didn't address the weight-loss issue, but that doesn't seem to be the biggest issue for you right now! :wink:
  • monkeypantz
    monkeypantz Posts: 288 Member
    Congratulations!

    There is a lady at my Gym was use to work out when she was pregnant till about 8.5 months. She took a month off working out when she had the baby, but was then back in the gym, looking as amazing as ever!
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    You can definitely walk and that will be good for the baby! And also, if you are eating healthy that is great for the baby. You just won't be eating to lose, but maintaining a healthy weight during pregnancy is the best thing you can do for you and your baby. You will probably feel better than you did in your prior pregnancies.

    Look at it this way, if it was something you wanted in the future, then God just decided you were ready for it now. What better time than when you are already on track with your health and your weight.

    Take it from someone who always wanted another child but ended up in menopause early, this is a blessing!
  • rtaddlowe
    rtaddlowe Posts: 70
    Well everyone. I have been working hard and lost 20 lbs, which is great, I am happy. My husband and I found out we had a little accident and we are pregnant. I was just really working hard on trying to lose the weight from our last one. Of course I would always love any baby that comes into our family, but I'm not ready right now, we have 3 healthy children and I feel so lost and confused. I could use some inspiration if anyone has some.

    Congratulations! There is no greater gift and seeing a brand new little one will bring a lot of joy to you and your whole family. I think if you stay active and talk with your OB and follow the advice given you can still keep on track. Good Luck ! You have a big support group out here.
  • Grlnxtdr0721
    Grlnxtdr0721 Posts: 597 Member
    First, congratulations!!! Don't give up your journey...remember that you are and have been making a lifestyle change. You don't have to change that just because your pregnant. And, as long as you get the okay from your doctor, you can still work out and continue to eat the right foods.
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    This very same thing happened to me....I had lost 65lbs and was done having children and SUPRISE! I am now back to trying to lose 75lbs, but I have an amazing young boy that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world!

    I was angry for the first two weeks....and then it passed....and I realized how blessed I truly was.

    Good luck...take care of yourself...you can continue a light, pregnancy-friendly fitness routine and eat very healthy!
  • Connie0510
    Connie0510 Posts: 2
    These unplanned ones are the nicest gifts! Cherish it....it will all work out.
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    Well everyone. I have been working hard and lost 20 lbs, which is great, I am happy. My husband and I found out we had a little accident and we are pregnant. I was just really working hard on trying to lose the weight from our last one. Of course I would always love any baby that comes into our family, but I'm not ready right now, we have 3 healthy children and I feel so lost and confused. I could use some inspiration if anyone has some.

    What a blessing a child can be.My friend is in her 8th month and during her pregnancy she has lost 20lbs. IN A HEALTHY WAY. She worked with her doctor and her baby is perfectly healthy and she is also getting healthy because she is not over eating and is doing pregnancy work outs which will benifit her once she has child birth.

    Talk to your doctor. It will be okay :)
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