Is it ok to flirt

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  • littledumplings
    littledumplings Posts: 223 Member
    I wish someone wanted to flirt with me lol! Maybe after 40 more pounds....lol
  • TheReese1206
    TheReese1206 Posts: 238
    Exactly
    Complimenting is one thing.
    But flirting, is a BIG no for me!! its kind of in a way of cheating.
    Thats just my personal opinion.
  • opticpoet
    opticpoet Posts: 29 Member
    Not if you are in a relationship with trust.
  • Farfourah
    Farfourah Posts: 896 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:

    I'd kiss you with my lips and I'm not talking about the ones on my face....
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    I don't consider saying hey hun or beautiful how are you as flirting...though some would disagree. I hate how people have become so judgmental that you can not complement anyone anymore with out seeming like your hitting on them. I think that's what is wrong with the world now. We are so easy to point out others faults but can not complement someone without being seen as flirtatious.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I wish someone wanted to flirt with me lol! Maybe after 40 more pounds....lol

    Hey littledumplin... How you doin hot stuff :smokin: lol
  • Firefighter_Jay
    Firefighter_Jay Posts: 426 Member
    yeah, seriously, if you are married, you shouldn't be flirting online. Its no different than calling up one of your wifes hot friends and trying to rail her while your wife is at work.

    Now that's out too?!?!

    I couldn't keep a straight face while typing that. hahahahh
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I wish someone wanted to flirt with me lol! Maybe after 40 more pounds....lol

    *arm around the shoulder*

    How've you been, punkin? You're lookin good!!!
  • chicky26
    chicky26 Posts: 127 Member
    My husband and I have been together now for nearly 11 years and I would say it is absolutley fine to flirt. Having a laugh and joke and a little flirt with another person is fun and light hearted and most deffinatley not cheating.

    I think it depends where you are in a relationship and how comfortable you are with each other, and for that matter with yourself too.

    I think flirting is natural and gives you more self confidence and although you shouldn't need it for this it kind of reaffirms to yourself that your worthy of attention - the fact that other people want to flirt with you. Nothing wrong with a confidence boost :) especially when youve been sooooo obese for sooooo long!
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:

    I like this


    *lick lick*

    :love:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:

    I'd kiss you with my lips and I'm not talking about the ones on my face....

    *LMGDAO*
  • nhendri
    nhendri Posts: 236 Member
    I have always beleived that if you have to hide it or lie about it, than it should be happening!!!
    If you are in a relationship and if the person you were with was flirting would it bother you and if they hid it from you or lied to you how would you feel.
    We are all grown adults and know right from wrong and what is or is not appropriate.
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:

    I'd kiss you with my lips and I'm not talking about the ones on my face....

    reeeeeeeaallly!!!? :bigsmile: :wink:
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
    I say if you are single and they are single sure..
  • BullDozier
    BullDozier Posts: 237 Member
    If it makes you feel guilty, then i think it's fair to assume that it's not 'harmless'.

    Most relationships have their own boundaries; a relationship with one person may have different boundaries of what is acceptable to another.
    Good post, and I agree.

    My wife is a huge flirt, I know that and it doesn’t bother me, so I don't have much reserve about flirting myself. It's pretty easy to stay within the boundaries of what is acceptable (whatever your boundaries of acceptability are), and if you start to question if you are getting close, you probably are.
  • PandaFit450
    PandaFit450 Posts: 619 Member
    i never flirt, i'm just friendly.

    Me too!
  • Josie_lifting_cats
    Josie_lifting_cats Posts: 949 Member
    I dont see flirting as cheating, as long as lines aren't crossed. A compliment and an innuendo here or there is harmless. A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues. Especially on a site as this one where ppl are from all over and its highly unlikely things will evolve from there

    I wouldn't agree with this one bit. Not wanting your spouse or significant other to flirt has relatively little to do with being insecure. Yes for a lot of people it can come from insecurity, but people have different values when it comes to what constitutes monogamy. Who are you to say a person is insecure just because they aren't comfortable with flirting in a relationship? It really comes down to what the two people in a relationship value and decide. Having a common ground for comfort levels as far as what bothers each other when it comes to the opposite sex is something every couple has to decide and come to terms with. You obviously are comfortable with your partner flirting when you're in a relationship, which would obviously make you incompatible with someone who's raised in a home where their parents never show any interest in someone of the opposite sex save for their spouse. It all comes down to each individuals values and experience.

    As for flirting online, I think it follows the same rules as flirting in person. If the person is receptive, there's really no issue. If the person tells you to back off, or ignores you, take the hint. If you're in a relationship make sure your partner is comfortable with it, and realize that some people won't be comfortable with you flirting with them knowing you have a significant other.

    I agree with this. While there may be a small bit of insecurity on my part, it's not even so much that. I flip it around.

    Would my husband be okay with if it I were on here posting pictures in my hawt new outfits for other men? Probably not.

    Would my husband be okay with me posting in the group that does boobie photos (and even more, actually)? Probably not.

    Would my husband be okay with me referring to other men as "good looking", giving them pet names, or me ranting about the how he annoys me to them? Probably not.

    So I expect the same out of him, because I respect that he wouldn't appreciate that kind of behavior from me. I can't say the feeling is the same from him, so yes, flirting hurts. And not because of insecurity, but because of the realization that we don't value our relationship in the same way.
  • SarahJ1932
    SarahJ1932 Posts: 4
    To me Flirting is a form of cheating. i despise cheating more than anything. i have no problem with having online friends or in-person friends of the opposite gender but you always need to be careful. if someone starts to flirt with you, nip it in the bud (ESPECIALLY if you are attached, married, etc.) even if its a one-way thing you can still get repercussions from it.
  • cutchro
    cutchro Posts: 396 Member
    Flirting is fine if you: Keep in the open and not behind PMs. Never say anything to anyone that you wouldn't say in front of your significant other and you are fine.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    True Story:

    An MFP Male logged an amazing workout session. I publicly posted on that exercise log "Way to go, hun! Work it!!"

    I got a PM from his wife "How DARE you call MY husband honey!" and on and on...

    I simply deleted him, as I don't give a *kitten* about their marital drama and want no part of it.

    You have the power to interpret things however you choose. And maybe, just maybe, there IS such a thing as truly harmless banter... and vice versa harmful, insipid, shallow, scandalous, raunchy, completely smoking hot banter...
  • feb06momma
    feb06momma Posts: 169
    If you have to ask if something is okay...then its probably not. Its very easy to take things from innocent to too far in no time at all.
  • MacInCali
    MacInCali Posts: 1,012 Member
    I love to flirt.
    I was a big flirt before I met my husband.
    I flirted with my husband when we met.
    He obviously liked it a lot because he asked me to marry him.
    And ya know what? I still flirt.
    And do you know why? Because I am me and I love to flirt.
    Does my husband know I flirt? How could he not? It's part of who I am. It's part of who he fell in love with.
    Does my husband flirt? Absolutely. Hell, I even flirt with those that HE flirts with!
    Marriage doesn't change who you are, it changes the number of people you're "supposed to" sleep with.
    How dull life would be without flirting ...
  • Hope1971
    Hope1971 Posts: 110 Member
    I have mixed feelings I guess...Flirting is completely natural, we all do it even those that think they don't, whether is real life or on here, we all find ourselves doing it. and it can even be beneficial to both parties involved on a self esteem level and feeling good about themselves. However knowing where to draw the line can be complicating and sometimes you may find yourself thinking about steps beyond the flirting. That is when it becomes a problem! When you are getting something from someone else that makes you feel better about yourself and dare I say even attractive and ohh.. so sexy, but then you are not getting that at home from your partner , this is where the problems come from and what leads to steps further than flirting. We all need to feel desired, wanted, needed, and valued...it is in our human nature to seek that out especially when you aren't getting it at home if you are married or attached.

    This is a tough, tough, question, and people with good morals and values even have a tough time with this one!
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    Personally, I'm a flirt by nature. I think it's totally fine as long as it stays light, fun and innocent. If it gets seriously raunchy and suggestive, or either person suggests meeting in person... then it's a little sketch.
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    I do a lot more than flirt with some of my female friends...

    and we appreciate it! :devil:

    WORD!
  • Jessamine
    Jessamine Posts: 226 Member
    Ladies, guys - Is it ok to flirt with people on internet sites like this one? I have varied opinions - let's hear yours.....

    I'm married, so no, it's not ok for me.

    My husband and I don't flirt with other people. My husband is very uncomfortable when other ladies flirt with him. He is always talking about me, his wife, to let everyone know up front that he is married. (He thinks this is important for him to do in his particular line of work.)
  • saragato
    saragato Posts: 1,154
    Only if you're single and the one you're flirting with is, as far as you know, single. Me, I don't mind seeing people flirt either for fun or seriously in threads or even in news feed statuses because hey it happens outside the internet in places you wouldn't expect it to crop up. What bothers me is when people get graphic and not just for giggles. Take that stuff to private messaging or email, it's like making out on a bus. No one really wants to see it and you might catch some *kitten* for it.

    And since someone else mentioned this, I don't see someone of the opposite sex telling me I'm beautiful or giving me a compliment as flirting. Had a guy in another thread earlier tell me I was beautiful after I commented about others ragging on my appearance and I thought it was nice, not a come-on. Unfortunately with the internet being in text only and lacking voice inflection and even a facial expression, a lot of things can be read wrong or seen with the wrong intentions.
  • Joe74
    Joe74 Posts: 35 Member
    ABSOFRICKENLUTELY!!!! You only live once!! :happy:
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    These threads are a great way to avoid some land mines (uptight prudes).

    minesweeper.jpg
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    I love to flirt.
    I was a big flirt before I met my husband.
    I flirted with my husband when we met.
    He obviously liked it a lot because he asked me to marry him.
    And ya know what? I still flirt.
    And do you know why? Because I am me and I love to flirt.
    Does my husband know I flirt? How could he not? It's part of who I am. It's part of who he fell in love with.
    Does my husband flirt? Absolutely. Hell, I even flirt with those that HE flirts with!
    Marriage doesn't change who you are, it changes the number of people you're "supposed to" sleep with.
    How dull life would be without flirting ...

    This is how we roll too.
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