Marriage Advice

Remember it's never going to be 50/50- and don't keep score! You're in this together... every day, for the rest of your days. It's not about "winning" or "losing" or about who took the garbage out last.

Also remember to remain grateful (AND SAY THANK YOU!) for the little things- that he did the dishes, that she cleaned the shower.

Finally- talk about (mostly) everything. Communication is key. If you're not happy about something- say something. If you're not getting what you need- say something. People aren't mind readers.

Never call your spouse idiot, moron, stupid, etc.........remember that person chose you, so he/she must be pretty smart!

How about douche canoe?

Makes me sad to see some peoples' responses on here to marriage...take it with a grain of salt.

I love being married and love my husband. He is a good man.

My advice is to cherish each other....even the bad times as much as possible. A man needs to feel respect from his wife and a woman needs to feel cherished from her husband.

Take your vows seriously. Your relationship is SACRED.....treat it as though you were carrying the most precious piece of gold in your hands through a mine field. Believe me there are forces at work to try and destroy a beautiful thing, so be alert and aware. Don't let your guard down.

Patience, respect...playfulness.....I hope your friend's marriage has these things and so much more!

Blessings and Peace for a beautiful future!~

Don't marry somebody you wouldn't want to be divorced from ... seriously

Start as you mean to go on. If you can't see yourself in 10 years picking up his underwear of the floor and making his lunches, don't do it in the first place. Remember to look at things from his point of view when he seems like he's being totally ridiculous. He may actually have a point. Or he may not, but still try to understand.

Pay cash for everything except maybe home and car.

Don't go into debt overload, you would be amazed at what are wants and what are actual needs. Don't worry about the "Joneses" like the TV commercial says, they are in debt up to their eyeballs...one paycheck away from financial ruin.

Your worth, success and achievement as a couple are not determined by the size of your home, number of toys in the garage (boats, atv, etc) and how current your cell phone is.

Try to save a little out of each paycheck, you would be amazed at what $10, $20, $50 a pay day saved can add up to over years.

All my best to you:flowerforyou:

experiment with toys") invest in a swing

Always listen with your full attention.

Even if you don't have an answer, just listen. :indifferent:

Ever heard : "Everything is fare in love & war"? Soo Not true. There are rules for war. Cant shoot a man on a parachute, cant shoot medics and clergy, & a bunch of others. Same in marriage. Set rules for battles because they will come. One to begin the list. 1. Be respectful or appologize after disrespecting. (even when u dont feel like it)
2. Be loving or appologize after acting unloving. (even when u dont feel like it)

Check his texts daily.

And his internet history (seriously... *this* has gotten me tons of hugs and kisses </sarc>)

No really, I'd recommend the internet history too. Knowing about his fascination with "hot teenage porn" probably would've opened my eyes a little before I married him...

Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

Seriously.

Meh, we both have our passwords saved on the computers... so it's super easy to access our facebook profiles, emails and the like... and we generally don't check up on each other just because wrong conclusions can be made, but it usually doesn't matter because we don't do or say anything that would disrespect the other (at least not intentionally).

This is what I mean exactly...if he/she's keeping it private, there's almost ALWAYS a reason. People with nothing to hide, don't become defensive when other people (that they're supposed to be loving and sharing their lives with) want to learn more about them, or just see what they do with their time away from each other.

Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

Seriously.

lol! I agree. I'll hand over all my usernames/passwords for everything, and I wouldn't care a bit. I have nothing to hide and I kind of feel if i was curious, he should feel the same.

Definitely. My passwords are usually catchy and relatively simple to remember once you know them. I always make a point to casually ask her to log in to check something for me. This shows trust on my part, and gives her permanent access for future snooping.

I'm 100% ok with her snooping lol.

More seriously though...email accounts are interesting...you learn so many things about the person you're with (particularly in a new relationship, obviously) that you may never have thought to ask, or may have taken years to learn otherwise. When you've been together for any period of time (meaning living together etc), open access is just a given.

Together, means 'together'...not 'together...but don't you dare snoop in my private life!'.

Laugh - A LOT!!! It will help you thru the hardest times together.

Also, make sure the person you are marrying is the person you want standing beside you in the toughest moments of your life to come... births, deaths, loss, pain... this is the person who will help hold you up when you're falling down. Make sure this is the person you want beside you when you are at your weakest and most vulnerable.

Finally, don't expect anyone, including your spouse, to make you happy - make YOURSELF happy!

That's all I gots...

Check his texts daily.

And his internet history (seriously... *this* has gotten me tons of hugs and kisses </sarc>)

No really, I'd recommend the internet history too. Knowing about his fascination with "hot teenage porn" probably would've opened my eyes a little before I married him...

Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

Seriously.

Meh, we both have our passwords saved on the computers... so it's super easy to access our facebook profiles, emails and the like... and we generally don't check up on each other just because wrong conclusions can be made, but it usually doesn't matter because we don't do or say anything that would disrespect the other (at least not intentionally).

This is what I mean exactly...if he/she's keeping it private, there's almost ALWAYS a reason. People with nothing to hide, don't become defensive when other people (that they're supposed to be loving and sharing their lives with) want to learn more about them, or just see what they do with their time away from each other.

Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

Seriously.

lol! I agree. I'll hand over all my usernames/passwords for everything, and I wouldn't care a bit. I have nothing to hide and I kind of feel if i was curious, he should feel the same.

Definitely. My passwords are usually catchy and relatively simple to remember once you know them. I always make a point to casually ask her to log in to check something for me. This shows trust on my part, and gives her permanent access for future snooping.

I'm 100% ok with her snooping lol.

More seriously though...email accounts are interesting...you learn so many things about the person you're with (particularly in a new relationship, obviously) that you may never have thought to ask, or may have taken years to learn otherwise. When you've been together for any period of time (meaning living together etc), open access is just a given.

Together, means 'together'...not 'together...but don't you dare snoop in my private life!'.

100 % agree with this!

Have sex a few times a week. It lowers your risk of Heart Disease and keeps the hubby (and you) happy:blushing: . Can't go wrong there :bigsmile:

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

hmmmm a must try