Relationship Question?? Cheating.

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  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,303 Member
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    My definition of cheating includes checking out the tattoos of hot young women on the internet.

    I am cheating right now. :devil:
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,858 Member
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    As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

    It's really that simple.

    But, but, I can't pee in front of my husband. Does that count?
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
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    If you have to hide it, it's cheating.
  • justaloozer
    justaloozer Posts: 122 Member
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    As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

    It's really that simple.

    I completely 100% agree.
  • clintbritt3
    clintbritt3 Posts: 123
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    If you have to ask, it's cheating.

    I have never cheated. I would say that I don't think I've ever been cheated on, but I'm not 100% certain. I think there's emotional cheating. It's not just physical.

    Anything inappropriate physical or emotional is cheating...... Dr. Phil once said (even though I don't care for him much) "If you can't do it in front of your wife then it's cheating" So just imagine if your spouse or lover had a window into your brain too, would they think the thoughts you are having for another person are appropriate???? if you answer NO to any question then it's cheating not matter if you are just dating or married. If you've made anything kind of commitment to a person, you need to hold up your end.....
  • Lozzielol
    Lozzielol Posts: 78
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    Well, I find this very hard to answer. Of course the basics like physical stuff is cheating, sending naughty texts or pictures is cheating, even lying to cover up being with person A to me is being unfaithful. If you need to lie, then its not right. However, at the same time I could deal with the physical side of it far more easily than if my SO was to actually be emotionally invested in someone else. That would be the 'kick me when I'm down' moment, and would take forever to get over. Its like you werent even good enough in the first place that they had to go find someone better than you. Ouch!

    I'd much rather a drunken one-night-stand than a long term affair for example.

    And for your info, I have never cheated myself but have been cheated on before. I have also forgiven cheating in the past as anybody can make mistakes, but I would only forgive one mistake. Any more, then they have made it clear that they dont value you enough to stay faithful.
  • caroln3
    caroln3 Posts: 217
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    I wish all the cheaters would get together and leave the faithful honest people alone.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,303 Member
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    As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

    It's really that simple.

    But, but, I can't pee in front of my husband. Does that count?

    Only if you have some strange fetish and are peeing on someone else.
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
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    But, but, I can't pee in front of my husband. Does that count?

    You can't pee in front of him? Like, he disapproves of you peeing in front of him? Or you just don't want to?
  • 2fit4fat
    2fit4fat Posts: 559 Member
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    Would you and your partner be willing to switch cell phones for a week? If the answer is no, one of you is probably cheating.

    I've not heard this one before! But it's totally true! lol
    Lol except mine has s business to run... He would if I ssked it would just cause a lot of crap for both of us
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,858 Member
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    As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

    It's really that simple.

    But, but, I can't pee in front of my husband. Does that count?

    Only if you have some strange fetish and are peeing on someone else.

    Nope, can't pee in front of anyone.
  • moushtie
    moushtie Posts: 371 Member
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    Ok.. I don't find kissing cheating. I would do it in front of my other half. He would in front of me too.
    I don't find having online flirts, even sim sex cheating. My other half watches sometimes to take notes :P
    We are loyal to each other, in our own ways. I know lots of people wouldn't agree with this, but it works for us.

    There are some things I don't tell him about, but I have spoken about them before with him, and he has asked that I don't talk about them. I respect his wishes.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,829 Member
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    They way I see it, is if you have to hide it from your significant other, and you feel like it's something you can't let them find out about, you're doing something you shouldn't be doing.

    Also, a lot of people define cheating differently. Get on the same wavelength as your partner. If you consider flirting with another person cheating, but your partner isn't bothered by it, you've got different expectations. Lay the ground work right from the get-go, set your boundaries. That way there's no ambiguity about it if one person in a relationship "gets caught" doing something.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,720 Member
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    Would you and your partner be willing to switch cell phones for a week? If the answer is no, one of you is probably cheating.

    What if I'm just not willing to do that because I like that when people call my phone I can actually answer it? I'm not really trying to explain to my boss why a woman is answering my phone for a week...
  • Brandongood
    Brandongood Posts: 311 Member
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    my wife likes to go to the casino by herself and not tell me about it. is she cheating?
  • RH_Brazell
    RH_Brazell Posts: 339
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    Cheating for me:
    Kissing someone else
    Having sex with someone else
    Written texts / emails to someone else with the intent to do the above

    I've not cheated, nor have I been cheated on, that I know of.

    But there are different levels to it, that I am finding hard to explain, so if someone else explains it better than I could, I'll let you know. :P

    agree...I've cheated once when i was younger not proud of it and i have been cheated on numerous times :(
  • boomboom011
    boomboom011 Posts: 1,459
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    a good rule of thumb in my opinion is if you cant do it in front of your SO then its wrong.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,720 Member
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    my wife likes to go to the casino by herself and not tell me about it. is she cheating?

    No she might just have a whole other problem! Good luck mate!
  • ashhills
    ashhills Posts: 64 Member
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    Cheating is doing/saying ANYTHING you would not do/say in front of you significant other.
  • Brandongood
    Brandongood Posts: 311 Member
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    my wife likes to go to the casino by herself and not tell me about it. is she cheating?

    No she might just have a whole other problem! Good luck mate!

    lol i agree

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