Is it ok to flirt

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  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    It depends on the degree of flirtation.

    "Nice *kitten*." is okay. "Nice *kitten*. Wanna fluck?" is not okay.
  • Rhea30
    Rhea30 Posts: 625 Member
    I don't see flirting as cheating, especially on the net. Its really up to the couple to decide what they tolerate or not. Honestly if a marriage falls apart over flirting I think there were other issues to begin with.
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    If you are married, nah. You're just asking for trouble.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    sure, if you aren't attached.
    Flirting online is dangerous if you are married, however. I know lots of peeps whose marriage ended over "harmless" flirtations online.

    if a relationship is going to end over online flirtations, it can end over something else also. let's not confuse the symptom with the cause itself.
  • stormieweather
    stormieweather Posts: 2,549 Member
    NO flirting!!! It's a diet and fitness site, for heaven's sakes!! :noway:
















    JUST KIDDING!!! :laugh:
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues.
    Wait....what?? I believe that I should conduct myself the same on line as I do in person, and I would expect the same from my husband. Zero insecurities here. It's about respect for us. I realize other relationships have different expectations, but don't assume that women who "feel otherwise obviously have some insecurity issues". You can give people compliments without flirting. There's a difference.
  • giovanni407
    giovanni407 Posts: 29
    It is absolutely ok. There's no harm in it whatsoever. Not a thing to worry about.






    Until your partner joins the site. Then delete, delete, delete!!

    :tongue: :laugh:

    This... totally this...

    I should have known lol
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    I'm single so of course it's ok. I flirt on here, all day at work, with one of the trainers at the gym. It's fun. But again I'm single. I can do that.
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    Absolutely ok. It isnt like I am booking flights to go see all these men, that if I were single I would consider it. I won't cheat. The guys I am flirty with are aware that I am unavailiable. I am not sending any nekkid pics, I am not calling them and having phone sex. They aren't feeding me, Fu@#ing me or financing me, so it is no threat.
  • LeslieMDoyle
    LeslieMDoyle Posts: 162 Member
    I dont see flirting as cheating, as long as lines aren't crossed. A compliment and an innuendo here or there is harmless. A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues. Especially on a site as this one where ppl are from all over and its highly unlikely things will evolve from there


    Flirting can definitely be cheating. If you wouldn't do or say it in front of your spouse, it's cheating.
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    if you're single.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I'm single, so I see no problem with it.

    If I were in a relationship I would not flirt with other people, whether online or in "real life."
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I never flirt, but I don't care what anyone else does. Live your life the way you think you should.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues.
    Wait....what?? I believe that I should conduct myself the same on line as I do in person, and I would expect the same from my husband. Zero insecurities here. It's about respect for us. I realize other relationships have different expectations, but don't assume that women who "feel otherwise obviously have some insecurity issues". You can give people compliments without flirting. There's a difference.

    Don't let her fool you. Patti flirts with me CONSTANTLY!

    *runs*
  • k8lyn_235
    k8lyn_235 Posts: 507 Member
    I don't see flirting as cheating, especially on the net. Its really up to the couple to decide what they tolerate or not. Honestly if a marriage falls apart over flirting I think there were other issues to begin with.

    ^^THIS.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    No, I don't like the idea of flirting online. I think it might start off innocently enough but it can get dangerous pretty quickly.
    There is always someone out there that takes the flirting a lot more serious then it actually is...so I just try to avoid it altogether.
  • HMD7703
    HMD7703 Posts: 761 Member
    I am a huge flirt - anytime, anyone. If my SO can't accept that (and he does) then tough - he shouldn't be with me. HOWEVER, we all know when flirting goes too far. Knowing when to slow the roll is important.
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Depends?

    Are you single? Then flirt away!
    Are you in a relationship? well... is your partner aware of your flirtations? Are they okay with it or does it bother them? When you're in a relationship it's not about YOU anymore... because you become we and you have to take into account your partner's feelings.
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    Complimenting is one thing.
    But flirting, is a BIG no for me!! its kind of in a way of cheating.
    Thats just my personal opinion.

    ^^This.

    I agree...
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Flirting on the interwebs is the functional equivalent of unprotected anal sex. Consequently, I have nailed a whole lotta y'all in the keister. Bareback.

    No lube, either, I imagine.
  • MasterZeddicus
    MasterZeddicus Posts: 35 Member
    I dont see flirting as cheating, as long as lines aren't crossed. A compliment and an innuendo here or there is harmless. A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues. Especially on a site as this one where ppl are from all over and its highly unlikely things will evolve from there

    I wouldn't agree with this one bit. Not wanting your spouse or significant other to flirt has relatively little to do with being insecure. Yes for a lot of people it can come from insecurity, but people have different values when it comes to what constitutes monogamy. Who are you to say a person is insecure just because they aren't comfortable with flirting in a relationship? It really comes down to what the two people in a relationship value and decide. Having a common ground for comfort levels as far as what bothers each other when it comes to the opposite sex is something every couple has to decide and come to terms with. You obviously are comfortable with your partner flirting when you're in a relationship, which would obviously make you incompatible with someone who's raised in a home where their parents never show any interest in someone of the opposite sex save for their spouse. It all comes down to each individuals values and experience.

    As for flirting online, I think it follows the same rules as flirting in person. If the person is receptive, there's really no issue. If the person tells you to back off, or ignores you, take the hint. If you're in a relationship make sure your partner is comfortable with it, and realize that some people won't be comfortable with you flirting with them knowing you have a significant other.
  • Justacoffeenut
    Justacoffeenut Posts: 3,749 Member
    For me its a no no. Especially since this is a site for weight loss and encouraging getting healthy not a dating site. I know I find it a bit discouraging when what little time I have is spent weeding thru stuff I don't want to see or expect to find on here. Threads you normally wouldn't expect to see it on I find it on at times. And this is not a thread I normally would of visited except to say. Please those who want to do that make a thread just for that please and leave the other treads for us who are looking for suggestions, encouragement, and such in our goals to a better healthy us.

    Also if you are in a relationship leave the flirting for your partner not people online.
  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    I never flirt.
    If I say something that makes you think I am, and there is another way you could construe my statement, then that's the way I meant it.
    Really.
  • badgerbadger1
    badgerbadger1 Posts: 954 Member
    I don't confuse flirting with cheating. If a person is going to cheat, they will do it regardless. Flirting is a totally different ball game.
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    I have no aversion to flirting ... as long as lines are not crossed. Flirting can be harmless fun, but do not count on me to take it any further, especially since you are online and not IRL here with me (not as if anything would go on if you were here). Shoot I work around MANY men - and most of them are married. We all flirt but when the day comes to a close we all go home to our respective partners.
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    I pretty much live by the "If I would do it in real life, I will do it online and vice versa rule" so flirting on here is totally fine, but if your SO is not on the same page then perhaps you shouldn't do it...

    Only you are going to know if it is OK or not.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    Hi.....I'm Morgan. I'm 5'2, a Leo and like long walks on the beach.




    Wait...What??? This is a fitness site....:noway:
  • LeggyKettleBabe
    LeggyKettleBabe Posts: 300 Member
    Why cant a fitness site just be a fitness site. Complimenting or teasing / joking is fine but does every forum on the internet have to turn into a dating site, cum on.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Flirting on the interwebs is the functional equivalent of unprotected anal sex. Consequently, I have nailed a whole lotta y'all in the keister. Bareback.

    No lube, either, I imagine.

    That's a slippery slope.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    define flirt

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