Who initiates in your house??

If you're having sex 4 or 5 times a week being married after 16 years, he's got other problems. Drag them out or just leave him. He sounds like a douche. I've been with my boyfriend almost 3 years, and we have sex about twice a week... you got it good girl, so I don't know why he's complaining. Maybe just start sending him sexy texts while he's at work so he knows you're in the mood (and if you're not, trust me, they will GET you in the mood!)

My hand.

Damn Johnny, could that pic get any lower?

it could but his hand didn't want to be photographed :laugh:

How many times a week is everyone doing it?

Oh, hmm... was about 4 times a week before the new baby was born... now maybe once a week, twice if I'm lucky. Diablo III came out this week but I still managed to get a couple days out of him this week

Plus, 4-5 times a week is not bad. I'd say that is better than average.

This! There are many men who only get it from their wives or vice versa, 3 times a year. I think there is probably an issue since he is feeling like you don't desire him and he's always initialing. Are you acting like it's a chore or are you mutually desiring him?

Though I'd say I probably initiate 80% of the time...Recently, Twice a day. :laugh: Actually, it's pretty mutual. I feel pretty lucky that anytime my BF and I touch, it usually ends up with an O.

Tell him it could be worse. I initiate it 99.99% of the time and I get turned down about 90% of the time. I would have probably left by now but I know I would lose half my stuff.

You're not alone. By any means. http://www.avoiceformen.com

So many men are trapped inside horrible marriages and stay miserable for this reason. No fault divorce has made the institution of marriage only advantageous to women. Entitlement princesses get the house, kids and half the man's money - it's highway robbery and a complete waste of male potential.

My husband and I work different shifts so it's like 1 or 2 a week and it sucks!!

I don't initiate. I don't know. I just feel like the man is supposed to do that.

Get naked.


Really though, sometimes, I will just whisper in his ear the things I would like him to do to me or me to him, He will come home and I will be cooking dinner in an apron, panties and heels - nothing else, I will buy something really sexy to wear for him and tell him that I got something for him - then model it, when we are laying in bed I will just rub his chest and down his leg and just barely graze "down there" and once it responds, I just start taking care of things......... There are TONS of ways. It is way easier to get them in the mood than us.

OMG.. I found you! you do exist!..... LOL, your husband is a lucky lucky man.

I usually initiate. He says it's because if he asks how I feel or how my day is, i usually say something to the effect that I'm tired. Well duh. We have two little kids, I rarely get a day off unless a gallstone attack or migraine literally makes me not able to move, and he's away three evenings or more a week for work stuff. I get my sleep interrupted and then have to get up way too early. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, and sometimes I initiate even when I'm not in the mood because I know he will want to, he's just not doing anything about it. But then there are other times...

I'm going to be tired for another 5 years at least. Doesn't mean I wouldn't like my husband to actually initiate or show some sort of interest so I feel like I'm not utterly repulsive to him. The only time he will initiate is if I've given up trying for a week or more, and then it's usually not a kiss or a hey baby you look good, it's a boob grab in the middle of the kitchen while I'm making lunch. After I'm pissed that it's taken him a week to realize nothing's happened. Seriously?

My point?
If it's important to him, make it important to you. Put a reminder in your phone calendar or something if you can't remember to do it on your own.

I used to get sensitive about this, ok I still am a little. now we usually just do it, sometimes she initiates sometimes I do but it's always starts with flirting. but it didn't used to be that way, and I hated being the one who had to initiate because half the time I felt like she was just putting out and wasn't really into it. and that is a blow to the self esteem.