Amazing things people say when you're losing weight

secretlobster
secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
edited November 12 in Health and Weight Loss
I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.

"Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"

"You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"

"So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"

Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"? :)
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  • ladyfingers39
    ladyfingers39 Posts: 335
    LOL I think people are clueless.

    My biggest pet peeve is when they ask...

    How do you feel?? DO you feel great?....Uhh, i am the same person I was before. Sure, I feel fine, but nothing much has really changed.

    That one just annoyed me no end. Like they think I have somehow changed my whole personality while losing weight. I am still me!!!
  • Diandra81
    Diandra81 Posts: 128 Member
    You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)

    Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)

    You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    When I just started losing - had maybe taken off 30 out of the 100 total - my co-workers started saying things like "oh my god, you're so skinny!" and "you're disappearing!". Yeah...ok

    At first it bothered me a bit because it was so over the top and untrue...so I actually grabbed my left saddlebag one day and said "really? then what's this?!" Then I realized that they meant well and it wasn't nice of me to respond that way so ever since I've just smiled and said "thanks!".

    More recently, most people are asking if I'm planning to lose more and seem shocked when I say 20-30 more pounds. I'm no where near skinny - still have a belly roll and plenty of junk in my trunk. I think somewhere between everyone being used to seeing me bigger and obese being more of the norm these days, it's hard to imagine. I'm not letting anyone else's opinion stop me though - I've got a goal in mind and I'm gonna get there!
  • farm_mamaX9
    farm_mamaX9 Posts: 67
    Right now, I'd be thrilled if ANYONE said something as simple as "something is different about you". But so far no one has said one word. That's kind of depressing to me. But then I try to remind myself that I'm doing this for me, my children and my husband, so that I can be healthy and feel strong enough to function every day. Oh well...
  • Makethefatcry12
    Makethefatcry12 Posts: 133 Member
    My sister (who has seen me overweight her whole life) told me that I am withering away and that I look borderline anorexic. I still have plenty of meat on my bones. I think she's just not used to the "skinny" me.
  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
    I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.

    "Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"

    "You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"

    "So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"

    Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"? :)

    I thought those were all pretty nice things for people to say, yet you call them idiots? Harsh.
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
    Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)

    LOL...okay, that made me giggle a bit!
  • carriecarrot
    carriecarrot Posts: 70 Member
    I like it when people make comments when I lose weight. I can't imagine someone that would be annoyed by it... They must be annoyed by a lot of things then.
  • CBranson0503
    CBranson0503 Posts: 95
    I have recently lost a little over 20lbs but I am down a total of 45lbs since the beginning of 2011. People at work didn't really say anything to me and friends only said encoraging things like "I am so proud of you for accomplishing your goal!" But my family is the worst about these kind of comments. Like my mom said to me a few months ago, "Wow, you almost look as good as you did in high school." and then the other day she said "You're really started to get some muscle definition, aren't afraid of getting bulky and ruining all your hard work?" and I said, "What? How does becoming ever more fit ruin my hard work?" Her response, "Well you'll look big in clothes again."
  • NYCDutchess
    NYCDutchess Posts: 622 Member

    Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)
    First off, Congrats on the weight loss, secondly I had to LOL at this!!! Yep, she was the first black woman to ever loose weight...lol.

    I'm still laughing...I love this!! xoxo
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.

    "Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"

    "You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"

    "So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"

    Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"? :)

    I thought those were all pretty nice things for people to say, yet you call them idiots? Harsh.

    You realize that a ton is two thousand pounds right?
  • cressievargo
    cressievargo Posts: 392 Member
    I like it when people make comments when I lose weight. I can't imagine someone that would be annoyed by it... They must be annoyed by a lot of things then.

    This...
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    My sister (who has seen me overweight her whole life) told me that I am withering away and that I look borderline anorexic. I still have plenty of meat on my bones. I think she's just not used to the "skinny" me.

    I hear this one alot - and I'm in maintenance (and have been for over a year!).

    You're just withering away to nothing. Are you ill? You look too thin.

    *sigh*

    I'm not too thin. I'm not withering away. I'm not ill. I'm just fine - all I did was lose weight, folks! Jeez!
  • vbennett7
    vbennett7 Posts: 99 Member
    My sister (who has seen me overweight her whole life) told me that I am withering away and that I look borderline anorexic. I still have plenty of meat on my bones. I think she's just not used to the "skinny" me.


    Careful, though. My husband and I have both changed a lot physically. However, when we look in the mirror, we see the tummy pouch or the love handles-we don't see the progress as much as others do. Helps me to understand (a little) how people can become anorexic.
  • lovinbeinold
    lovinbeinold Posts: 116
    Years ago, while I was losing weight, a friend of ours, a guy, said, "You have a pretty face, I can hardly wait to see the rest of you that you've been hiding in there." He said that as he was standing with us, looking deeply into my eyes.

    Nowadays nobody says anything. I think I need to lose more weight before the comments start coming in. But I'm older now and more outspoken than I used to be, and m friends are mostly older, so I doubt I'll hear much more than "did you lose weight?" well, for a while. After I've lost 100 pounds, I may hear yet more.
  • minadeathclutch
    minadeathclutch Posts: 375 Member
    my aunt who came to visit us.. who i havent seen in like 5 years... cried hysterically and said i am disappearing and i am soooooo thin and she cant stop staring at me. man i felt awkward as ****. lol
  • skinnydream115
    skinnydream115 Posts: 86
    Lol so this is about my mom she lost probably around 30 pounds and she looked way good, and shes already beautiful but anyways she works with all women and she was called into the her bosses office and was told she can't talk about how much weight she lost or anything haa its like they were jealous she would get compliments everyday from people I mean yeah it would have to be getting old but I just think its funny she couldnt talk about her weight loss lol.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    Posts success pictures online, enjoys dozens of responses,
    Gets angry when IRL people make a comment.

    :heart: :drinker:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    "I bet you're hideous naked, now"

    :(
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Posts success pictures online, enjoys dozens of responses,
    Gets angry when IRL people make a comment.

    :heart: :drinker:

    this is my life. :drinker:
  • Nicmeglau
    Nicmeglau Posts: 11
    Most people like to sabatoge you... like oh your getting so skinny, you shouldn't lose anymore weight.
    I say no, I just need to lose a few more friends like you......LOL
  • Ge0rgiana
    Ge0rgiana Posts: 1,649 Member
    I have recently lost a little over 20lbs but I am down a total of 45lbs since the beginning of 2011. People at work didn't really say anything to me and friends only said encoraging things like "I am so proud of you for accomplishing your goal!" But my family is the worst about these kind of comments. Like my mom said to me a few months ago, "Wow, you almost look as good as you did in high school." and then the other day she said "You're really started to get some muscle definition, aren't afraid of getting bulky and ruining all your hard work?" and I said, "What? How does becoming ever more fit ruin my hard work?" Her response, "Well you'll look big in clothes again."

    I was telling my father a while back that I was starting to lift heavy. He thought it was great. Was so happy about that. :smile:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    oh wait- this is about amazing things?

    I was accidentally happened upon by my BFF in Union Sq this last Thursday- its very rare for me to come across anyone I know randomly in NYC as its, you know... slightly large? But I heard him call out "Hey Skinny!" to get my attention.

    that pretty much made it all worth it.
  • kelseyhere
    kelseyhere Posts: 1,123 Member
    Sometimes compliments can come out twisted, it's not like anyone really thinks you lost a literal ton of weight, it's just how people talk. Some of these so-called "skinny people" making the comments may be former fat people themselves. Maybe they're just asking you if you feel better because they felt better when they lost weight. Other people may be complimenting you because they're jealous and failed at dieting themselves.

    But point is, no matter how idiotic people's comments are regarding your weight loss, most people are just trying to be nice. Even if you suspect the compliment may be coming from a mean place, just be the bigger person by being nice back- smile, and say "thanks" and walk away.
  • tifferzb1206
    tifferzb1206 Posts: 19 Member
    You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)

    Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)

    You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)


    THIS! I hate the "oh you're trying to get all JHud on us." Um no ma'am! I've lost 50lbs before JHud. This is not about her, or YOU for that matter.

    I also hate "don't lose TOO MUCH weight..." Why? Because then you'll feel like you need to lose some too? People, even with the best intentions can be such dummies.
  • jenalderman
    jenalderman Posts: 411 Member
    I get asked daily if I'm sick. My reply is "NO!" I'm working very hard for this, don't give illness any credit at all.
  • drellbell
    drellbell Posts: 23
    My EX husband is jealous :), he keeps asking me so how much do you weigh now or what size shirt are you in now?

    Sometimes I think people don't know what to say, like when I had my twins, the first question out of peoples mouths was are they twins? Ummmmm they are dressed exactly alike, same car seat same blankets heck even the same size lol, I think that people just want to either start a conversation about what your doing or why your doing it and they just say the silliest things.

    So far the only one I have heard was when my grandmother called and said so I hear your losing a ton of weight thats great, she had spoken to my aunt who saw a pic on FB and called her. I would take each compliment as a good one, no matter how silly it sounds, cause I'm sure they don't mean to say anything negative it just sometimes sounds that way

    Great job on your weighloss goals
  • Nerdybookgirl
    Nerdybookgirl Posts: 105 Member
    Your face looks thinner!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    But point is, no matter how idiotic people's comments are regarding your weight loss, most people are just trying to be nice. Even if you suspect the compliment may be coming from a mean place, just be the bigger person by being nice back- smile, and say "thanks" and walk away.

    Unfortunately, there are also many people who never had a weight loss situation to handle and when they see you have moved from the fat side to the fit side, they try to chastise you for ever thinking it meant you could be one of them.
  • kathyhull
    kathyhull Posts: 327 Member
    People are trying to say nice things, let you know they notice your weight loss and hard work, but a lot of the things they say either come out wrong or, because we who have been overweight may be a little sensative, sound a little hurtful. You just have to laugh it off. Sometimes they don't say anything at all because they're worried that you're losing weight because you're sick or something. I found it amusing when my dad said "now don't go getting too skinny" - I'm not even in the healthy weight range yet. And, everytime I tell my best friend I have another 20 or so to lose, she gets very upset - "that's not a reasonable goal" and "you won't be able to maintain such a low weight". I think that's because she's struggling with maintaining her healthy weight as she ages and she's projecting those struggles on to me. No worries, I'm going to get healthy if it KILLS ME!
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