I find myself becoming very judgemental

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  • abbigail_r
    abbigail_r Posts: 283 Member
    I sometimes feel that way too. And I dont like to be judgemental at all. But then I remind myself that its not my job to change everybody.
  • spectralmoon
    spectralmoon Posts: 1,179 Member
    I think it's just hard to watch people "hurt" their bodies when you're trying so hard to take care of yours, something you didn't think of so much before you decided to change how you live.


    Honestly, this was the way I started looking at myself (and reminding myself) to keep motivated to start the workouts and the calorie counting. It occurred to me one day that half of what I was eating regularly was "poisoning" my body; after that, I started really looking in the mirror and looking for the differences from where I had been before and what I had become with that thought in mind. Got me up and stretching that day, and that lead to aerobics and dumbbells, which is now intense aerobics, heavier weights, squats, dancing, walking, jumping, and whatever else I can challenge myself to do to melt off 300 calories a day.
  • iamahealthychick
    iamahealthychick Posts: 207 Member
    I think we develop this expectation that other people are under some obligation to live their lives in the same way we do...probably because we see a need that drives us. it's sort of natural; we relate to the world by comparing things to ourselves. I think that we also make some inappropriate and sometimes unfortunate assumptions when we do this. I know it's something I try to watch with varying levels of success and failure.

    Unfortunately, one size does not fit all, so to speak. We cannot possibly imagine all the circumstances that factor into the tiny glimpses we see of the lives of strangers. We cannot be judges when we don't have the facts.

    I think this is very well said.
  • esfetters1
    esfetters1 Posts: 1
    Ive been overweight to morbidly obese.....most of my life......and yet I judge others as well....I think we all do ladies....I think the difference is that obesity is "accepted" unfortunately ....Just imagine if you were sitting eating at Mcdonalds....and a guy walked in sat down got out a bunch of drug paraphernalia .....and started shooting up....I would definetely say something and fast..... But that lady with the four fat kids and a cart full of crap is normal to us now...sad but normal. I think those of us who have decided to change our lives need to just be more vocal...out there about it....this is a great forum...... but not enough in terms of societal change. I feel like all I ever see is a bunch of skinny ....never been 5 lbs over weight.... snotty little chicks telling me how to be...How about the people that have the problem get their butts on TV and lead....talk about the ins and outs.....I hate that tiny little b*itch on the 4 th hour of the today show....who does the weight loss segements.....she's never been overweight. and is so damn condescending to the "poor"... "less than"...her former fatties...I want to smack her.... hell I'm pretty and outspoken...maybe ill go apply at NBC !!! I'd LOVE to work with KLG and Honda woman.!!!! NBC give me a call!
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