worst comment ever made about your weight
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I gained the freshman 15 in college (maybe a little more). When I went home, my family kept commenting about how I gained weight. But during our big family reunion, while I was nibbling on some cookies in a conversation, my mom suddenly said very loudly to my sister, "Take those cookies away from her. She obviously doesn't need them", in front of everyone. I already felt sensitive about gaining weight, so that comment was just vicious. I left the room and started crying.0
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I just remembered another one that I'm kind of curious to know if anyone else has encountered. I went on a date with a guy and he was acting like he really liked me, but afterwards (by text message) he explained that I wasn't his type and he only likes girls who are really skinny and he was just trying something new. He kind of went on and on, pretty much about how amazing he was. The way he explained it was that he wanted to see if he could like an overweight girl and the way he talked about it was like there's no way I could ever get a guy like him and he assumed I'd like him no matter what- a pity date. Sorry sunshine, there are way more attractive guys (inside and out) who actually like my body, and also don't only judge me based on how I look. I did end up kind of being friends with him for a little bit because I felt sorry for him. As a side note- I had already lost probably 35 lbs and explained to him that day that I'd been losing and that was a sensitive subject.0
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I have been moo'd at, heckled, called names etc. but my moms obsession with my weight (and yet, refused to take me to a doctor when I asked her to take me as a teenager...) and comments are what stuck with me the most.
...this whole post broke my heart
I really hope that she realizes sooner rather than later the damage that she has caused you and tries to remedy it for the sake of your relationship together.
It broke my heart too. Hugs.0 -
I told my BF (now ex) that I was excited I bought some size medium pants. His response: "so it's still not a small"0
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Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.
"Grandma, I love you."
"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."
wow... i'm hurt for you.0 -
When I was 14 or 15 my mom told me that I should lose weight because "Husbands dont like fat wives". I only put on more weight being so upset over her comment over the years and theres a reason I'm in therapy now...0
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i've had a lifetime of them... and i've been really fit and then really fat... up and down on the scale. i have a wide variety of sizes in my closets. i've read through everyone's posts and all the hurt feelings rush back to me ... i'm sitting here angry and upset for all of you - i've heard them all... "when are you due - i'm not pregnant". "i would love you if you were skinny" (2nd ex husband) "you have such a pretty face"... the list goes on and on... and so does the painful memories.
when things are going good, i eat and when things are going bad i eat. all the negative comments over the years aren't washed away with the positive. we tend to hang on to the "fat" comments much more than we do the "skinny" comments... why is that?! i had a full tummy tuck and muscle repair in 2008... worked so hard to get the weight off - and even when i was 50 lbs lighter and got rid of the FUPA - i still saw myself as fat and gross - and the good comments didn't stick. i'm back up 57lbs. let me assure you... getting plastic surgery does not change the thoughts of the pain. sure you're fixing the outside but i didn't fix the inside and wa-la... back up on the scale. also getting liposuction - the fat DOES come back! i spent $9000 and one of the worst comments i heard was - "you spent all that money and your're fat again... what a waste" - this was last year. talk about guilt!0 -
Ive not had anything said personally, but a friend of mine who is also an instructor (although still classed as new to it i guess) had a client/customer after a Spin class say 'you dont look like i thought you would for an instructor' ...Ouch!! ..i might add she is a very good instructor, dont be fooled by looks/shape alone!0
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This post made me so sad.
I'm going to go and hug my Mum so hard .
For me, an ex-boyfriend once told me that if they sent me to Africa no one would starve again. I was 140lbs at the time. I'm 5'6". I was slim.
Last summer I was at the park with friends, and one of the guys kicked the ball onto the road, so me and this other girl said we'd walk round and get it. We walked past a group of lads (chavs) and one shouted to the friend, "Oi, which one d'ya want? The one in black, or the fat'un in Purple."
I was wearing purple.
I dunno. My family and my fiance always tell me I'm not fat, but I AM overweight, and what reason do these strangers have to lie about it, y'know?0 -
I would've said, loudly enough for her to hear, "Is there a hyena in here...oh wait, it's that woman over there laughing at the rude comment her son just made about a total stranger."
yeah me too probably, i was once running around a local lake/reservoir and some guys were sat on a bench as a guy ran past, albeit slowly, overweight but trying obviously to make a change and they took the piss out of him, i boiled over and shouted 'at least he's doing something, not sat on a bench eating MacDonalds you f**kwits' ..it went quiet.. 0 -
I am not particularly large, but my dad told me I was cuddly and cried
It is now that I am starting to lose the weight people's real thoughts on it come out, like 'ohhhh ur face was realllly big and now it isnt', eh thanks?0 -
I am not particularly large, but my dad told me I was cuddly and cried
It is now that I am starting to lose the weight people's real thoughts on it come out, like 'ohhhh ur face was realllly big and now it isnt', eh thanks?
I think most people find it difficult to talk about a persons weight if they are overweight, but will talk about it if they start to lose weight, because they can add positives to it too
.. a bit like the 'positive sandwich' approach.. and people who are overweight take motivation from positive comments about what they've lost or how different they are looking... just human nature i think?! 0 -
i weight twelve stones. my dad had been on holiday for a while and i was so excited to see him when he got back, last week. when i hugged him he hugged me back and said in front of the whole family, 'oh this is karishma, 22 stone'. I went inside the house and pretended that i dropped his suitcase on my foot when tears ran from my eyes.
i have been finding it hard to sit and eat in front of my family for the past week, and i keep adjusting my clothes because i dont feel comortable in them.
hes always been embarrassed of my weight, especially when other kids are at my sports club, i have way better skill and stamina than them- its just that i look like a total fatty when doing sport!
its not like its not my fault, i know i have eaten too much over the childhood years and now im paying for it- its just that those comment hurt so much when you find out how the people you see everyday think about you.0 -
i had an arguement with my boyfriend , he said i was a fat ugly *****, (a few weeks after having my baby), he just kept saying my belly was discusting etc. i ended up starving myself and exercising loooads. lost 3 stone, now i can call him fat. oooh how tables have turned0
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Reading some of these posts makes me realise that a lot of people have no thought for the way their comments can affect people, people they are 'close' to too!! Ive always worked under the guise (from my Grandmothers many sayings) that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it.. unless its constructive and asked for by said person..0
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Wow.. Isn't it amazing how much words do hurt. I am so sorry for all the heartache I have read but also inspired by the way everyone pushed forward. Mine does not seem as bad now but a month after I had my 3rd son.I was 178 and my husband decided he wouls start to call me fat all the time. That and make it very apparent he was looking @ smaller women. Who of course did not have kids and most were photo shoped and airbrushed. But to think a man( lightlt used term) could do that to the mom of his newborn. Well we are still together but he can't touch this 0
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Remember MEAN PEOPLE SUCK! I hope using that mantra will make you realize the problem is them not you!
Big Hugs!0 -
I have had many awful comments over the years, but the worst one was about 6 months ago.
I was walking down the road, and a car drove past with a child, about 10/11 years old, hanging out of the window.
She shouted, 'You make me laugh, fatty, hahaha!'
I cant tell you how much that hurt, not only what she said, but there are people that let their children behave in that way.
I seem to get a lot of people beeping horns and shouting out of cars.0 -
Ive been asked 'Whens it due' before.
But when I was about 10/11 my stepmother told me I was fat and put me on a diet and exercise regime. I remember she grabbed hold of my thigh in a changing room and said 'This isnt muscle its fat'. That upset me loads. Up until then I was never bothered about my weight. I wasn't exactly skinny but I didnt think I was fat then!
I think when it comes from people who are suppose to be your friend or love you it hurts the most.0 -
A girl at my work who is obese (but was smaller than me at the time) was drunk, admittedly, but cornered me at a work party and ranted at me about my weight and obviously not caring if I lived or died. She attacked me, my relationship with my husband, my career prospects and essentially told me it was my own fault if I died.
Now the smart girl inside of me says she was deflecting her own issues onto me.
But the fat girl inside of me cringes every time I see her, waiting to get bullied again
Silly, I know!!!0 -
This was about my weight loss - You now only have a double chin instead of triple chin. Also, what are you going to do with all that extra skin? Make a set of luggage?0
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Fat Butt Slim,
Eclipse out the moon with my massive backside
Ironing board chest
Knight Rider / Baywatch (i never found out what they were but obviously cruel)
Elephant legs
Tree Trunk legs
Lanky
Wide
Chunky
.................................I could go on.
Now all the people that called me names are FAT and i'm the fit one :happy:
Can you say KARMA!!0 -
"Where did you get that dress? Nashville Tent and Awning" and this was 4 weeks after I had delivered my 3rd child. Gotta love customers when they think they are being funny. Why is it that it's okay to say things to overweight people? You wouldn't say something ugly to a cancer patient or a person that was afflicted with a debilitating disease. People don't see obesity as a disease.0
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People that who are around me always has something slick to say about my weight. Either, someone is comparing me to somebody that is "always smaller" than me or someone says, "Oh, I didn't talk to the big lady , I spoke with the smaller one." And, the most hurtful one of them all, "You weren't that big when you first started working here, you blew up like a balloon!" Since then, I have been serious about losing weight.0
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Oh the other one was my Mother-in-Law who declared that I should get liposuction, 'cos my waist is really skinny, but my *kitten* needs work.0
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I was 12, my mom took me back to school shopping she bought me size 12 jeans. She then told everyone she talked to in front of me that she had to buy her 12 year old size 12 pants that I was doomed to be the fat kid at school. The "fat red-headed girl with freckles". Then she'd end it with "hope she doesn't need glasses too".
That spring I went through a growth spurt got my curves and whatever, the result was a size 7 without changing diet or exercise. Nor did I have to get glasses until I was around 20.0 -
I was in 13 at the time, sitting on an arm chair with my legs thrown over one of the arms reading a book. My Grandmother asked me if I had gained weight. I told her I didn't think so, and her reply was "Oh, I guess I'm just not used to seeing such big legs". She's a wonderful woman, and I'm sure she didn't mean to be hurtful, but that stuck with me!0
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Also.........
I'd made a special effort and bought a brand new dress and shoes (now slim at this point)
I hadn't spent much time with my partner and wanted him to think i looked lovely... We were on our way to a restaurant and as usual he was walking miles ahead of me.
I asked if he thought i looked nice, eventually he turned around LOOKED ME UP AND DOWN (with a disgusted look on his face) and said
''hmm... I like your shoes'' ........
What an A**H***
No surprises I didn't stay with him0 -
Bump0
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Oh the other one was my Mother-in-Law who declared that I should get liposuction, 'cos my waist is really skinny, but my *kitten* needs work.
My future Mother in Law insists on lecturing my fiance on his weight every time we go over to her house. I get it, he's a big man - and does need to lose weight - but, y'know, he's doing it, slowly but surely on his own. But the snide remarks he gets from his Mother... Just.
Okay. I'd understand it a little better if she wasn't the reason he is as big as he is now. She brought her kids up on burgers, and pizza, and too much pasta, and too much cheese. And wonders why every single one of her children are overweight. Her daughter was 450lbs before she started losing weight. She's lost over 14 stone, but will forever have to live with the consequences of being so big. Her youngest son, is so active - he's a football coach, goes to the gym regularly, but still struggles to maintain his weight.
But she stills thinks its appropriate to call her son a "fat *kitten*" whilst serving him a curry, claiming it was a "weightwatchers recipe." I asked for the recipe. It called for 6 tablespoons of oil.
ETA: and it wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't a big woman too. i've now learned to either not go over to her house, or when i do just to ignore every single thing that comes out of her mouth.0
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