Kissing issue

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  • Chari_Jan
    Chari_Jan Posts: 157 Member
    Yea, my boyfriend used to be all about kissing but I'm pretty sure that only because he never really got to make-out before me. We only kiss when we're saying bye for the day now and we only have "deeper kisses" when there's a possibility of something else happening.

    I dunno, just seem like most guys either are totally into it or not but I feel like most of them feel like it's the first step to getting "more."
    I'm glad for this post though, I was a bit worried that since my boyfriend isn't all that affectionate and doesn't seem all that into kissing (he enjoys it when we're in the process it seems) that he wouldn't like sex either. We're both virgins so I have no idea.

    LOL I haven't met a man yet that doesn't like sex so I don't think you have anything to worry about. :laugh:
  • hedwighigh
    hedwighigh Posts: 299
    Yea, my boyfriend used to be all about kissing but I'm pretty sure that only because he never really got to make-out before me. We only kiss when we're saying bye for the day now and we only have "deeper kisses" when there's a possibility of something else happening.

    I dunno, just seem like most guys either are totally into it or not but I feel like most of them feel like it's the first step to getting "more."
    I'm glad for this post though, I was a bit worried that since my boyfriend isn't all that affectionate and doesn't seem all that into kissing (he enjoys it when we're in the process it seems) that he wouldn't like sex either. We're both virgins so I have no idea.

    LOL I haven't met a man yet that doesn't like sex so I don't think you have anything to worry about. :laugh:

    True, I just figured it'd be my luck to find the one guy who didn't enjoy it. :tongue:
  • Chari_Jan
    Chari_Jan Posts: 157 Member
    Yea, my boyfriend used to be all about kissing but I'm pretty sure that only because he never really got to make-out before me. We only kiss when we're saying bye for the day now and we only have "deeper kisses" when there's a possibility of something else happening.

    I dunno, just seem like most guys either are totally into it or not but I feel like most of them feel like it's the first step to getting "more."
    I'm glad for this post though, I was a bit worried that since my boyfriend isn't all that affectionate and doesn't seem all that into kissing (he enjoys it when we're in the process it seems) that he wouldn't like sex either. We're both virgins so I have no idea.

    LOL I haven't met a man yet that doesn't like sex so I don't think you have anything to worry about. :laugh:

    True, I just figured it'd be my luck to find the one guy who didn't enjoy it. :tongue:

    The chances are much greater that you won't like it at first.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    Please don't take this the wrong way. . but maybe the kiss just isn't very good?. . .I dated a REALLY nice girl, and I love kissing. . but she was a terrible kisser! It was like kissing a dental patient who's saying 'ahh'. . and dry too. . :(

    . . .and here's where I failed. . b/c I never told her. . how do you tell someone that!? Is it something you can learn, or are you just good at it or not. . ? Like singing. .

    I can relate! I dated a guy who was OMG sooooo hot... movie star hot, I think I may have actually swooned the first time I met him! Anyway, the guy could NOT kiss worth a darn! I did try to tell him, once... he would just sorta open his mouth, and place lips on lips... then nothing! It was the strangest thing! Not as bad as tongue down the throat or slobbering, but... just not right! (That's not why things didn't work out BTW... I probably could have dealt with that.)

    It's not JUST why things didn't work. .but it was certainly a factor. . Passionate kissing is a requirement for Passionate love.. if you ask me. .
  • Tori_356
    Tori_356 Posts: 510 Member
    i get a kiss on the lips , like a peck, not a french kiss or anything every morning before we part, or if i ask for it any other time, but my boyfriend never likes to kiss with much tongue or anything like that...kinda bugs me sometimes that would be nice
  • w_i_n_d_y
    w_i_n_d_y Posts: 216 Member
    I have no idea how to kiss lol

    lies!
  • bkw2488
    bkw2488 Posts: 190 Member
    My husband likes to kiss a lot long kisses, Me I like to kiss less, but maybe cuz I always feel like I am in a hurry and have a ton of stuff to get done, My head is telling me I don’t have time for this! LOL
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

    "Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

    Cheers.
    -wtk

    This is my SO...friggin spoiled
  • Chari_Jan
    Chari_Jan Posts: 157 Member
    i get a kiss on the lips , like a peck, not a french kiss or anything every morning before we part, or if i ask for it any other time, but my boyfriend never likes to kiss with much tongue or anything like that...kinda bugs me sometimes that would be nice

    I get pecks all the time but rarely tongue. I agree with you...it would be nice and it is when it happens. I just want more. LOL
  • JThomas61
    JThomas61 Posts: 892
    I love me some kissing. I have always enjoyed it.
    ^ This and I could never be with someone that didn't love kissing me as much as I loved kissing them.


    <----These lips were made for kissing!
  • v_addison
    v_addison Posts: 114 Member
    I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

    "Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

    Cheers.
    -wtk

    Bah haha!
  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member
    Well I've been with both and I must say I can't stand a non-kisser, definitely puts a wedge between me and her. I find it's an opening to their soul(if that makes sense) and I want ALL OF HER so kissing is one way to have that.

    As mentioned by some, I do consider a RED FLAG as kissing is quite intimate so perhaps your BF has intimacy issues, the reasons behind that he surely knows. Will he honestly share those with you is another thing.

    He has had some pretty tramatic things happen in his life so I think that has a lot to do with it. :frown:


    ^^^ DEFINITELY could be why. I have too, and I'm pretty sure that's why I am the way I am with affection.
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
    I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

    "Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

    Cheers.
    -wtk

    Alcoholocaust made me laugh so friggin hard.



    To the OP.

    My husband isn't huge on kissing but I gave him my reasonings. We give each other a kiss each time we leave the house because life is unpredictable, we have both been forced to realize a few times in the last couple years and I dont' want to regret getting in one more kiss.

    I LOVE making out with my husband, it's not really his preference....because he is male and he's lazy, and making out is pointless to him because we're married, he's already "got me". He'd rather just get to the good stuff, but you make deals with one another, he knows it makes me happy, so he does it, and after about 15 seconds he usually forgets why he always protests to it lol
  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member

    Alcoholocaust made me laugh so friggin hard.


    LOL @ Alcoholocaust :laugh:
  • xtinalovexo
    xtinalovexo Posts: 1,376 Member
    I HAVE to kiss!!! I love to kiss! I was with someone who did not... it just didn't work.
  • karylee44
    karylee44 Posts: 892
    i love kissing.. hand holding.. everything.. my husband is not physical AT ALL. it is a big issue at my house.. im starving for attention and physical touch..
    :(
    and it does a job on my self confidence. seeing that i am not attractive to my husband.
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    My boyfriend not big on kissing. I love kissing him.
  • hapoo100
    hapoo100 Posts: 926 Member
    i love kissing.. hand holding.. everything.. my husband is not physical AT ALL. it is a big issue at my house.. im starving for attention and physical touch..
    :(
    and it does a job on my self confidence. seeing that i am not attractive to my husband.

    he is blind. you are wonderfully attractive :flowerforyou:
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    It's weird, I don't really kiss my boyfriend a lot, but I like kissing. Usually when I do kiss him, it's on the forehead or something. I hate make-out style kissing, though.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    i love kissing.. hand holding.. everything.. my husband is not physical AT ALL. it is a big issue at my house.. im starving for attention and physical touch..
    :(
    and it does a job on my self confidence. seeing that i am not attractive to my husband.

    Damn, you're attractive to me! I'll kiss you! :laugh:
  • CuteAndCurvy83
    CuteAndCurvy83 Posts: 570 Member
    My Hubby! He don't mind quick pecks,but just doesn't like making out or anything that lasts longer then 10 seconds.LOL. He's really not into foreplay or sex much either, I love him to death, but sometimes it hurts my feelings. Still haven't figured out any solutions.
  • RoboLikes
    RoboLikes Posts: 519 Member
    Who doesn't like to kiss? That sounds crazy to me that people dislike kissing.
  • TamsinEllis
    TamsinEllis Posts: 293
    See I don't like displaying affection unless cuddled up on a couch or in bed, it's just not my thing, same with walking around public places with a guy who tries to hold my hand, I just don't like it. I don't think it's anything to worry about.
  • smkafka
    smkafka Posts: 134 Member
    Wow...I'm shocked to see that there are so many people that don't like kissing! I just thought it was my husband. My husband doesn't kiss me or show affection. It's been that way for 12 years. He loves me but it doesn't make it easy. Make sure that you think about whether or not you can live with that...or maybe it's time to move on.
  • Multistyles
    Multistyles Posts: 167
    That is an awesome amusement park!
  • kathleennnnn
    kathleennnnn Posts: 62
    I once told a guy I didn't like kissing cause he was an awful kisser. And then I broke up with him cause I LOVE kissing. It's a deal breaker for me. I think it's impossible to dislike it if it's good kissing and chemistry!!
  • SexyCook
    SexyCook Posts: 2,249 Member
    I Love to kiss...I have been there before...most cases from a prior relationship either they had a bad experience...or they are not the best at it...Sometimes you have to teach them how you like to be kissed and you will find they never knew from the start....ONLY a suggestion...not sure if your dude has this case...Just from a while back i had that issue...
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    maybe your breath is rank skank and he is too nice to tell you?
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
    Who doesn't like to kiss? That sounds crazy to me that people dislike kissing.

    I know, it makes me feel very whorish now saying that I love to make out lol
  • karylee44
    karylee44 Posts: 892
    I think that it is a deal breaker for me.. ofcourse, things were good in the begining of my marriage.. the last 10 years.. have sucked physically for me.. I have a ton of issues relating to my appreance, and have issues relating withother men .. i flirt ALOT. I just crave physical attention and not getting anything for years.. is really hard. almost unbearable some days.
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