Dr. Phil - Open Marriage
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Me an my husband do not really have an open marrige,i have no desire to be with another man,but I can be with any girl i want lol0
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I have several polyamorous friends. Seems like it works for them very well. In fact, it makes more sense in a way, because they have an "extended family" who all look after one another... far less risky than the traditional "put all your eggs in one basket" approach in many respects.0
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Each to their own. If it works for them, that is good. It isn't for everyone, and it isn't for me.
But honestly, who am I to judge?0 -
I have a couple of friends in open marriages. Works for them just fine.
Most of the time when they tell me stories my face is like: :noway:0 -
Why bother to get married then?
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Lol, many married people out there now have sexual relationships other than they partner in secret. Anyone ever hear of a massage parlor?
If it is working for them, who cares? Morality for others will never equal what how some view morality should be.
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Why bother to get married then?
Thank you!! Marriage means you will love honor and sleep with that one person the rest of your life.. If you dont get the commitement than dont get married! Ugh this world we live in these days I dont get it.. The idea of my husband touching and being inside another woman makes my skin crawl no i dont want you porking other woman than coming home to me no thanks..
The people that I know that have open marriages - it doesn't work quite the way you said it. For each of the couples I know that do this, it is a very intimate part of their lives and it is done together, not as an affair where they leave the house, pick up some random person and then come home to their spouse. In fact, each couple I know has this as a rule that cannot be done, it is considered cheating and infidelity. I couldn't do it personally, quite honestly, I couldn't ever trust anyone enough to try.0 -
Monogamy doesn't work for me. I have a lot of needs, wants, and desires. I like meeting new people and having different experiences, learning from those I meet. Anyone who gets with me will also have a large personality (otherwise we won't "click") with their own needs. The communication is also a lot better, with lack of jealousy, fill of acceptance and no judgement. It makes the sex with the main partner SO much better.
From the beginning I am very clear about the fact that I am an open type. If they can't handle that, it goes no further.0 -
I didn't watch either but to each their own.
My husband asks if he can have a second wife all the time. I say if she cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids and him.... I am all for it!
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I was SICKENED by the notion that their kids were a part of it!!! They were involved in the lives of their sex partners. Fully aware of what lifestyle they lead. Life is confusing enough for kids as it is. Do your thing...whatever...but leave the kids out of it. SO...yeah...she sat down with her 11 year-old daughter to watch porn...so that she could explain it to her!??! Puh-lease. I have an 11 year-old daughter...we've had and will continue to have healthy conversations about sex...NO VIDEO required! Yeesh...0
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Why bother to get married then?
Thank you!! Marriage means you will love honor and sleep with that one person the rest of your life.. If you dont get the commitement than dont get married! Ugh this world we live in these days I dont get it.. The idea of my husband touching and being inside another woman makes my skin crawl no i dont want you porking other woman than coming home to me no thanks..
There's nothing in the vow of marriage about sleeping with only one person. It's only part of the vow of marriage if that's the commitment you make to one another. Marriage is about commitment to each other that runs much greater than sex. Not to mention a legal commitment. So there's plenty of reason to marry someone even if both parties agree that they want to be intimate with other people.
And lets not pretend like polygamy is something new. Back in biblical times, it was common for men to have multiple wives. So it's not exactly new or shocking.
Like I said in my other post, it's certainly something that's not for most people (myself included), but as long as all people involved are consenting, I don't think their lifestyle is any less valid than mine.
From what I understand the "Vow" is simply the part you say "In front of God and these witnesses". Quick Google on Traditional vows finds these:
"Forsaking all others, till death do us part."
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"faithfully keep to her/him alone, so long as you both shall live?"
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"and to that I pledge you my faithfulness. "
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"and I promise to love you, and to be faithful to you as long as we both shall live."
Obviously you don't have to have these specific statements in your vows. But not sleeping with others is exactly what these say. Personally I've never been to a wedding, including one in a judges chamber, where some type of "Forsaking all others" was not in the vow. Yeah, you don't sign a paper with these words on it, but the word "swear" indicates a promise.0 -
We all make our way through life as best we can. If everyone is on board, I fail to see the problem.
What's right for some may not be for others, but that doesn't make it wrong.
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Whatever works for them. But, often times these kind of arrangements end when someone falls in love with someone other than their spouse. As long as they are aware of the pitfalls and consequence WTH?0
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Why bother to get married then?
Thank you!! Marriage means you will love honor and sleep with that one person the rest of your life.. If you dont get the commitement than dont get married! Ugh this world we live in these days I dont get it.. The idea of my husband touching and being inside another woman makes my skin crawl no i dont want you porking other woman than coming home to me no thanks..
Where does it say this??? I didn't realize there were rules when it comes to a couples sex life. If they are a happy couple and their success is based on an open sex life, who are you to judge?0 -
The fact that she watches porn with her 11 year old daughter is what bothered me the most. I hope she's ready to be a grandma soon.0
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The one thing that flusters me about open marriage is where do they find the time for 2 relationships?0
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No marriage is the same. We don't have an open marriage...just a ...uh...fun marriage. Whatever the label is, it works for us.0
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Why bother to get married then?
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I didn't watch either but to each their own.
My husband asks if he can have a second wife all the time. I say if she cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids and him.... I am all for it!
I say this to my bf too. She can cook, clean, but no sexy stuff. So basically a maid we don't pay. lol0
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