VERY personal ~ TMI

I don't have a similar experience, but didn't want to read without posting.

Love yourself. :flowerforyou: It'll be OK.

You need to know that this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Men are visual beings and just because he's looking at pictures of naked women doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy looking at you. Something to consider: perhaps it's a turn on for him to be able to look without worrying that the person he's looking at "feels" uncomfortable. Know what I mean?

At any rate - you need to talk to him about it. If you're not comfortable with it, he needs to know.

I would focus on that it is his problem and definately not a problem with you. My thought is that I do not want something done on my computer that could get me in trouble. Remember he will always have to answer for his actions and behaviors.

My boyfriend doesn't really look at porn. But he is infactuated with every female on tv there is! it really hurts my feelings. I pick at him and joke around with him but it really does bother me. He knows all there names and watches all the shows. Kim Kardasian?? Kendra? He makes little comments about them. He knows all their names and where they are from, everything they've done in their life! I think I would rather him look at strangers naked on the computer!!!

I've been there.... twice... with the same man.... my estranged husband.

He knew I considered him looking at that stuff as cheating. (No - I don't care about anyone's opinion on my take of this -- all that is important is he knew when we began dating how I viewed it, and he agreed not to view it because I would take it as his cheating.) So when I woke up, deathly sick one night, to find him looking at it and 'enjoying himself' in our bedroom, I was devastated.

When I found it all online again a second time, I left him. Three months pregnant.

It was horrible. I felt worthless. Devalued. Fat. Ugly. Imperfect.

I let him talk me back into coming home. (Stupid, but I was three months pregnant....) Although he was apologetic, he never really did anything to help him with his problem (which he classified as an addiction). He stayed away from the computer, and I put a password on it.

After my daughter was born, he cheated on me. I still wasn't good enough.

I finally left him 5 months ago. This afternoon, I have my first visit with the divorce attorney.

Ugh - why am I posting all this here? I don't know. Maybe it will help you to know you aren't alone. Maybe it will discourage you. I don't know.

I feel for you, sweetheart. (((hugs))) :brokenheart:

I understand as a women it hurts, but i am sure he loves you and finds you very attractive. Hang in there and please don't let this bring you down....try using it as motivation. Good luck.

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Men are dogs!
It has nothing to do with what you look like or that the other girl/girls look like. It's only about his satisfaction. It wouldn't matter if you looked like a super model...most likely he's still look at other women. Look at Rebecca Romaine and John Stamos, Brad Pitt/Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie. Men are pigs...they don't think with their head or their heart...only their anatomy.
Have you confronted him? I wish you the best...remember that you are worth it even if he doesn't see it!

You must have had some bad experiances with men in your life and I'm sorry you think that way about men now but I can assure you I think with my mind and my heart before my anatomy.

I am sorry you are hurting. Does his actions bother you/ hurt you because the pictures are naked, other women, or something else? If he was in a muesem and looking at nake sculptures or artwork would it make a difference? Establish the action is hurtful and why it is hurtful to him and then let him explain himself and figure out if there are guidelines that you both can live with?
Best of luck..