Fit Men / Un-fit Women

I wish men could give birth

The human race would die out.

You give us far too little credit .

For the most part, I am one of these men. Having to forgive myself for the recent uptick in weight, I am blessed to have found MFP to bring myself back into the big picture and have had great success. Overweight women have been attracted to me all my life but I find no attraction to them so this affects me regularly. Without going into what I find attractive, hopefully I can finally figure out what's going on here.

It all depends on the company you keep. I'm fat and I'm a woman and I don't hit on anyone because I'm too fat for sex. Very rarely it happens but if someone hit's on me they are usually thin or athletic. My friends are mostly male. I find them very picky about women they make fun of every little imperfection. They seem to think they deserve pin up models for wives. And they easily find girlfriends that fit their "needs" I think woman aren't as picky they go for personality and stuff like that instead of just appearance. I have seen some shallow women but they are usually the types that look and act like they should be on the cast of Jersey Shore. uggh

I think there is a logical reason for this phenomenom (sp). Women are often busy with having and taking care of kids, working themselves, running the household and what not. Finding time to workout isn't so easy especially is their mate is working like crazy to support them. Also, many people can't afford great quality food. I say all that to say why women are heavy or overweight comes with a lot of reasons.

This is wrong for a few reasons, i know the us is broken home Capitol of the world and all but i dont think this guy is perusing housewives. ALSO (heres the rant) HEALTHY FOOD IS NOT MORE EXPESIVE THAN BAD FOR YOU FOOD!!!! How much does a bunch of bananas cost as opposed to a giant bag of chips, and thats just an example. My very close childhood friend does all that coupon clipping and sale shops but she still ends up paying 3x as much ad i do because of all that processed crap she piles into her cart then sits in her pantry/freezer forever, while i shop produce, meat, dairy 95% i dont EVER buy anything just because its on sale and i feed my family of four on less than $100 a week!!!!

And to answer the original question i will say that i have always been athletic but never got along with athletes ( we yend to have a superiority complex) so i have aleays been attracted to tall skinny slacker types i know how awful for me, but, with that said ive found bigger girls really like my skinny dudes (i mean incapable of building muscle) anthropology says natural selection, we look for mates who comlimpent our faults. Big women eant skinny/ fit dudes so they can have skinny/fit children thats all there is to it, even if we dont realize it. Survival of the fittest plays a big role in our desires, sometimes reality sneaks in and *****smacks us back and we settle for a better match. Get over yourself guy and be happy ppl want you at all, a lil grace can go a long way! Also a little extra weight on a woman is indicative of a fertile woman, also there are those of us who get fixated on a type for whatever reason during youth. For me, my uncle is a tall skinny man who always treated me like a lil princess, truly the nicest man to me ever, maybe has a little to do with my preference, as far as the slacker thing goes i grew up in the 90's and i love me a musician for some reason those things comingled in such a way in my psyche tobriut me to my present preferences! To sum iy up, to each their own