Today was the first time I've ever been called a fatty.

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  • Jesstruhan
    Jesstruhan Posts: 331 Member
    Sheesh did he think he was being funny? What a ****!
    I say, plot a way to take sweet..sweet revenge out on that DB. How DARE he?!
    That man clearly does not love himself or he would not need to find ways to take it out on other people.
    You are beautiful
    You are wonderful
    You are kind
    You are a better person than he ever will be
    and he's lucky that none of us know him, or he'd be in some hot water.

    That kind of thing just HURTS so much. When I was a kid, there were some boys that would tease me (i've always been chubby, until college) and call me all kinds of things. The worst was Fatas*. I still think it's the worst thing you can say to a person. It still makes me angry and want to kick things when I think about how they treated me and the things they said. Some people can be so cruel.
  • melissa_leah
    melissa_leah Posts: 107
    What an idiot. I don't understand how people can just say stuff like that and be ok with it....
  • Lampy00512
    Lampy00512 Posts: 117
    What an ignorant *kitten* :grumble: I don't think you're fat, and your weight is fixable, but his stupidity? Not so much. If he makes another callous comment, speak up.
  • Liasings
    Liasings Posts: 150 Member
    He probably does have a small p***s.

    LOL

    ...and he's trying to hide it by acting stupid in front of another woman.
  • Crys32
    Crys32 Posts: 99 Member
    I'm sure he's immature and putting someone else down makes me feel better. I feel for you I work with a male coworker that's about the same way. But he's so young and immature I just dont talk to him, needless to say he hasnt ever said anything like that to me or he would be looking for his teeth.

    But sometimes people like that arent worth the effort.

    When your skinny; he's still going to be ugly.
  • Onespirit62
    Onespirit62 Posts: 51
    Don't let them worry you. He called you "fatty" because he must not have the intelligence to think of something nice. As you say, you can lose weight but a jerk is a jerk and that can't be fixed :-)
  • What a horrible person.
    If you can get any positive from this situation, use it as motivation, because it's true, you can fix fat, but you can't fix ugly.

    So when he's still an ugly, horrible person, you'll be a gorgeous, shapely, powerful woman. He'll feel SO STUPID!:bigsmile:

    Just keep at it and he'll be sorry.
  • brittanidigby
    brittanidigby Posts: 247 Member
    Wow what a ****!
  • LindaCWy
    LindaCWy Posts: 463 Member
    In my entire life of being overweight (roughly ten years now), I've never been blatantly told that I'm fat. Curvy, yes. A little chubby, yes.

    A male co-worker of mine was joking around about craving some cookie dough, and when a female co-worker of mine asked what we were talking about, he said, "Don't worry about it, (name), I'm talking to a fatty about something."

    I feel numb. I can't even cry.
    I feel like saying, screw you.

    You can fix fat. You can't fix ugly. :angry:

    It's not in my nature though. Why bother wasting my energy?
    I feel so ugly now though. I feel like everyone sees me as this walking pocket of fat.

    I want to just get on the treadmill and run forever.

    Just put it in your pocket and save it for later. People are ignorant, don't let it bother you...as my husband says "be a duck and let it roll off your back like a drop of water".

    Be a duck
  • 1Kristine1
    1Kristine1 Posts: 697 Member
    Spike his coffee Monday with a laxative..:devil:
    Yesss.
  • sisierra
    sisierra Posts: 659 Member
    Did he apologize?! I will come kick his @ss for you!
  • SirRunningShorts
    SirRunningShorts Posts: 77 Member
    That is probably the rudest think I have ever heard of.... *kitten* Him! I applaud you for trying to not have any hate in your heart, but where the *kitten* does he get off? There isn't a single one of us that is better than anyone else. We are all different and unique. You have forgiveness in your heart and I will hope he has a life filled with erectile dysfunction.
  • fels123
    fels123 Posts: 44
    You can lose the weight but he can't have a total personality transplant.
  • hollyk57
    hollyk57 Posts: 520 Member
    OMG what a total a**hole. That's so unacceptable it's unreal. You are NOT UGLY and you are not, as you say, just a pocket of fat. That guy is a delusional moron. Don't let one moron's comment derail you or make you feel bad about yourself. He's not worth it. You can do this, you are doing this, and you're already beautiful, no matter what. I would say also, if you're no comfortable saying something to him,as a co-worker, if it continues, it should be reported to HR or a supervisor - it's completely unacceptable
  • Laura8603
    Laura8603 Posts: 590 Member
    He is an idiot. By your ticker, you are 190. I remember when I was in college and weighed about 190. I was out waliking with my girlfriends. A guy drove by and said, "We'll take all of y'all except the fat one." Ouch. I still remember it to this day. I used it to motivate me to get thin. And I did (later I gained a ton, but that's another story...lol).

    Hang in there and try not to let him get you down!!
  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    I doubt he was being intentionally hurtful. He probably misspoke or has low social intellect.
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    How stupid! Some people say the dumbest things without a moment of thought... and for some reason co-workers think they can say whatever they want because they "know you" better. Ugh. Based on how you described it, it doesn't sound like he meant it to be hurtful. He might have just said fatty because of the conversation topic- still, idiot.

    I dunno, but based on your photo you don't come across as "fatty" to me. Not that it matters but I'm just saying... Fat you can change, but when your an idiot, your screwed. Consider yourself the lucky one.
  • AliciaNorris81
    AliciaNorris81 Posts: 185 Member
    Ummm...if you are a "fatty" I am Jabba the Hut. :ohwell: Don't listen to him. Or just call him a Douche-canoe and walk away.
  • EuphonyChloeH
    EuphonyChloeH Posts: 107 Member
    :noway: i swear...people are so horrible!!

    Next time you see him tell him that "you could get rid of your big *kitten* but he cant get rid of his dumb *kitten*"

    This! Don't take it personally - karma is a b****, and you can bet it'll be coming back on this guy.
  • MonicaT1972
    MonicaT1972 Posts: 512
    That is jut plain rude. Personally I'd be complaining to HR, but that's just me, I don't take poop from guys as I work in a male dominated field.

    Don't let it get you down, I know it's hard not to, but take the negative energy and put it into a workout. He'll see who is a fatty then!!!!
  • Christine1110
    Christine1110 Posts: 1,786 Member
    People that don't feel good about themselves...like to hurt others!! Just move on from it!
  • AntShanny
    AntShanny Posts: 359 Member
    Just throw out that you're talking to pencil **** next time...
  • ashmarie484
    ashmarie484 Posts: 296 Member
    What an *kitten*. I would have kicked him in the nuts & called him a girl.
  • clynch1968
    clynch1968 Posts: 45 Member
    I like to use "shame on you, you're too old for that"
  • mommeex6
    mommeex6 Posts: 16 Member
    you should have said " and I'm talking to an idiot about the same thing" :) and smiled and walked away....

    YESSS - perfect!
  • mpgal23
    mpgal23 Posts: 1
    Use those harsh, ridiculous words to motivate you! It sucks and it hurts to know someone, who probably never had to battle a weight issue, can use the term fatty so casually. I had a classmate call me a fatty back in middle school and I will never forget that day, but I worked out and lost a ton of weight and then saw him about 10 years later and I was in shape and he was overweight. I just smiled and walked by him very slowly so he could take it in! Now I am overweight again and having to work back towards getting in shape and I think about that situation when I feel like skipping a walk and it motivates me to get going and do some exercise!
  • TheFunBun
    TheFunBun Posts: 793 Member
    ...I dunno. I think there's a distinct possibility that he does not actually think you're a fatty. I don't think any friendly coworker having the jibes with you would say something like that meaning it. I think he was probably just talking about the fact that you guys were talking about gobbling up the cookie dough. Men talk that way to other men, and he probably felt so comfortable that it just slipped.

    Hurtful, yes, but I doubt he meant it.. or would have said it if he genuinely thought you were a fatty.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    I remember in 7th grade being called fat to my face, in front of others -- and I wasn't even the heaviest kid in the class, not by a long shot! A little chub back then, but I wasn't obese.

    So I've been publicly called fat, a virgin, and bunch of other horrible nicknames that I don't care to repeat. I'm actually a bit surprised anyone gets this far in life without being insulted.

    **** 'em, I say.
  • jessica_120214
    jessica_120214 Posts: 68 Member
    What a douche bag!! I would like to throat chop him for you!! Please don't let people like that get you down. They tear others down so that they feel important. It's disgusting how people like that work. DO NOT let him control your emotions! You can do this girl!!
  • What an asshat thing to say! My former boss once poked me in the tummy (like the Pillsbury Dough Boy) and suggested I lose weight. You're right--he'll always be ugly. It happens--still better to be you than him!
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