If you are an only child please open-quick question

I am not an only child, but I do have several friends who are. They all say the same thing "I wouldn't change anything about my life but sometimes it would be nice to have a sibling to confide in once and a while."


I am the oldest of 5 (3 biological and one step sister) we range in age from 29 - 18 the 2 youngest being 18 and 19 but they are not close at all as the 19 year old lived with her mother and never had much to do with us. I asked my youngest brother e once if he wished there was someone his age that he could talk to and have tons of "remember when we were kids memories" and you know what he told me? Nope, he has tons of stories most of which are way better because I was driving by the the time he was able to do things with us and he has "remember when I was younger and we went here?? or did this??" He just turned 18 in March and to be honest... I am closer to him than I am my brother that is about 18 months younger than me... and him and the brother that have an 8 year gap are really super close ... so don't worry about any age gaps if you do decide to have any more kids.

im an only child. it was nice, but i have 3 kids and i love seeing them interact/play/and love each other

I was an only child and yes I wish I had a brother or sister that we could have done things together. But I had cousins around my age and was never a loner or anything. I think being an only child made me more independent.

I always thought I would have two children, because that's the kind of household I grew up in. I also wanted a 'baby sibling' when I was that age, but now that I'm older, I don't really care one way or another.

My boyfriend was an only child, and he really enjoyed it. He liked the fact that his parents could put all their effort into supporting him and his accomplishments.

We both turned out very-well, so really, it's up to you if you want to have another child. I bet your daughter will be fantastic either way.

*Note, his parents divorced when he was 13, mine are still married.

I loved being an only child! I mean, sure, sometimes I wanted a sibling, but I think overall it was awesome. I have an almost 2-year-old, and he's going to be it for me!

This is just my personal experience, but I loved/still love being an only child. My parents were worried about the whole "she's going to be spoiled and have no friends, blah blah blah" thing BUT I have a ton of cousins and actually have been super outgoing for my entire life so the whole friend issue was never a problem. That happens when you're involved in a bunch of activities, sports, and such! Plus, it's always great to have some "me time" every once in a while.

Not gonna lie though, I wanted brothers and sisters SO badly as a kid but I'm so glad that didn't happen... Being spoiled isn't always a bad thing. I quickly realized that they're not technically spoiling me... they just have only one perfect child to spend their money on :laugh:

my mom spaced us out by 8 years. when I was 6 or 7 I wanted a brother really really bad, but when I was 8 and my brother was born I was just like "meh". when I was 16 and my youngest brother was born the middle brother didn't care, and I was super excited cuz I had a job and I wanted to buy lots of stuff for him. I would say we all love each other, but because of the age difference we never really bonded very well, I mean I only see my brothers on major holidays, and they fight like cats and dogs, but maybe that's just a boy thing.

i was an only child growing up, and i was perfectly happy. I have 2 kids, and thats all i plan on having.

I was sort of an "only child". My brother is 10 years older than me, so even now we don't really talk. I worry the age gap is already too big (this is just my opinion though) but they would end up being nearly 7 years apart. So if they are anything like me and my brother, they wont really feel like "siblings". I love the guy, but he moved out by the time we were able to actually have conversations and now we just see each other on holiday. So, if you are going to have another child, just remember that. The age gap may be too big. This doesn't go for everyone though!

I actually have to agree with this,I was the only child until I got adopted at 11, my parent already had a daughter and adopted a boy too. My sister is 13 yrs older and my brother is 4 years older, both moved out of the house before I really got to bond with them on that level. I only see them on holidays as well, and though I would love to have a close relationship with both but the age difference sorta ruins it, because we couldn't enjoy the same things cause of the age difference. Don't get me wrong I love them to death but I didn't really get to bond with them.

If you're open to adoption you should do that so she can a sister close to her age to play with, I wish my sister was closer to my age because we would have had so much fun together but I guess I have friends to do that with now :P

I would have loved being the only child too though, because my siblings always got everything they wanted, my brother would get away with DUIs/Drugs/Totalling 3 cars and not get punished but I would get punished if I didn't clean my room, it was complete utter bull sh**, because I was the youngest I got treated the ****iest, my parents literally ended up ruining my life so I haven't talked/seen my parents in over 3 years,I only talk with my sister and brother. I hated being the youngest, they say you get spoiled as the "baby" of the family but you don't. If my brother and my sister were closer to my age, than my parents wouldn't treat us all so differently.

I'm not an only child either but my husband is, and i agree with you totally. I think there should be more than 1 child. Not trying to offend anyone just my opinion.

Would have liked someone else, but I got more than enough attention. I was quite pleased as an only child and I think I'd have been equally pleased with a sibling.

I think it is a travesty for children to not have any siblings.

As a child it is important to learn to love others and share, and siblings are a great opportunity for this. As you age, having siblings can open up the possibility that your own children will have their own family (cousin's, etc) as well.

There are so many important reasons for a child to have siblings, I could go on and on. The only reason against it is: so the one kid can have more stuff, and the parents don't have to work as hard.

Family is one of the great joys in life; the more the merrier (within reason, DUGGARS).

I'm not an only child but I can the age gap between siblings doesnt always matter. My youngest brother and I are 9 yrs apart. He followed me everywhere when he was little and I loved it. When he was a teenager we didnt do much together but now that he is 26 and I'm 35 the age gap doesnt matter, we get along great and hang out. I actually have less in common w/my other brother and he is 14mos younger than me, him and I dont speak. We just dont get along!

I'm another only child. My parents moved house a lot, so I didn't get to have any friends for more than a couple of years at a time either. My parents were always busy with their business, so school summer holidays were when I got to spend 6 straight weeks with no-one to talk to: I hated it and always wanted a sibling. I have 3 children - there was no way I was going to inflict being an only child on any child of mine.

I'm a true only child. My mom was an only child as well, and my dad had one sibling.

I have never once regretted not having a sibling, or wished that my parents had another child. Now don't get me wrong, I wouldn't say that I preferred being an only child - but it simply was what it was, and my childhood was great. I did make friends with another only child when I was 5, and we're still very close to this day.

I will say my folks made sure I joined a lot of things to get friends my own age, and you would never call me shy. I am also closer to my parents then most people I know, but I'm not sure if that's a product of being an only child or a testament to how awesome my parents are (the latter is certainly true).

I will say - fiscally - I got to do a lot more things, stay in college a lot longer with the aide of parents, go on trips overseas - study abroad - all of that - because I was an only child. My parents were free to spend the money on me - which was pretty awesome. If you called that spoiled - maybe it is - by spoiling a child on experiences that made me more culturally aware of my world was pretty great. I did NOT get all the toys I wanted - no spoilage there - but if I wanted to travel or try something new - the backing was there.