I find myself becoming very judgemental

^ This.

Thought I'm still 'fat' I find myself doing this at times. Thnkfully, just a quickly as the thought enters my head... it leaves.

The only time I feel judgemental or angry is when I see people in public who park in handicap and use wheelchairs because of their weight. Yes, some people may have other issues but for some of them, it is pretty obviousy their issue is self-inflicted. Walking through the store with the support of a cart or walking the few extra feet to the door may actually improve their life.

How do you know who uses these things because of their weight? You actually state evidence to the contrary in your post. I gained weight when I got peripheral neuropathy due to cancer. Because the pain makes it excruciating to stand and walk, I have handicapped tags and use a crutch. On bad days I use a wheelchair. Not being able to walk or even stand for more than a few minutes sure makes it easy to gain weight, and VERY hard to lose. I've lost some, I have more to go. But no matter how much I lose, I still won't be able to stand and walk without excruciating pain. How can you tell me from one of these people you think less of because "it's pretty obvious the issue is self-inflicted." In what way do I look different? And if you can't tell the difference, where do you get off judging?

I suppose I do look different when I get off my motorcycle and unfold the folding crutch, but on a rainy day or a bad pain day, when I'm in my car, how would you know why I need the parking tags or the crutch/wheelchair?

I'm talking about the people who are too large to walk but are loading up their carts with HungryMan dinners , cookies and regular soda.

Another poster mentioned a health condition that caused her to gain weight. My doctor has told me "There is NO health condition that makes you gain weight. They make it harder to lose or easier to gain but it always comes down to diet." Many people also use health conditions as an excuse to be heavy, which ticks me off even more. I have PCOS, which makes it very difficult to lose weight, but it is possible. The weight I have lost has been because of effort and diet, not the medication I am on.

As I stated, I am still overweight, still losing but I'm honest enough to be able to tell myself that my eating habits put me here. Not a disease.

Your doctor is either mistaken or told you a half-truth for some reason, then, because there certainly are health conditions and medications which CAUSE weight gain AND weight loss. Certain diseases of the endocrine system are examples of a medical conditions that cause weight gain, and the tricyclics and corticosteroids are examples of classes of drugs which cause weight loss. But what I am talking about is weight gain because you can't exercise or exercise enough. And while it may still come down to diet in this case, you simply cannot know how difficult it is for a disabled person to avoid weight gain or lose weight, and more than that, you cannot know that walking with support of the cart or any of your suggestions is even possible for the person in question.

No matter how difficult it has been for you to lose weight, you cannot know how difficult it is for someone else. If you are so much better than these people, why are you overweight? If you're not saying you are better, then why would you have a right to judge them?

I don't buy that. Many people who can NOT exercise still lose weight. That my friend, is an excuse. We have seen on here time again that you can never exercise at all but still lose weight by restricting calories. Same goes for medications. Any person who is diabetic, or has a thyroid condition CAN lose weight though it may be very hard.

I have seen too many incredible people here who have overcome many conditions and still lost 50, 100, 200lbs because they chose to work for it. I'm not wanting to judge but I am also not going to give sympathy to a person who says they can't lose weight. It is possible for anyone.

Have you ever been diabetic or suffered from an Endocrine disorder? If not, then you really have no concept of exactly how hard it is to lose weight when your body works against you. I LOVE it when people assume that hypothyroidism is the ONLY adrenal-related disease out there. Yes, you're right. You CAN lose weight with hypothyroidism, especially with the proper medication, but it isn't as simple as it is for people with perfectly healthy endocrine systems. However, there are other endocrine diseases that DO make it near impossible to lose weight or maintain weight loss and they aren't easily treatable with medication. It would be awesome if people would do their research before judging others. It isn't always as simple as calories in, calories out, and there ARE plenty of disorders that can cause one to gain weight, even on a severely calorie-restricted diet.

I can tell you, as someone that suffers from Cushing's disease that was undiagnosed until I was well in my 30's that it IS possible to gain up to 280 pounds while eating a "healthy" diet.

And now, my options are to keep trying to become healthier on my own while being "judged" by others or undergo surgical removal of my adrenal glands that will require hormone replacement therapy for the remainder of my life, radiation treatment (I'll pass), or medication that will cause excess pigmentation of my skin. I'll take my chances fighting the good fight on my own and it would be fabulous if all you haters didn't judge what's in my shopping cart or monitor what I order in a restaurant in the meantime.

And whatever Doctor told ANYONE that are NO diseases that cause weight gain, is well, a moron.

And, and...what's wrong with having a little compassion for someone who's shoes you once filled? No one chooses to be fat. Being fat is infinitely harder than losing weight.

I could judge you for not knowing how to spell judgmental. I think, "It's not hard to pick up a dictionary."

Everyone is at different points of the weight loss experience. Maybe somebody else thinks you're weak for having put on any excess weight in the first place--do they have the right to judge you? We're all here to improve ourselves, and we're supposed to be supportive as part of the MFP community. You don't have the right to judge someone else "yet" or ever, and posting about it, trying to make it acceptable by pretending to be concerned about your judgmental nature, is irritating--be ashamed of it and keep it to yourself if you truly believe it's wrong.

I find myself not feeling very badly at all for totally agreeing with this comment.

I would love my 75-year old mother to quit smoking and lose weight. It kills me that she won't. But it isn't any of my damn business. And it sure the heck isn't yours. Mind your own business. Besides, you are just using it to make yourself feel superior, because you think you are better than them.

Everyone is fighting a battle of some sort. Be kind to people because you just don't know what it is. I may be fat right now, but I will be thin soon enough. You will always be mean.

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Well don't this make my day better, now I know everytime I go out to eat I'm going to have somone judge me. Guess I just should stay in my home all day.

I'm so busy trying to keep on my own path I don't typically have enough energy to pay attention to choices those around me are making. However, I do notice overweight kids. I was an overweight kid and I wish my parents would have regulated and controlled my food choices more. My parents were just young and had no weight issues themselves and this was a long time ago, so they didn't really know better. Parents today have tons of resources to help learn how to better feed their child. But I don't judge the parents as much as I feel sorry for the child. I was there and I know how hard it was.

I've seen friends in my life that used to be lazy, overweight, underactive, eat crap non stop etc. It took them several attempts to change their ways before they were successful and it became their lifestyle. I've seen some of these people look at others in a negative light who are still trying to find their way and it seriously just annoys the crap out of me. Don't ever forget where you came from, how many times you started and failed, and even still the possibility that you might still have bad days too. The girl that you see that's 250lbs eating crap, well she might have started at 350lbs. The skinny ***** that you envy at the gym that the guys oogle over...well who's to say she wasn't 200lbs at one time and worked her butt off to get that hot body. If it were easy, there wouldn't be people struggling with it, there wouldn't be overweight people, there wouldn't be places like myfitnesspal.

Judging a person does not define who they are....it defines who you are.

If you had seen me at McDonalds last night you would have totally jumped to the wrong conclusion: I bought a quarter pounder meal
PLUS a grilled chicken salad wrap. I did have a hungry husband waiting at home, but looking at me it would be easy to just assume I was off home alone to scoff the lot

Your doctor is an idiot.. just saying.

Please tell me you are truly not as ignorant as you sound. There are many medical issues where it is next to impossible and there are many medications that cause huge weight gain. You are far to judgmental and it is sad.