He Called me Stupid..is it Emotional abuse?
Margentine
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My bf loves to get into deep conversation about politics, religions,social events..etc...
Whenever he does this , I try no to talk to much for he loves to just go on and on and on...
Then he asked me some specific questions and I answered ,,he then of course disagreed..
I disagreed again ..he then got defensive and call me stupid and said " That is the Stupiest thing I have ever heard " Last night he gave me a whole sermon bc the kitchen sink is clogged up..he said " Never ever in this house has anyone clogged up the kitchen sink drain ..it had to be .. you!" Made me feel like crap of course and told him not to be so mean about it . He makes comments about my weight and jokes on how I always like to think about food.
Last night as I laid down to sleep he looked at my belly and made a face of disgust. He had deleted me from his facebook account ..he then added me but has restricted ..I can't see his info or photos..
He tends to smack me for no reason, he says he is playing . Whenever I say something that he doesn't like , he "playfully" grabs me and " Playfully" slaps me on the face...although it's not hard ..it does hurt at times and I'm getting tired of him doing that . It's just so immature. the silly slaps on my face and my *** randomly uuggg..so tired. He then comments on when he was my age he had accomplished so much ..a profession, a good job, houses,cars ...etc... and while me I haven't done much. ...again makes me feel bad. There are times he will ridicule me in from of his daughters for either having said something wrong ..or for breaking something around the house..even if they were not there to see it ..he will tell them about the accident .
AM I Being emotional abused ?
sure feels like it ! I will be travelling far far away and will end the relationship once I'm away ..but I put this on here just so you guys can confirm that in fact I'm not crazy and this is abuse.
I'm not use to being treated like this ..That's why I will leave him.
Whenever he does this , I try no to talk to much for he loves to just go on and on and on...
Then he asked me some specific questions and I answered ,,he then of course disagreed..
I disagreed again ..he then got defensive and call me stupid and said " That is the Stupiest thing I have ever heard " Last night he gave me a whole sermon bc the kitchen sink is clogged up..he said " Never ever in this house has anyone clogged up the kitchen sink drain ..it had to be .. you!" Made me feel like crap of course and told him not to be so mean about it . He makes comments about my weight and jokes on how I always like to think about food.
Last night as I laid down to sleep he looked at my belly and made a face of disgust. He had deleted me from his facebook account ..he then added me but has restricted ..I can't see his info or photos..
He tends to smack me for no reason, he says he is playing . Whenever I say something that he doesn't like , he "playfully" grabs me and " Playfully" slaps me on the face...although it's not hard ..it does hurt at times and I'm getting tired of him doing that . It's just so immature. the silly slaps on my face and my *** randomly uuggg..so tired. He then comments on when he was my age he had accomplished so much ..a profession, a good job, houses,cars ...etc... and while me I haven't done much. ...again makes me feel bad. There are times he will ridicule me in from of his daughters for either having said something wrong ..or for breaking something around the house..even if they were not there to see it ..he will tell them about the accident .
AM I Being emotional abused ?
sure feels like it ! I will be travelling far far away and will end the relationship once I'm away ..but I put this on here just so you guys can confirm that in fact I'm not crazy and this is abuse.
I'm not use to being treated like this ..That's why I will leave him.
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It sounds like ur a glutton for punishment. WHy would u put up with this?0
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Sounds to me like you are being emotionally and physically abused.0
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It's abuse. . .0
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You aren't crazy and you deserve better. Please leave him behind.0
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When are you leaving?0
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Yeah, I would LOVE to see a man brave enough to try any of that crap with me....course I'm tall as most men & scare the **** out of them.
Leave. Now. He's a coward punk gets gratification out of hitting someone smaller. Jerk. Gawd, now I need to hit someone.0 -
The last guy that "playfully" tried to slap me, got decked in the face. Leave his ass in the dust!0
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If you have to ask, you know it is.0
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It's abuse. Leave ASAP. It will get worse.
Me, I'd give him the same treatment and see how he likes it, but I that's not for everyone.0 -
When are you leaving?
Mid May I will be going to Canada for a few motnhs . We have discussed it and supposed to have a long distance relationship
But honestly we clash because I don't like how Am being treated ..I used to think it was me exagerrating a little. O being to dramatic , I then tried to fix my thoughs and behaviour but he is just a liilte too much for my happy go lucky self.0 -
If you stay .. his assessment may be accurate.
I wouldn't treat someone I hated this way .. much less someone I claim to like.0 -
CallMe, i'll be your rebound-Ty0
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Yes dear.... when can we come get you packed up??0
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Sounds to me like you are being emotionally and physically abused.
Respect yourself, GTFO. What a loser you've found.
*and don't ever stay with or let anyone treat you like that again!0 -
Walk away, change your number and don't look back. Seriously! Like, NOW! Don't wait for the next level of abuse to start. Plus, if he blocked you from part of his FB there is something he doesn't want you to see. Why bother finding out what it is. Just go now and leave yourself open for the RIGHT guy!0
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NO WAY PUT UP WITH THAT!!!!!!! No one treats me like that and no one should treat you like that.0
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Hey wait im Canadian, is it me?-Ty0
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It sounds like it. I tend to get emotional during heated arguments and am prone to saying hurtful things when I don't mean to, but that's not what you're talking about. You're being insulted and degraded even after you've told him how uncomfortable it makes you.0
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Yes you and you need to run! Run far and run fast fom this relationship. He's being sneaky and degrading. Hugs to you and I wish you the best!0
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Edited because I was wrong to say this.
What I meant was... It is obviously abuse.0 -
You are making the right choice, please stick with it. no going back and forth.0
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If you were my daughter, I'd have a shotgun up his @$$.0
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He sounds like a total *kitten*. How can you even enjoy his company!? Not only is it emotional abuse, but verbal abuse. You already know the truth and don't need anybody here to validate your feelings. Move on girlfriend!My bf loves to get into deep conversation about politics, religions,social events..etc...
Whenever he does this , I try no to talk to much for he loves to just go on and on and on...
Then he asked me some specific questions and I answered ,,he then of course disagreed..
I disagreed again ..he then got defensive and call me stupid and said " That is the Stupiest thing I have ever heard " Last night he gave me a whole sermon bc the kitchen sink is clogged up..he said " Never ever in this house has anyone clogged up the kitchen sink drain ..it had to be .. you!" Made me feel like crap of course and told him not to be so mean about it . He makes comments about my weight and jokes on how I always like to think about food.
Last night as I laid down to sleep he looked at my belly and made a face of disgust. He had deleted me from his facebook account ..he then added me but has restricted ..I can't see his info or photos..
He tends to smack me for no reason, he says he is playing . Whenever I say something that he doesn't like , he "playfully" grabs me and " Playfully" slaps me on the face...although it's not hard ..it does hurt at times and I'm getting tired of him doing that . It's just so immature. the silly slaps on my face and my *** randomly uuggg..so tired. He then comments on when he was my age he had accomplished so much ..a profession, a good job, houses,cars ...etc... and while me I haven't done much. ...again makes me feel bad. There are times he will ridicule me in from of his daughters for either having said something wrong ..or for breaking something around the house..even if they were not there to see it ..he will tell them about the accident .
AM I Being emotional abused ?
sure feels like it ! I will be travelling far far away and will end the relationship once I'm away ..but I put this on here just so you guys can confirm that in fact I'm not crazy and this is abuse.
I'm not use to being treated like this ..That's why I will leave him.0 -
I've been in the same situation as you. I know it's not as easy as some people may think to just get up and leave. You'll find the strength one day to realize that you deserve so much more than what he is giving you. I pray that day comes soon for you!0
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If you have to ask, you know it is.
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Your bf is a major douche bag and yes, he is a abuser. You should not hesitate to leave him NOW. Not after you move away. No one should put up with abusive behavior like that. He slaps you playfully when you've been bad?????? Cmon...if you have to ask you KNOW his behavior is WRONG. Dump him now and seek professional help. Sounds like you may have self esteem issues.0
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Again some says I'm stupid for staying with him..But I have said I'm leaving. It's not nice to hear someone call you stupid period.0
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Maybe you are "stupid" for putting up with it
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Your bf is a major douche bag and yes, he is a abuser. You should not hesitate to leave him NOW. Not after you move away. No one should put up with abusive behavior like that. He slaps you playfully when you've been bad?????? Cmon...if you have to ask you KNOW his behavior is WRONG. Dump him now and seek professional help. Sounds like you may have self esteem issues.
^^^ I would like to clarify my statement. Although you may have some self esteem issues you need to sort out. HE is the one with MAJOR ISSUES. Dump him now.0 -
Your bf is a major douche bag and yes, he is a abuser. You should not hesitate to leave him NOW. Not after you move away. No one should put up with abusive behavior like that. He slaps you playfully when you've been bad?????? Cmon...if you have to ask you KNOW his behavior is WRONG. Dump him now and seek professional help. Sounds like you may have self esteem issues.
Since I have not been with someone like this , It's all new to me .
I just knew something was wrong for a while I thought it was me ..but I realize that it's not .
I'm glad I'm able to pick up on the behaviour and not be totally blinded by "love"0
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