Amazing things people say when you're losing weight

You have lost a lot of weight, are you sick??? what if i said "Yes I am dying" how would they feel then??

I want to add this- I've noticed that MEN make eye contact now & are generally nicer - hold doors, chat me up ... I guess most women would be pleased with this but IT MAKES ME MAD!
I'm the same 'fatty' who was invisible last year. LOL I'm still invisible.
HOW can I be invisible at 200 lbs and MORE visible now?! grrrr

I'm SO with you on this, I have noticed the same thing. I see the same people day after day at work who previously would not make eye contact when we passed in the hallway, now will be very friendly. Really says a lot about them, I think.

Honestly, I don't look to take comments the wrong way. I welcome comments like "You look great" because I know they mean it. Clearly they see I have worked very hard and made lots of sacrifices because you know what? I needed to make those changes and sacrifices to get to where I am now.

I don't know how else to take a 'skinny fat' comment other than negatively. I don't know how else to take a comment (true story) "are you turning into one of them anorexics now?" other than negatively. I can't imagine anyone means anything nice by these comments.

I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.

"Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"

"You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"

"So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"

Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"?

I thought those were all pretty nice things for people to say, yet you call them idiots? Harsh.

I think it kinda depends on the mood you're in/angle you look at it. At first, I thought they were relatively nice. However, that's the way my family would say it also. But, I can ~also~ see how it can be...almost rude? But when it comes to weight talk, people don't always know how to say what they mean without looking like a fool.

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I have recently lost a little over 20lbs but I am down a total of 45lbs since the beginning of 2011. People at work didn't really say anything to me and friends only said encoraging things like "I am so proud of you for accomplishing your goal!" But my family is the worst about these kind of comments. Like my mom said to me a few months ago, "Wow, you almost look as good as you did in high school." and then the other day she said "You're really started to get some muscle definition, aren't afraid of getting bulky and ruining all your hard work?" and I said, "What? How does becoming ever more fit ruin my hard work?" Her response, "Well you'll look big in clothes again."

My grandmother is like that too. She goes "Oh my, where did you get that butt? Not from MY family.." Or "Where did my skinny girls go. "

"Don't you think you should slow down?" Wtf, why? I'm eating right and just working out like I have never done before. Not like I'm losing 100lbs in a month.

"Look how THIN she's getting!" (My mother in law says this to everyone at her house every single time I come over.) I say thanks but then it sparks an hour long conversation about what I've been doing with people asking me all sorts of questions just to tell me, "Oh, you shouldn't do that!!!" *****es, please. I eat healthier than they do.

"You don't need to run as much as you do. You look great but it's bad for you." What? Really?? I do a 16 minute mile with hills and a 10 minute mile on level ground. The most I've gone so far is 2.25 miles in one run and I don't even go for more than 30 minutes yet. And since when is running bad for people?

The most annoying thing recently is people, who sit on the couch all day, trying to give me advice on the marathon I'm doing in January. Yes, I know that 26.2 miles is a butt ton. Yes, I know I'm "too out of shape to do a marathon" RIGHT NOW. But I won't be too out of shape to do one with 9 months of training... Yet the first reaction when it comes up in conversation that I'll be doing one is, "OH WOW! THAT'S AWESOME!" followed by all the negatives.

I think people are just jelly at this point because they're being one upped by a heifer.

Since I'm not obese and much smaller than my coworkers whenever I mention weight loss I get the good ol' eye roll and "if you lose anymore you'll waste away" crap. I don't know if I've ever heard anything encouraging. Sad.

Most people like to sabatoge you... like oh your getting so skinny, you shouldn't lose anymore weight.
I say no, I just need to lose a few more friends like you......LOL

Totally love this response - I am gonna use it (if you don't mind) cos I am getting this all the time. Even to the point I am getting paranoid incase I am too thin. (I'm not - 5 ft 6 and 142lbs and fit in to a UK 12) . My only worry is I am nearly 49 so don't want to look too thin for my age.

I lost 25 pounds before I found MFP (not I'm here trying to lose the last 20) and my favorite was:

"Wow you're losing weight! Is everything alright?" I might add this came from the same person who would describe me to people as "could be super pretty, but had a weight issue"

hater.

I think part of how we view comments made by others depends on how far into our weight loss journey we are. I'm not entirely sure how much weight I've lost, as the only scale on my campus is one from the 1800's, but I get a little touchy with some comments.

I think the three things that bother me the most are:
1) My boyfriend constantly touching my stomach and telling me I look sexy. I haven't lost any weight off my stomach...it's all come off my thighs and arms. Thanks for pointing out the one area that won't shrink (though I know he means well).
2) People who hear that I'm on a diet (and have been for a few months now) and say that I don't look any different. I cut out so much junk food and have taken to many steps to be healthier; no need to bash me.
3) I know this is a little crazy, but whenever I go shopping with my sister (who is a head taller and fits her twig-self into a size 0) and she says "wow, those pants look really slimming on you." As I stand there holding my size 7 jeans because I can't fit into the size 3's I have at home.

I don't know, I think if I weren't so trapped in the middle of my weight loss, I would feel better. For the most part, I just nod my head, but sometimes people say things that they don't really think out all the way.

On a positive note: congrats to all the amazing weight loss stories people are telling on this post! Keep up the good work, and whatever people say, as long as you are happy and healthy that's all that matters

Its not that I don't appreciate the compliments, but I wish people would talk about something else with me. Trying to explain what you did to lose the weight, and listening to their stories as to why they cannot find the time to exercise is getting a little repetative.

Wow.

I'm not sure where I said or even implied that I hate all compliments. I started this post for people to share particular things that people have said that may be really off-base or insensitive.

I think it was the word "idiots"...and that I've read a few of these before and am feeling overly sensitive this morning.


But, I'll play....Here's something I found odd that a friend said, I'll call it "Odd things people say"

My friend who has lost a bit of weight and runs with me every now and again has frequently asked me why I'm trying so hard to shed pounds. "You look fine" She says. I don't wanna look "fine", I wanna look "good". ...and my jeans are screaming at me every morning when I try to put them on.

I'm in the same boat. I need someone to notice (besides the hubby)