He Called me Stupid..is it Emotional abuse?
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DUMB HIS *kitten* PRONTO!!!!!!! AND BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM!0
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leave i know its hard but for your own sanity and safety go far away0
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It is emotional, physical and psychological abuse. Please speak to a professional.0
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If you have to ask if it is abuse... it is abuse.
You deserve better, and if you let him treat you like this then this is how he will always treat you.0 -
If you a relationship makes you ask the question.... you are. You obviously feel emotionally abused.
He sounds like an *kitten*... who shouldn't have custody of his kids.0 -
He commented that what you said was stupid, not that you are stupid. Of course, you might be stupid. After all, you put up with his bull****. Instead of sitting around worrying about if he's emotionally abusing you (and being a victim), spend your time packing up your stuff or his.0
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you need real professional help not a forum thread... some serious self esteem issues going on...0
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I think that trip to Canada is God sent, leave his *kitten* and don't look back, you're worth so much more than that!
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Walk away, change your number and don't look back. Seriously! Like, NOW! Don't wait for the next level of abuse to start. Plus, if he blocked you from part of his FB there is something he doesn't want you to see. Why bother finding out what it is. Just go now and leave yourself open for the RIGHT guy!
I couldnt have said it better myself. LEAVE!!0 -
May i suggest this book? - "You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!: The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want"
It will not only help you with your current situation, but it will also help you to realize some things about yourself so that you will not wind up in this situation again. - You DO deserve something MUCH better.
God bless and good luck!0 -
My guess is he has a little Pe*^s, and slaps you around and abuses you to feel manly....what a douche get out now before it gets worse0
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Get out. Work on yourself. A man who pontificates and then belittles is in love with himself, not you. Please know you deserve a man who will cherish you for YOU.0
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I'm probably reiterating what 14 other pages of people have said, but yes this is abuse. Leave before it escalates into even worse behaviour and he's ground down so much of your self-esteem, you feel you can't get out of the relationship.
He doesn't respect you and you deserve someone who appreciates every bit of you. My boyfriend and I don't always agree on everything, but he would certainly never call me stupid for having an opinion that's different to his. He would DEFINITELY never make nasty remarks about my weight or do anything to me physically that made me feel uncomfortable. You deserve a lot more than what this man is giving you. Travel, cut him well and truly out of your life and make a fresh start without him anywhere near it. I would end the relationship before you leave personally. Hell, this is a weight loss site, right? Sounds to me like you'd lose approximately 200lbs getting away from this ****head!
If you ever want someone to talk to, feel free to request me. Stay strong, darling 0 -
I started to cringe reading the first part of your post. But as I read on, my jaw started to drop and I went from angry to sad. I am so sorry that you're going through this and even more sorry that you've allowed it to go this far. Drop this guy and never look back. Lose his number and do not answer his calls or check his FB. You need to concentrate on building your self esteem. Be strong! I went through something very similar and as the other posters have said- It gets worse. Before you know it, you'll be hit hard and you'll know he's not joking around. Don't wait until then. Thankfully, I'm so far removed from that life I can't imagine it ever happening to me again. You can do it. Best wishes.0
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It is definitely ABUSE!!!!!!! Get away from this butthead and stay away from him! You deserve better!0
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First things first, Yes! He is abusing you, verbally, emotionally and physically. Stop the cycle now and you won't ever look back. Second it sounds like he may be a bit older and possibly divorced. If he has daughters and is behaving this way to you he's ruining their future as well as treating you badly. What he's doing to you he's doing to them. Think of it as second hand somking. In addition, if he is a divorcee, then think about why he is. Hmm, a failure trying to make someone else responsible.0
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You are absolutely doing the right thing by leaving. It is emotional and physical abuse. You don't deserve to be treated that way and should never get use to that type of treatment. I can completely understand why you want to wait and leave the relationship when you actually move away. just be careful until then. Hopefully you have friends and family to support you through this, you really shouldn't go through it alone. I am sure many of your MFP friends will support you also.0
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O_______O Are you kidding me? Calling you 'stupid' is considered emotional abuse???? Wow...I feel like I suffer from serious abuse now...........lol.....................
Did you even bother to read the post properly? Do you understand psychological/emotional abuse in any way, shape or form?
Yes I did, and if you even bothered to read my profile before opening your rude mouth you would *maybe* grasp that I have tangled with abuse in the past. And that is only what I have chosen to reveal to people on this site. God damn.
So? Suffering with abuse in the past doesn't make you an expert, darling. And I read your profile. I'd have thought you'd be more understanding towards OP and not leave such an ignorant comment, but I was wrong.
Oh right my bad, I know absolutely nothing about abuse since I never took an official class on it, absolutely nothing, just like I know nothing about, say, art because even though I draw a lot I've never read a book on it. Right. I'm not understanding because being called stupid isn't significant at all. Everyone gets called that, seriously. I am more sympathetic about the physical abuse, but I wasn't talking about that part. I just think it's funny as hell that being called 'stupid' could be so blown out of proportion.0 -
OK there are two sides to every story but based on what you said this is very much emotional, physical and psychological abuse.
Personally I would not wait for the trip I would get out - without trying to explain or negotiate because the type he sounds like is very very good at making you doubt what you know is the truth - just pack - leave - change your contact details phone number etc - and move on !
And perhaps consider some counciling to uncover what self esteem or confidence issues make you doubt for a single second that you need to leave this guy !0 -
GET OUT NOW! The more someone realizes they can abuse you without you standing up, the worse it will get. The abuse will escalate quickly. It will not be long before he does something to further damage your self-esteem or hurts you physically. If you don't have close friends or family to help you, look into domestic abuse resources in your community. Best wishes.0
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LEAVE HIM. no brainer,0
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How interesting that he gives you "limited access" to his fb profile. Hmm..sounds to me that he has other things planned in secrecy for himself. I agree with others..LEAVE and be happy somewhere else. 0
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You're NOT crazy for wanting to end it when you go far away.
You're so much better than him leave! You will find a guy who treats you like a princess so don't miss out on him by being with this sorry excuse for a man!0 -
Take it from someone who's been there. This is absolutely, positively both emotional/verbal and physical abuse. You need to get out, because it will only get worse. I promise. BUT there's one more thing you have to do. You have to find someone, somewhere you trust and report it to the authorities. Call your local child protection agency if that's the only thing you can do. Because if he's doing it to you, he'll do it to his daughters. You can't take them with you, but you can at least put him on someone's radar to keep an eye on them.0
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If you have to ask, you know it is.
Yep.....0 -
RUN NOW!!!!!0
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u don't deserve that type of treatment. you're better than that0
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Your bf is a major douche bag and yes, he is a abuser. You should not hesitate to leave him NOW. Not after you move away. No one should put up with abusive behavior like that. He slaps you playfully when you've been bad?????? Cmon...if you have to ask you KNOW his behavior is WRONG. Dump him now and seek professional help. Sounds like you may have self esteem issues.
Since I have not been with someone like this , It's all new to me .
I just knew something was wrong for a while I thought it was me ..but I realize that it's not .
I'm glad I'm able to pick up on the behaviour and not be totally blinded by "love"
I was in a similar situation, he was emotionally abusing me by seeing other women and just ignoring me even though we were engaged and then married. I on the other hand was blinded by love and it really hurt in the end. It has been almost a year since everything was final and I am now realizing that I do deserve better and so do you. Im glad you had the courage to leave unlike me. I wish you the best of luck in this and your other journeys ahead!0 -
This makes me sad because just reading your first paragraph sounds so familiar - it could have been me writing it only two years ago. It IS abuse. Name calling is abuse. For whatever reason, he thinks it's OK to treat you the way he does and it has nothing to do with you. I went through counseling, police calls, etc. I am married to the man, however, who didn't behave abusively until we bought a house. I saw little signs after the first year together, but it escalated beyond what I ever thought I would tolerate. It's amazing how our minds/hearts get so messed up when we are in an abusive situation. I, somehow, have stayed married to this man (will be 7 yrs in Sept) - but he has changed because I CHANGED. I never thought I would be a statistic, but I let myself be one. The "deep conversations about politics, religion, etc" (mine is an athiest, I am not so I get made fun of for believing in God whom he believes is the equivalent to the Easter bunny) is still an issue and I just keep my mouth shut now or I will let him talk and when he stops I will say "I'm really not interested in listening to this anymore" and I walk away. When someone is abusive, there is usually an underlying condition - whether it's diagnosed or not. Stop Walking on Eggshells helped me so much. My advise - get out as soon as you can and until then, have Faith. Whether it be in God or some higher power. Seriously. It is what helped me change and become a better person as well as helped me deal, accept and cope with my husband's abuse issues (he is also an alcoholic and the narcissism increases when he drinks, ESPECIALLY when whiskey is involved). I wish you the best and I that you get out quickly without too much mental damage. Being with an abusive person will drain the life out of you and leave you in an anxiety ridden state of being. Something none of us deserves! I wish you all the best!!0
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oh m gosh! This sounds like my first "serious" relationship. He was a huge fan of Rush Limbaugh, so much, that he sounded like him. Often went on tirads, and put me down constantly. I stuck with him for 3 years. Three years of my life -wasted. He had battered away at my self-confidence, I thought I would never find "love" anywhere else, and had actually accepted that fact.
Then I met my now-husband. I finally understood how a relationship was supposed to be.
Honey, you need to get away from this man. Stat! It's going to be hard, but it will be one of the best things you can do for yourself.0
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