Amazing things people say when you're losing weight
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I want to add this- I've noticed that MEN make eye contact now & are generally nicer - hold doors, chat me up ... I guess most women would be pleased with this but IT MAKES ME MAD!
I'm the same 'fatty' who was invisible last year. LOL I'm still invisible.
HOW can I be invisible at 200 lbs and MORE visible now?! grrrr
THIS! I told my dad that I noticed that people are just nicer to me...saying hello, smiling....he said well maybe you're nicer now too...LOL maybe!0 -
I find weighloss comments very motivational! Most of the time...
Some guy at work once told me (when I was till wanting to lose another 25 or so pounds): "You've lost a lot of weight! I used to see you walking around and from behind it looked like two pigs fighting. Now it only looks like one..."
What a **** head!0 -
LOL @ Yoovie
I think men can't make up their minds what parts they like best. Boobs, butts, legs, etc. Women are just a buffet of goodness I guess.
No we can't, and yes women are!0 -
I am new to this, but I was under the assumption this was suppose to be supportive....
I dont understand how this isnt being supportive- havent you had people say mean things to you out there under the guise of a compliment since you started losing weight? Isnt it nice to get it off your chest with other people that have been there?0 -
I want to add this- I've noticed that MEN make eye contact now & are generally nicer - hold doors, chat me up ... I guess most women would be pleased with this but IT MAKES ME MAD!
I'm the same 'fatty' who was invisible last year. LOL I'm still invisible.
HOW can I be invisible at 200 lbs and MORE visible now?! grrrr
THIS! I told my dad that I noticed that people are just nicer to me...saying hello, smiling....he said well maybe you're nicer now too...LOL maybe!
I think that it's not so much that they are "being nicer" BECAUSE you're thinner, it's something to do with the confidence you are projecting that makes them "notice" you now. You could be 125lbs and completely shy or standoffish and people would ignore you the same as you think they did when you were heavier. Your attitude and energy you project has everything to do with your interaction with the world around you. Confidence attracts people, whether it's consciously or not.0 -
LOL @ Yoovie
I think men can't make up their minds what parts they like best. Boobs, butts, legs, etc. Women are just a buffet of goodness I guess.
:laugh: exactly what I was thinking!.
My fiance is sad that my tummy is shrinking. :noway: Oh well honey, I am evicting this jiggling gut! :drinker:0 -
I started my weight loss in Sept of 2011. I just quit eating all the chips and stuff that found its way to my mouth when I was laying around on the couch. Some people would notice and make comments that I was loosing weight, and at the time I wasn't weighing myself or anything so if people would ask if I lost weight I would say no, not that I know of. Then my wife wanted to start working out and I joined her for support and in turn started watching my calories with MFP. Now i hear comments daily about the weight I have lost. Not one has told me I look good, usually its a comment that I am too skinny, and if I mention I have another 10 lbs I wanna loose they act like I am nuts. I find that people, especially the ones closest to me seem to have a little jealousy of the weight loss as well. But as people have said before this, it's not about anyone but YOU! So now if they say something that's insulting or sarcastic, I usually say something that fits the comment made.
If its a Dr (I work in a hospital) I tell then it's because I would rather see them in the hall than be on their operating table.
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Yeah I wanted to loose weight, but it seems I am loosing it all in my boobs! (My wife used to say that, you should see how people look at me when I say that with a straight face!
Or The naughtiest for the most insulting
Yes I lost alot of weight so my penis would look bigger. That usually shuts them right up!0 -
My soon to be Mother in Law commented on my smaller portions this weekend. Then continued to go on and on about how much I ate when i was pregnant and better not eat so much with the next baby.
:explode:
And the poster that commented about people being nicer...yep, that goes both ways. I had lost about 40 pounds with MFP and people were so much nicer. Then I got pregnant and ballooned way up (during and after the pregnancy) and pretty much became invisible again.0 -
Soooo are you trying to lose weight or are you sick??? (Yeah thanks)
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I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.
"Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"
"You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"
"So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"
Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"?
i've gotten all of these! especially the "a ton" part. it actually made me kind of smile because the person saying it is really into fitness and i admire her. i said "oh not a ton, and i've been doing it over the last 6 months so i've kind of gotten used to it now"... yeah a lot of people ask me the amount of lbs too. i don't mind telling them! and i tell them i did it the hard way with diet and exercise. shuts them up right away! i love it 0 -
"you look well"
So I looked ill before then?0 -
You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)
Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)
You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)
I got married in December 2011 and I had a co-worker constantly on my case about what I was eating, because she said she wanted to make sure I would fit in my wedding dress - HOW RUDE! I had lost 30 lbs doing WW 4 years ago and I was maintaining without any problems. She would compare me to Jennifer Hudson and tell me how good she thought that she looked and she hoped i was keeping up the weight loss routine. Keep in mind, the person telling me this wasn't even a friend of mine, just a gal i worked with!0 -
OMG you used to be HUGE!!! what happened?
Kinda insulting to the old me LOL0 -
You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)
Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)
You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)
LOL!!!! I love that one, especially cause I lost most of my weight before she did!!!0 -
Me personally, I am waiting on someone to ask me if I'm on crack!!! At this I will smile, hug them and say "no but thank you,,,you have made my day!"0
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About 8 years ago I went from 185 down to 142. I'm 5'3". I felt good and happy there, however, many people made skinny jokes and rude comments. A comment from a co-worker "I like my women with meat on their bones", and he often called me "Olyve Oyl", (hardly), another said I needed to eat more rice and beans, most all of my family said I was too skinny, (I was wearing a size 8-10), and the worst most insulting/ignorant comment from another male family member "you look like a cancer patient".. ugh. Nothing to laugh at!0
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I have had people ask me if I'm sick - no, actually I'm getting healthier. People really have no idea what a pound looks like, so they are shocked if you say you have 50 or 100 pounds to lose. I can tell you what 200 pounds looks like, because I've worn those pounds personally, but everyone is so unique that weight loss goals only make sense to you.0
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I find weighloss comments very motivational! Most of the time...
Some guy at work once told me (when I was till wanting to lose another 25 or so pounds): "You've lost a lot of weight! I used to see you walking around and from behind it looked like two pigs fighting. Now it only looks like one..."
What a **** head!
This made be laugh out loud!!! You don't work at a nursing home by chance? My sister works as a speech therapist at a nursing home and a resident told her she was going to have to start wearing maternity clothes ( she is about 6mos preg.). She replied, I am wearing maternity clothes. Resident said, Not the right ones.0 -
When I was previously at my goal weight I was told I had had the body of a 12 year old boy... And that I was cuter when I had a butt.0
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Ironically once when I was at what my goal weight is now about 145 (oh to be back there!) I did lose weight because I was ill--down to 117 lbs--and everyone told me I looked great . . . which bothered me b/c I knew I looked like someone who had just died . . . actually I did tell some of them "No I've just lost weight because I'm clinically depressed" THE TRUTH
But then later after I had put some weight back on they told me I looked better b/c I looked kind of sick before . . . so they were lying? How weird.
Then . . . even stranger . . . as I continued to gain weight people never stopped asking me if I had lost weight. Nope I just gained some and then . . . some more.
I don't know. Now people want to know if I'm pregnant . . . (In what world is it EVER right to ask if someone is pregnant???)
In conclusion, I try to ignore people b/c evidently their view of me is even more skewed than my view of me.0 -
Interesting thread. I agree that some of the "amazing" things people have had said to them are truly insulting. There is no disputing that, and some of them would make me want to punch someone in the mouth, and I'm not a violent person.
Some of the other comments that people have complained about being rude or backhanded . . . I supposed it is subject to interpretation based on your relationship with the person who is saying it, and the tone and manner in which it is said. They "sound" nice written out over the internet, but maybe you had to be there.
Still others, I am floored that people are insulted by. I wonder what things are colouring this experience for them. Is it the people who have gone from grossly obese that are feeling the most hurt? Is it years of looks and rude comments about their weight that make them suspicious or insulted by even a sincere compliment? Is it insecurity with their new weight? I am interested in hearing what you think makes you feel this way.
I have not had a lot of people comment on my weight loss. I expected more. I'm sort of disappointed sometimes when someone doesn't comment. But I understand that commenting on people's weight or looks is sort of socially inappropriate, and hearing how people hear are interpreting them, I can kind of understand that. But I have sincerely accepted compliments such as:
- you and [hubby] are really looking good and getting fit
- you're looking great! Do you feel great?
- have you noticed how much weight she's losing? she's really lost a lot of weight!
- I can see it around your face/neck especially
- are you planning on losing more?
- you're getting too skinny (before I was down to "normal" BMI)
- have you lost weight? what are you doing?
- are you feeling okay? were you trying to?
- mom, your pants are getting really baggy! You need new clothes!
- you're too hard, I want my comfy mommy back
- I weigh more than she does now, but she's so ripped she can still beat me (yes, lots of comments by my son!)0 -
I have my favorite comeback to one of those:
One friend gave me the "Live a little" comment.
I told him that I don't do that any more. "Now I live big." 0 -
- you're too hard, I want my comfy mommy back
would break my heart and I dont even know any children
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You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)
Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)
You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)
WHAT THE HELL!? Ughh! How did you contain yourself!? Complete idiots. Yeah we ALL STRIVE to be like Jen. Hudson, she is a GOD.... how lame.0 -
I had a guy tell me I was "too skinny" and didn't have anything to look at. Nice.
My mother is constantly telling me to gain some weight. It's really frustrating! I'm HEALTHY, not SKINNY.0 -
My family has me scared (not literally) to lose anymore weight because they think I look good now but I still have more I'd like to lose and I want to tone up. I was never obese or super big (although I have been overweight or on the high end of healthy weight mostly) but I think they're just not used to me being smaller. But I like when people comment on my weight loss. Makes me feel accomplished.0
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^ my mom always makes comments about my boobs using the 12 year old boy comparison.When I was previously at my goal weight I was told I had had the body of a 12 year old boy... And that I was cuter when I had a butt.0 -
I lost 40lbs a couple of years ago and am now trying to maintain. There are some absolutely astounding things that people (usually skinny people!) have said to me while I was losing weight.
"Wow, if you lose any more weight you'll be a model"
"You've lost a ton of weight" (Me: "uh, I think 'ton' may be the wrong word..") "Yes you have! You've lost a TON!"
"So how much weight did you lose exactly?" (Me: "That's kinda personal") "So like more than 30 pounds?"
Anyone else want to share their own version of "Idiots Say The Darndest Things"?
I thought those were all pretty nice things for people to say, yet you call them idiots? Harsh.
You realize that a ton is two thousand pounds right?
You realize that ppl say ton as in "a bunch" right?0 -
You look so good....NOW! (Geee, thanks!)
Are you losing weight because of Jennifer Hudson? (Ranted about this yesterday, she is not the Black woman weight loss goddess)
You had surgery right? (Contrary to popular belief, people can lose large amounts of weight sans bariatric surgery!)
LOL, that's just like people who want to know if I know the Vietnamese family who lived down the road from them (who lived across the country) because I'm Asian (Umm I'm Japanese). Or if I'm an engineer (I'm an accountant).0 -
Remember, people, we are our own worst enemies and critics. Years ago when I was set in my lifestyle change and 125 pounds (and was strength training 3x a week) I never thought I was skinny enough. I would get compliments all the time, and I always said "no way, have you seen this that hangs on my belly? or my italian grandma arms?" (i'm italian so, I can say that
) EVEN WHEN I LOOKED AT PICTURES OF MYSELF during that time I was like "oh no!!! how gross" - well I saw a picture of myself the other day from that time frame when everyone told me how great my figure was, and guess what I had seen in that bikini pic... abs. A real 6 pack... muscle... and I thought I was fat and I was turned off by compliments...
the other day i heard "oh my god, your legs are sticks".. i just shrugged and said "thanks, just healthier now"
they're not sticks... they're just so much more toned ...
we really just can't accept the compliments -but yes, some people don't know the right things to say either...
KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND appreciate someone is noticing all your hardwork!:drinker: cheers!0
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