Today was the first time I've ever been called a fatty.

Here's some encouragement, if it will do any good. I was once very, very obese. Nobody then ever referred to me as fat. I think because I was invisible to them--this big blob that they didn't even want to contemplate. Now that I've lost 145 lbs. and am merely on the sort of chubby, size 14-side of normal, I get called fat *all the time*. By people who see me out riding my bike. By random strangers in coffee shops who suggest that just losing 20 or 30 lbs. would make me hot. Someone recently suggested that I would have trouble fitting into an airplane seat. Ironically, I have no trouble anymore, although I was once very worried that I would be denied boarding because of my weight. Sometimes, getting in better shape makes people who have no business doing so scrutinize you more carefully. It sucks, but I always look at the naturally svelte and think, "I work harder at this harder than you can possibly imagine or could ever manage. I am probably in better shape than you, if you define shape as ability to perform physical activities without getting winded. So STFU."

Anyone that tells you, you’re less than beautiful,
Is a fool and not worth your time.
All of God’s creations are quite viewtiful
If you didn’t understand this, I will gladly repeat my Rhyme

just use it make him eat his words he is a total prick and your so beautiful

Spike his coffee Monday with a laxative..:devil:

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This was a co-worker? A non-friend co-worker? I would seriously report that comment to HR. It might sound like an over-reaction, but it's not. Those kinds of comments should NOT be made by anyone, to anyone - the workplace environment is one place where we CAN control that... outside of work, if someone says it in a grocery store or bar, no real recourse. At work, they can and should be held accountable.

you should have said " and I'm talking to an idiot about the same thing" and smiled and walked away....

LOL, that would have been beautiful! Seriously though don't let an ugly person have the ability to hurt you. People just really suck sometimes!!

I had a problem with a co-worker like this. I changed his license plate frames with something inappropriate. He still can't understand why other guys keep honking, our waving at him. Tee hee hee...

I am so sorry that happened but you need to turn that terrible feeling that you have right now and use it as a new goal. You show that $#%& person that you are better than him both mentally and physically.

I know how you feel...I finally got the courage to get on a bicycle for the first time in YEARS and I was scared and happy all at the same time..and I was riding it down the sidewalk and a couple guys drove by and 'mooed' like cows out the window at me...It hurt, for a moment..but not deeply...not incurably.

God does not see as man sees. For man sees outwardly, but God looks at the heart. One single smile from Him, ...that's worth a million bad things that people think and say on this earth. And He was smiling that day...His daughter had the courage to get on a bicycle and ride it down the sidewalk so she could do something fun and exciting with her son. (and he was smiling too)...

You just think of who you make smile throughout your day and your lifetime...THOSE are the ones that matter in your life!!

So I think I am about to make some enemies but I feel the need to say it. It is my opinion.

First off, you really don't look fat so I am not too sure what he was talking about. My wife calls me a chubby chaser so I am not sure if i am the right critic of weight. And I was fat so my view may be a little skewed.

But what bothers me is why it's not ok to be called fat. I was fat. My doctor coddled me and said I could stand to lose a few pounds but I was fat. People who are on here are working towards a goal, to be healthy. Losing weight is one way it happens. But call it what you will, overweight, obese, pleasantly plump, big boned, whatever it's still fat. People say it should motivate you and it should but you have already motivated yourself so well done. I wish someone would have just been blunt with me earlier. Also, if it's not ok for him to call you fat then why is it ok for anyone here to suggest retaliation. Hypocritical? I think so.

I am not trying to take anything away from what you have done or what I know that you will do. People just need to understand that whether because of a medical reason or just because of eating too much, people can be fat.

Good luck. I know you will succeed.

Some ppl have no manners...you cant fix that either!

I probably would have just punched him square in the nose. Sorry you had to deal with such stupidity. You are a better person than I apparently.

What an insensitive idiot!!!! ((hugs))) forget his ugly words and remember all these positive ones as someone said u can fix weight but not ugly!

I am soooo sorry you had to deal with that hun! Till this day I remember every jab, every fat joke, and just plain every mean comment that has ever been made to me regarding my weight ... and there have ben hundreds of them. It doesn't matter how old you are or how many of them you have heard, every one feels like a dagger. And what the people that do this don't realize is the long term impact it has on one's body image and psyche in general. Now that I am older and that (not to toot my own horn) I am able to whoop some serious @ss, I have no qualms about telling such people what I think about that and what "my fat @ss" could do to them if I so choose. I know it is after-the-fact and probably doesn't help much, but I just looked at your photo, and you look great! Feel free to friend me. I am always happy to lend support or just listen! Smile hun! Like you said, you can't fix ugly whether it be on the inside or out! And that person was clearly UGLY AS HELL!

I hear these words someone told me 26 years ago after my sons birth that I was a beautiful woman but my face didn't go with my body!! Those words still hurt

Seriously, that guy has a huge psych issue. Really. He has a PROBLEM.

That is just up front RUDE and hurtful. And he freakin knows it.

Maybe his wife beats him at home, or something, because that is so not right.

Reading what happened to you brought tears to MY eyes.

((hugs))