GUYS- - - Do you prefer a girl to have an appetite like your

Don't care one way or the other.

My boyfriend has a good 70lbs on me (not muscle ) and I can outeat him any time. I demand that he find it impressive. Though perhaps if I didn't, I would't be on here!

And I'm amazed that there are guys and gals who don't understand why some of us react so strongly to the op's question and to the responses. Women have had to fight for equality... and yet we still face blatant sexism on a regular basis. Of course it's upsetting to have someone suggest that we have to fit a stereotyped roll to be attractive and desirable.

I have a near violent gut reaction to this nonsense... still. I absolutely can't stand a man who thinks it's acceptable to even hint around that I should be doing ANYTHING in a more ladylike manner... what I decide is "ladylike" and "feminine" and "acceptable"... even in regard to food, GOES.

Men who care are nothing more than *kitten* who want to push any low self-esteem button on a woman they can find. Nothing more. I don't buy into the "ladylike" eating bull****.

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I think everyone's appetite depends on a lot of factors.... age, height, male or female, sedentary or active lifestyle.... if a woman can be healthy and chow down like her hubby, then more power to her. I don`t care if I eat more or less than my husband and neither does he. We do encourage each other to exercise and try to encourage other to make better choices....

The only thing I got to say that bothers me in regards to appetite : An overweight woman (someone I know).... goes to Mcdonalds for breakfast....and she would order....2 breakfast burritos, 1 egg sausage sandwich and 3 - 4 or those hashbrowns a large orange juice and an apple turnover and scoffle it down in one sitting.....for me that was just to much to watch. (even my hubby couldn`t eat that much).... if her heart and arteries could talk and think they would be crying. It was just a sad sight. Some people really don`t care about themselves... For whatever reason they choose to eat so poorly and so much, breaks my heart because of all the health risks that this could bring. Being overweight myself at the time, I rememeber thinking what she chose to eat was ***king crazy.

I generally eat 2X as much as my wife, but she saves her calories for wine

She does eat 2x as many veggies as me if that is any consolation :bigsmile:

The first time I ate with the guy I'm seeing he looked over at my plate and commented on how I had kept up with him. He said it in a good way, not like it bothered him. I do tend to eat like I've been starved for days. He eats the same way.

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Wow, guys, what's it like to have women actually care what you think of our APPETITES now?
Think about how silly this question would sound if the genders were turned around.
I can't even believe there are men who have an opinion on it too. Why would you even care, if you're already attracted to her in the first place?

This.

Although I will say I have found myself conscious of what/how much I am eating in front of men that I am interested in. Sad, really, and a sign of the world we live in.

*Feminist sigh*

When I used to power lift in high school, my old boyfriend and I would have 'eat offs'! I was trying to put mass on to lift more, he was trying to gain weight because he was so skinny. I always out ate him :P I think that's what made him mad, not the fact I ate a lot. Now, I eat less than my current boyfriend, mainly because he has a very physical job, he's like a bear-muscular and strong as heck underneath his warm fat, brickhouse as he describes it. The only time I can surpass his appetite is if I exercised incredibly hard that day, but he doesn't mind. Just means I can make him more good food.

Oh man, if I ate as much as my husband, I would probably die like that guy on the movie Se7en.
I worked out his calories a couple days in a row, 4K-6K a day. But if I worked out like him I wouldn't need to be on this site... lol.

Before I ever put on weight I was a runner and ate a ton, most of the guys I dated noticed I ate as much or more than them, but they seemed to think it was funny, not some sort of threat to their manhood.

Wow, guys, what's it like to have women actually care what you think of our APPETITES now?
Think about how silly this question would sound if the genders were turned around.
I can't even believe there are men who have an opinion on it too. Why would you even care, if you're already attracted to her in the first place?

My thoughts exactly!

i second that!

My husband and I were in a similar weight and height range before I started this & neither of us were overweight. Although he did consume several hundred more calories than I did in a day, this was mostly in juices/beers and not from our daily food intakes. Now that I am on a diet I am consuming a few hundred calories less a day and this only amounts to him eating a few more portions of fruit and granola than I do!

Gentlemen, please do not judge what we eat at the dinner table. I am very fortunate to have my husband who does not judge. I can't imagine how bad it would feel to be judged on this...

im at a point now where i am trying not to see food as an enemy. so when i enjoy it, i enjoy it. and if anyone has a problem with how much i am eating, they can shove it.

Eh, I am very conscious of whether I eat more or less than my current bf, and it can be a pain and irritates him no end at times, as he believes in just eating, food is just an energy etc. He is naturally skinny, small boned, and doesn't really eat huge amounts and has always been very, very hyperactive, lots of cycling and moving around. I don't think I eat as much as him, no, but I probably used to on some days, before I got a bit obsessed again. I think he regrets ever commenting on the size of my bum now, almost a year ago, and at a time I was not even overweight.

Having said that, he has always told me to just eat, and couldnt understand why I used to hate eating anything in front of him.
He encourages me to have more sometimes, at dinner. We cook our own meals as I don't eat meat and he eats a lot of meat and pasta and the like. I always have less calories than him at dinner, that is for sure, even if my plate seems fuller. A woman could eat several plates, and still be eating less than her boyfriend's 1 plate, simply due to different calorie contents of food.

I am almost the same height as my bf, and a bigger build, so I don't think it would be that unusual if I did eat as much as him. Plus I cycle for close to 2 hours almost everyday, so there you go. I would find it a turnoff to be with someone who expected me to not eat much, especially given I already have a history of ED issues. If a guy finds a female who eats the same as him a turnoff, maybe he better find himself someone from an eating disorder's unit...might suit him better.