worst comment ever made about your weight

Wow, truly disheartening things people say. Truly.

For as long as i can remember my mom has always said you can stand to shed a few pounds.

I was asked if I was pregnant...I almost cried.

At my gyno appt a few years ago the pa said I needed to lose weight and that no type of bc would work on me. Funny since the pill worked, and I have since gotten off it because I would like to have kids.

From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)

"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"


The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)


ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"
Edited by ThePunkHippie on Fri 04/20/12 09:45 AM
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Your mum should be so fired from your life!!!

Today when I trained my delts they told me Im to shredded and said my veins on my left shoulder were disgusting.

lol, Jeez, people insult you if you're fit, or unfit, or just fine! I actually like seeing the veins on people, if you see Rob Riches he has really nice shoulders, probably (for me) one of his best assets, and showing veins is a great looking imo, shows you work hard, and train hard.

From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)

"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"


The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)


ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"
Edited by ThePunkHippie on Fri 04/20/12 09:45 AM
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Your mum should be so fired from your life!!!

I agree! What on Earth is wrong with people who have the nerve to say that to their children?!?!?!?

Wow - these are all so horrible. For me.. any nasty comments have been forgotten. I have enough issues with my own negative self-talk and telling myself how fat I am. I don't need to listen to others bad comments. That being said, it always bugged me when people made the comment, "You have such a beautiful face!" What and the rest of me is chopped liver.

The worst part is, my MIL is horrible about making fat comments... and she really isn't one to be talking. It saddens me and disgusts me. The person you are making the fat comments too, might have lost more weight already than you have dreamed of. If you don't know - shut the mouth.

I agree about the negative self-talk-- the worst things that have been said to me were said to myself, but that is a thing of the past!

I overheard a jerk at the beach once, trying to be a big man in front of his buddies. An overweight woman was passing, and he says to them, "Hey guys... that girl is a 10... on the RICHTER Scale." Idiot.

I was teased so constantly in elementary and middle school that I've blocked a lot of it out. Evidently I became funny and likable from it, at least that's what my folks say. Maybe they're right, but it could be because they raised me right. My mom has made some comments from time to time, although I know her intention is to be helpful (things like buying me a scale, etc). She's struggled with her weight, and I don't know how I could have grown up if I had a mom like some of the ones referenced here.

I lost a bunch of weight in high school and then all the boys started to pay attention. I ended up really angry over it and wouldn't date anyone I went to school with. To this day, no one says anything mean to me which is worse than what I say to myself.

Despite that, the worst things I can remember (from later on in life):

After coming back from my first year of college, and working at the gym I worked at in high school:

Sea hag: Oh, I see you did what my daughter did after her first year of college
Me: Huh?
Sea hag: Gained a bunch of weight.

I went to the bathroom and cried. She actually apologized, but I could never look at her again.

About two years ago, at a new years eve block party in my neighborhood (which we did not go to on purpose; we were driving home after midnight and the group ran down the street and begged us to come over because we're the young cool kids in the neighborhood and never hang out). They had a bunch of jello shots in different colors, and kept saying "make sure you give her the yellow one - it's the strongest."

Next door neighbor: Here you go, you have to have this one, your husband can have a different color
Me: oh - no thanks, I've already been drinking, and I'm kind of a lightweight
Next door neighbor: Um, not really

What a jerk. I agree on the sentiment that sometimes it's not what said, but what is not said. Just last year I had a group of 20somethings pointing at me while I was out to talk about my weight, and also had a guy pretend to spit on me to impress some of his girlfriends. I will admit, however, that it was kind of fun spinning around, getting right in his face, and threatening to beat the **** out of him. He freaked out so bad and said he "did it because he liked me," to which I replied, bull**** - you did it because you have no class, and you thought it would impress these two girls. My guess is they won't be impressed now that they see that you're scared to get beat up by me. The girls apologized for him and said he was really drunk. I was nice to them and told them to take him away from me. I saw them later that night - guess who was not with them.

Just a note - I don't condone violence (excluding self defense) and wouldn't have done anything to the guy unless he actually spat on me - I would have then defended myself

When my 5 yr old grandson said "Grammee, you have a fat butt". I explained to him that nice people don't say things like that. I knew he was telling the truth, most little ones see truth.

I can't remember all the comments made about my weight but my biggest bully was my step-mother. I remember one time when I was maybe 10 or 11 and going through a growth spurt- it was a few hours after lunch and I was hungry. So I grabbed a peice of leftover pizza from the fridge. She said to me "If you eat one more peice of pizza you're going to grow up to be blimpola!" She constantly tortured me about my weight and criticized everything I ate and tried convincing me I needed to go on the latest fad diet.

I remember sitting in the car with her one time while my dad ran into the store and an obese couple were walking across the parking. She started saying horribly offensive things about them and I scolded her for it. She was like "Well they can't hear me!" Makes me wonder what she says behind my back.

One of the worst things is when my dad and step mom took me out to dinner for my 16th birthday. They criticized everything I ate and freaked out when I ordered mashed potatoes instead of a different vegetable. Then they got in a screaming match while they were driving me back to my mom's house. Worst. Birthday. Ever.

Two others I remember-- wow, wish I didn't. In high school I was helping in a production and something fell off the stage. I jumped down to get it, and a bunch of guys pretended I had caused an earthquake. And one boy once said, "I better not make you mad, you might sit on me."


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The earthquake ones are the worst, IMO. I can't even remember anything specific...there are so many, they've just kind of run together. But I know I heard the "earthquake" and "Don't sit one me!" ones a bunch of times.

Oh, when I was in 8th grade, I made a joke about trying out for the high school football team and one guy in my class said that I could be the whole defense.

After my ex-fiance and I broke up, we tried staying friends for awhile. We both joined gyms and started losing weight/toning up. One day while we were hanging out he commented that I'd have a great figure once I lost all the extra weight.

people can be so cruel, can't they?! i don't understand what is wrong with some people.

i just remember my ex boyfriend ALWAYS made comments about my weight - compared me to thinner girls, called me fat, and would comment when i'd eat with him or in front of him. coming from someone i was deeply in love with. someone who i was intimate with. someone who saw me for everything i was.

don't you think it goes to show how materialistic and poisonous some people can be?

Hmmm sounds like we went out with the same guy! :laugh:

A friend of mine's boyfriend actually said to her, "If you gain 10 more pounds I won't love you anymore." Another friend's husband always told her how fat and unlovable she was (size3). My ex used to sabotage me-- when I would lose weight, he would tell me how sick I looked and encourage me to eat the worst things. We all soon wised up-- then we called ourselves "The Curb Kickin Club." :laugh:

Was in a fitting room one day with my daughter (around 4 at the time) and she turned and looked at me in my bra and underwear and said, "oh mom, that is not pretty at all."

I really don't fault my hubby for this one but it still hurt my feelings even though he had no intention of doing it or even realized he had done it. While watching biggest loser one night a few years ago all the contestants were weighing in. it was probably a little more than half way through the season and they had lost a lot of weigh so I'm thinking that they are starting to look pretty good. One of the girls weight in and he said , "she would be really cute if she lost another 20-30lbs." She weight exactly what i did at that very moment. (he has never said anything about my weight and was with me when I was 100llbs lighter. He always tells me I'm sexy so i forgive him..lol

My MIL who on two different visits thought it was appropriate to point out all the weight I had gained since her last visit. I know this is wrong but man was I happy on the next visit when SHE had gained 40lbs.

I longboard and at a slide competition I fell pretty badly.
Anyways, I got back up and kept skating the rest of the day.
Later, I watched a video someone posted of the competition and they happened to include the clip where I fell.
To my utter horror, after I fell, someone shouted after me quite loudly "Muffin top!"
I guess my shirt rode up when I fell.
Seeing that devastated me and I cried for a while.
But it's also what finally got me to start working out. That was two months ago and since then I only drink water, became vegan, and have lost 13 pounds.

Agreed... I'm sorry but that was just incredibly insensitive of your Mom, and completely thoughtless... I'm sorry you felt so bad. I just got married last Saturday and I know how you feel.