worst comment ever made about your weight
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when are u due?0
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Ha. I was teased and everything all the way through high school. And onwards, I've had comments from job interviewers and all sorts about my weight. '
I learnt that if you have as big as personality as your body, people back down. If you over hear and stare at them for their comment, they usually blush and say omg idk why I said that. I usually take them down with some put down self deprecating comment. My favourite was when I was out walking along to my Ipod one day in the last year of school, and a couple of guys started mock jogging behind me trying to get around me on the pavement. I turned my music off, and heard one say 'Dyou think this one sank a battleship?' to which I replied; No, I'm the one that sank the titanic, and I'll squash you next if you don't get out of my way!' He got out of my way. The result with the force of character was that the guy stopped looking at me as a fatty and started seeing me as a person. It culminated six months later with him asking me out, much to his own shock as my own I think lol. Needless to say I refused. I was worth more then him.
Don't let them get away with it. To heck with politeness, shame and all those other social cues. You are out there trying to make a difference in your life, and if these other losers need a confidence boost/show off by making you look bad, then you go make em look bad in return.
@rk
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when are u due?
Omg this one is frustrating!..Last Summer I was 15 lbs lighter (feeling good) then I am now, I was at a childs birthday party and was asked when I was due...when I replied I'm not I'm just fat he proceeded to argue with me about the fact that I was pregnant...Or this one time this lady goes so when are you due? I go excuse me and she completely says something different. I just looked at her and said I'm not pregnant I just had my baby...Ugh people!0 -
"You look frail" I was never more insulted then at that moment. I worked hard to lose weight and I'm not at all frail. I'm fit and healthy. Comments about being under weight hurt just as much as comments about being over weight. It's always the people who are insecure about how they look that are ready to attack you. I normally don't take it personally but it was a really good friend who said it. He told me he was going to force feed me. Two other girls rudely agreed with him that I was frail. One was pregnant and the other could've stood to lose a few pounds. They should get their own bodies in order before commenting on mine.
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i went out for my best friends birthday last year and wore jeans and a nice dress shirt. and these girls walked by me and say wow if i looked like that i wouldnt go out in public.
or my family is always like uh shouldnt you be drinking water or diet pop. or are you sure you should eat that? it looks like you already had to much today. (when i havnt even eatin that day)
or i always feel like people are staring at me at the gym and personal trainers seem to get angry at me when im using the weight machine. well that is what i pay for is it now.
people are just *kitten* sometimes and its very fustrating and makes you feel so little0 -
Mine was at La Vie en Rose... I was getting a bra fitting. The girl helping me (who sees you topless and defenseless) said " I'm just not gonna finish this, because there is no way anything in this store will fit you..." I almost punched her in the face.0
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Number 1: I remember one day when I went to my egg crate (we use these instead of locker) to get my lunch box and there was a white envelope inside. I opened it and it said,
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"Dear fatty,
I hope someday you will realize how fat you are so you can stop pretending. Needless to say no one will every like you because you are so gross and ugly. I also hope you will kill yourself soon so everyone, including myself, can look around freely again without having to worry about seeing you.
DIE FATTY!,
Skinny B*tch"
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:sad: :sad: :sad:
When I got this letter I was only 13 and I wasn't even that big. That day I did think about killing myself but quickly pushed that thought aside because I knew I had so much to live for.This happened where I go for classes twice a week (and still go for them now). Ironically, we found out who sent this letter......... it was the 14 year old 250 pound chick. She was soon after expelled.
Number 2: This happened when I was about 13 or 14. My mom sent me to the other side of the grocery store to get some milk. When I was just grabbing it, I felt a tugging on my shirt. I turned around and it was a little girl. She said, "Excuse me, why are you so fat?". Standing there stunned, the little girls mother comes trotting up behind her and scoops her up. She then asks me what is the matter and I told her what she said. I was even more shocked when the mother responded, "I've taught my daughter to speak the truth and that is what she did." :brokenheart:
These are the two things that stick out the most. And the thing is, I wasn't even that fat. I was about 135ish, 5' 0". Chubby, but not fat. I have come to learn that some people are idiots and to ignore them. But I would be lying if I said it didn't get to me when I was young, with peer pressure and all.
Keep Calm and Carry On,
Anna :flowerforyou:
(P.S sorry for the ramble :ohwell:)0 -
Someone asked me if I was pregnant. I just answered "No, I'm fat." What else could I say? I wasn't pregnant, just fat. It didn't offend me or upset me, so much as remind me that I wasn't where I wanted to be.0
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Number 1: I remember one day when I went to my egg crate (we use these instead of locker) to get my lunch box and there was a white envelope inside. I opened it and it said,
___________________________
"Dear fatty,
I hope someday you will realize how fat you are so you can stop pretending. Needless to say no one will every like you because you are so gross and ugly. I also hope you will kill yourself soon so everyone, including myself, can look around freely again without having to worry about seeing you.
DIE FATTY!,
Skinny B*tch"
___________________________
:sad: :sad: :sad:
When I got this letter I was only 13 and I wasn't even that big. That day I did think about killing myself but quickly pushed that thought aside because I knew I had so much to live for.This happened where I go for classes twice a week (and still go for them now). Ironically, we found out who sent this letter......... it was the 14 year old 250 pound chick. She was soon after expelled.
Number 2: This happened when I was about 13 or 14. My mom sent me to the other side of the grocery store to get some milk. When I was just grabbing it, I felt a tugging on my shirt. I turned around and it was a little girl. She said, "Excuse me, why are you so fat?". Standing there stunned, the little girls mother comes trotting up behind her and scoops her up. She then asks me what is the matter and I told her what she said. I was even more shocked when the mother responded, "I've taught my daughter to speak the truth and that is what she did." :brokenheart:
These are the two things that stick out the most. And the thing is, I wasn't even that fat. I was about 135ish, 5' 0". Chubby, but not fat. I have come to learn that some people are idiots and to ignore them. But I would be lying if I said it didn't get to me when I was young, with peer pressure and all.
Keep Calm and Carry On,
Anna :flowerforyou:
(P.S sorry for the ramble :ohwell:)
At 13, things like that can just be so damaging. I can't believe someone would write a note like that.
And I almost literally facepalmed at the grocery store story. Hey lady, how about teaching your daughter some manners and how to be a decent human being? Being truthful has a time and place...not just randomly calling people fat. -_-0 -
#1: When I was first dating my husband we went to visit his family and his grandfather (now 95 and, sadly, not well) went out to pick up his sister and drive her back to have dinner with all of us. She came through the door in her walker, and I walked up to her smiling, to greet her. She turned around and yelled, "Jack, she's not nearly as fat as you said she was!"
#2: 5 years ago, my husband and I were thrilled to find out we were expecting our first child together (my 2nd marriage and 2nd child, his first for both). Since it was right around the December holidays when I hit 3 months, we decided to invite all our parents and his siblings out to dinner at a wonderful restaurant. We all sat at this big round table, and I was absolutely giddy with happiness. We made a toast and said, "Congratulations, you're all going to be grandparents (or aunts etc.) again!" At first they were confused and thought it was my SIL who was pregnant. Then I said, "No, it's me!" and my dad (who is a sweetheart but just doesn't always, um, watch what he is saying), blurted out, "Oh, thank goodness! Your stepmom and I said that we were suprised at how you let yourself go."
But - on this topic, 2 other stories:
1. Years ago, after my first divorce, I suddenly just stopped eating. No appetite or desire for food for months (that had never happened before and never happened since). I lost 30 lbs in a few weeks, and dropped down to just 115 lbs and a size 2. I thought I looked great, but I think I received more unkind comments when I was "too thin" than I ever had when I was overweight. I see it happening now with my 14 yo son, he is very skinny and people have no problem telling him what a rail he is all the time. Luckily he lets it all just roll off.
2. My youngest son is only 4. A few months ago we were in a cupcake shop when a very large person wearing a red jacket stood in line next to us. My son said, "Mommy, that man looks just like a tomato! He is so faaa...." I quickly scooped him up and whispered in his ear that it wasn't nice to talk about other people and how they look, and how he shouldn't call someone fat. He looked down at his feet and thought for a minute, and then looked up at me and said, "Can I say pudgy instead?"0 -
Number 1: I remember one day when I went to my egg crate (we use these instead of locker) to get my lunch box and there was a white envelope inside. I opened it and it said,
___________________________
"Dear fatty,
I hope someday you will realize how fat you are so you can stop pretending. Needless to say no one will every like you because you are so gross and ugly. I also hope you will kill yourself soon so everyone, including myself, can look around freely again without having to worry about seeing you.
DIE FATTY!,
Skinny B*tch"
___________________________
:sad: :sad: :sad:
When I got this letter I was only 13 and I wasn't even that big. That day I did think about killing myself but quickly pushed that thought aside because I knew I had so much to live for.This happened where I go for classes twice a week (and still go for them now). Ironically, we found out who sent this letter......... it was the 14 year old 250 pound chick. She was soon after expelled.
Number 2: This happened when I was about 13 or 14. My mom sent me to the other side of the grocery store to get some milk. When I was just grabbing it, I felt a tugging on my shirt. I turned around and it was a little girl. She said, "Excuse me, why are you so fat?". Standing there stunned, the little girls mother comes trotting up behind her and scoops her up. She then asks me what is the matter and I told her what she said. I was even more shocked when the mother responded, "I've taught my daughter to speak the truth and that is what she did." :brokenheart:
These are the two things that stick out the most. And the thing is, I wasn't even that fat. I was about 135ish, 5' 0". Chubby, but not fat. I have come to learn that some people are idiots and to ignore them. But I would be lying if I said it didn't get to me when I was young, with peer pressure and all.
Keep Calm and Carry On,
Anna :flowerforyou:
(P.S sorry for the ramble :ohwell:)
Oh my dear Anna... :noway:
Those two experiences must have been excruciating for you... I particularly felt for you in that incident at the grocery store with that mother talking about the "truth"! How incredibly impolite, inconsiderate and rude! Particularly at that tender age of 13-14.... a young girl's feelings are like fine precious crystal glass, that woman was NOT setting a good example to her precocious young child. Some people just don't get it do they? She should have apologised on her daughter's behalf and left it at that, silly woman!
I wish also that there had been some one there for that older 14 year old girl who verbally abused you in school... she seemed to have been venting her own insecurities about her own body image on to some one else because she herself couldn't handle it. I only hope she has been able to come out of her school years as emotionally accomplished as you have been! :flowerforyou:0 -
Am I the only one who's just shocked by the number of stories on here about employees in stores saying rude things? So much for customer service....0
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My wife nor I have ever been "small" people, but neither have we allowed ourselves to get dangerously obese. Before we met and started dating, she went on a first (and last) date with a guy who thought he was God's gift to women. It was a blind date arranged by one of her friends. The guy met her at a popular restaurant and as soon as they sat down, he started in on her saying, "$30,000 or $40,000 would get rid of all that fat. Then you can start working on your face." She endured the meal and further comments, but the icing on the cake was when he demanded separate checks. He had the nerve to call her for another date. She said, "No need. I lost all the ugly weight I needed to lose when you got in your car and left the restaurant the other night. Don't bother calling again."
When we met and started dating, I never once thought about her weight. All I could think about was how lucky I was to be dating such a beautiful woman. Still, I would liked to have accidentally bumped into that guy some day just so I could personally tell him what a _______ he was. I guess I might ought to thank him! He had no idea that he was being cruel to one of the nicest, sweetest, and most loving women ever. And to think, he thought she'd want to go out with him again! It takes more than a tie and Italian loafers to make a gentleman!
This is adorable....0 -
after i had my daughter.. several ppl said.
"you will NEVER have a nice body again"0 -
I'm glad she's an "ex" wife. No one deserves to be treated like that!0
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In middle school there was this very overweight boy and he always told me that I was anorexic or bulimic. And when I'd deny it he'd tell me that it didn't matter because I was fat anyways. This was when I was too small and short to wear a 00 short without drowning in them. And then last year one of my pretty good guy friends told me that I'm so skinny until my stomach because it bulges out since it's always stuffed with food. I'm still not sure how he meant that...0
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I have had the comments for years and its so upsetting. I used to be really skinny at school and always had plenty of male attention. Then in my late teens I developed a medical condition which resulted in me putting on around 130lbs over 8 years. Now that I know what is wrong I am able to do something about it, but my weight gain has never been about not exercising or eating badly.
Over the years I've had things from 'wide load coming through' from ugly guys in bars, to my own friends judging me when we are all out for dinner. The worst is definitely the friends and I don't think they even realise they do it. And my own mother doesn't help with comments like 'you have such a beautiful face, if only you would lose the weight you would be stunning'!
The one that sticks out recently is the sleazy guy in the office. Every time a new girl starts in our office he hangs around all the time, brings them presents of food and generally tries it on. It look me 6 months of working there to even get eye contact out of him in the kitchen! I think hes a jerk, but I'm still offended that I didn't even get a look in because of the way I look.
I've now lost over 3 stone so I'm getting back on track, but now I'm worried that if I meet a guy will he like me only because I'm thinner or would he have liked me anyway???0 -
When I was in fifth grade, I was literally one of the tallest girls in the school and weighed around 160 pounds. I had this so-called 'friend' who liked to make fat jokes. He called me "Sammi the hammy" for all of fifth and sixth grade. He also called my house once and called me a "beached whale." In seventh grade he gave me this note in the hallway that said something along the lines of "you killed your turtle for food because you ran out of stuff to eat." I was never self conscious until all his ignorant remarks.
When I was around 13 I went in Fashion Bug and was buying a Happy Bunny shirt. The lady at the register looked at me and asked "when are you due?" I said "I'm not pregnant." And she said something about how she thought the shirt I was getting was a maternity shirt. I don't think they even sold maternity clothes.
A couple months or so ago me and my mom were having a huge fight. She told me I was "so fat I was busting out of my clothes." She's always been heavy too and is a few sizes bigger than me. She also has terrible arthritis in her knees and can barely get around anymore. What she said really got to me because I'm at my heaviest weight and had just gained around 10 pounds from taking birth control so I was extra sensitive about my weight. I recently decided to go on a diet, partially because of her comment.0 -
at a wake last week .... sat at table with family and a couple of others and someone asked a lady how old she was ..she said 40 ..they turned and looked at me and said wow she looks great .. you look like **** compared to her !!nice ... another glass of wine was then sunk by me0
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the worst comment I ever got was a co-worker in another department came up to me and asks me how I was, and then touch my stomach with her palm and asked me how far along I was.. I sat there in shock and told her I wasn't Pregnant, when I walked away I almost started to cry. The worst thing I ever gotten, and could ever get...0
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I've had many, many comments, most of them were in highschool but also from my grandmother. Luckily my mom has always been supportive. Once in highschool I had a cute little purse that was a black and white pony print, so I thought. The first day I took it to school, a girl who was fatter than me said "I bet she took the skin off her *kitten* to make that purse" implying I had a cow hide. I cried and never carried it again. In college I hung out with a nice looking dude a couple of times and when I asked when we were going on an official date, he said never because I neeeded to lose weight and get a tan. I've also been called "royally fat" by a man who asked me out and tried to get sex and when I declined he got offended.0
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Wow! Mine don't even compare to some of these. The ones that stick out for me are when people thought I was pregnant ....3 yrs after I had my son! Especially if they pat your stomach and ask when you're due. I didn't like it when I was pregnant and sure as hell didn't like it after the fact!
Best thing was when I went to my middle school reunion some of the girls that made fun of me apologized and they were no longer skinny minis. My Mom saw a group pick of me with them and some of the guys (who also gained some weight) and she said I am still the most beautiful out of that class.
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I was dating a guy for a few weeks and all was going well. We went to dinner on a beautiful night to my fave beer garden pub. We were laughing and having great conversation and then he told me it sucked he could not introduce me to his friends. I asked why and he said, You are pretty and funny and cool but, I usually date thin girls, so they would not understand and would give him crap over it. I sat there stunned.
A few minutes later I excused my self to the restroom and left, jumped in my car and parked a couple blocks away and cried. I swore from that moment on I would never date anyone who could not accept fully, no matter what my weight is.
i really hope you see him again... so you can walk up to him and punch him in the face....0 -
Mine is nothing compared to most of the comments on here, but when I was 16, my then boyfriend told me he thought I was fat.
I was a size 10- US size 6 and may have been a bit pudgy-but I was NOT fat.
He would monitor what I was eating, "are you suuure you want that?".
My mother also told me I looked six months pregnant last year.
My father was constantly on me about my weight growing up.
I remember this one time, I was bending down to get something out of the fridge and he called out "Woah , total eclipse!".
He reduced me to tears so many times and again, I wasn't even fat!
My now SO, is fantastic, he's incredibly supportive and has never made me feel gross or ugly.
He only asks me "do you really want that?" because I've instructed him to. It makes me rethink my choices.0 -
Telling my friend i'd joined this site;
So you've found Facebook for fatties?!
Well at least i'm trying to do something about it!
Too right, you are, and good on you. I hope you stick to it and achieve everything you are aiming for.
You need a new friend, maybe.0 -
From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
Random assorted things from the years
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"
* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".
* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.
* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"
I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.
WOW! I am so sorry that these so called humans treated you in this manner. HORRIBLE!
this actually upset me the most when she went and gagged how bloody dear she, so glad she is now your EX no one should be treated like that x
the other comment was the lady with the prom dress PLEASE DONT TAKE HER WITH YOU take someone u trust and love x
i have had a load of comments but i actually dont listen to them i WILL NOT GIVE THEM THE POWER TO HURT me
when i am at goal i will just say SEE I DID IT, u cant change being a total kn*bhead x0 -
Thankfully I havent had any in my adult life, but growing up in school I was nicknamed "fatback" and was teased in P.E. classes. You NEVER forget those things.0
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My ex-husband told me on our tenth wedding anniversary that I was the fat ugly b***h that was making his life hell!
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A male friend who I was out with one night to celebrate both our birthdays decided to state: "I'm not going to tell you you're pretty because you aren't. You know I'm used to dating women a lot prettier than you and even now broke and broken as I am (he had medical issues that left him basically impotent and was out of work so I had taken him out as a treat for our bdays) I could easily get a girl prettier than you. But that would be pointless for me now. So i'd rather hang out with you - someone i get along with but am not at all attracted to so that way I'm not frustrated the whole time we're together" To this day I don't understand why he felt the need to tell me all that.
Please tell me you're not still friends with this guy! Regardless of how he feels (which of course, he didn't need to tell you), a friend does not say hurtful things to another friend. That's not a true friend. I hope you've since dumped him.0 -
Sorry sir, you cannot rent this kayak. The max safe weight is 250 lbs
OMG, I had that problem once when I wanted to go horseback riding! 235 lbs max.
Something kind of similar happened to me this last December. I went to Islands of Adventure in Orlando with some friends, and I love love love roller coasters. I was really looking forward to it. Then I start paying attention, and there are "seats" outside of the rides, before you go in line, so people can test them out and see if they fit properly (if they are tall enough, or if they are even small enough to fit in the seat). There was a kid sitting in the "test-seat" just chillin', so I didn't try, but the whole line up to the ride I was worried. When I finally got up to the ride, I saw some guy tried, didn't fit, and had to get up and leave (how humiliating). Then I sat, and the seat wouldn't close properly.. the attendant had to come over and push down hard on it. It ended up shutting (I could hardly breathe, it was so tight), she asked if I was alright, and off we went. But it was an awful feeling, that it's reached this point, even if I was the only one who noticed... Things like this kinda wake you up..0
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