Looking for Feminist Friends

justaspringhaze
justaspringhaze Posts: 67
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I've been a member of MFP since December 2011 and have had a pretty mixed experience. I have made some great friends here, but when I come to the message boards I often get discouraged. I see a lot of jokes about sexual and domestic violence, anti-gay comments, comments objectifying women, etc. It's pretty discouraging.

I'm looking for some feminist/progressive friends on MFP! I'm always thinking about how to balance my weight loss goals with a feminist rejection of fat hatred and body shaming. It's hard to want a thin body while rejecting patriarchal standards of beauty - it's a daily struggle for me.

I'd love to find some friends and create a community where we can motivate, follow, and support each other while holding ourselves and each other accountable as feminists!
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  • justaspringhaze
    justaspringhaze Posts: 67
    Anyone?
  • kimikinsx3
    kimikinsx3 Posts: 31 Member
    Well hello there! You found someone to help you out!!
  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
    You are woman. Roar!!
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
    feminist here.

    i feel the same way about the boards!
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    me too:)
  • jenj1313
    jenj1313 Posts: 898 Member
    I don't know that I'd label myself a feminist, because I just live my life the way it makes sense to me (i.e. I don't see myself as having a "feminist agenda"), BUT everything you said makes perfect sense to me, so feel free to add me if you want.

    I'm online almost everyday and try to comment as much as I can when work and a crazy schedule don't get in the way. I try to keep my comments positive but I'll call you out in a constructive (not bashing) way if I see something that looks like it's contrary to your goals.

    I've got my ups and downs and sometimes I bash on myself, but never on other people!!

    I agree with you about the negative posts so I just don't participate in those.

    Hope you manage to make a better experience for yourself with a new group of friends!
    All the best,
    Jen
  • loriesch
    loriesch Posts: 4 Member
    Just signed up today and agree with your comments. Looking forward to this experience -- it's nice not to have to do it alone.
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
    Count me in......Eugene, Oregon here....nothing like an activist communtiy to support the women. So sorry that your post brought out the negative "not funny" comments....

    Feel the same way you do!
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Verrrry interesting!

    I've got an eye on you Natalia!

    :flowerforyou:
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!!

    NOT FUNNY
  • Siobhan69
    Siobhan69 Posts: 10
    I'm in, add me as a friend if you wish! My desire to lose weight is reconciled with my feminist ideology because for me it is about being fit, healthy and strong, not fitting the socially constructed projections of 'beauty' and 'sex appeal' etc.
  • focus4fitness
    focus4fitness Posts: 551 Member
    I am not sure why ALL Women don't call themselves feminists.

    Another Oregon gal here :)
  • amphion
    amphion Posts: 48
    I am an ally in the LGBT community along with that comes some pretty strong feminist ideals. You are welcome to add me if you want some support in gaining a more healthy body.
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    Verrrry interesting!

    I've got an eye on you Natalia!

    :flowerforyou:

    :tongue:
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    I am not sure why ALL Women don't call themselves feminists.

    Me too:) even my husband calls himself a feminist...
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!!

    NOT FUNNY

    Not appropriate...for sure.

    But anyone with a sense of humor probably thought it was funny.

    Relax ladies...if you're truly invested in how you feel...how is one guy making a joke...and another (me) teasing a friend...even remotely an issue?
  • focus4fitness
    focus4fitness Posts: 551 Member
    I am not sure why ALL Women don't call themselves feminists.

    Me too:) even my husband calls himself a feminist...

    exactly!
  • trudefaith
    trudefaith Posts: 50 Member
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!! :laugh: :wink:
    hahahahahahahahah!
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!!

    NOT FUNNY
    agreed!
  • reactor25
    reactor25 Posts: 146 Member
    Feminist trying to get fit right here, friend me if you like :)
  • ashtonvv
    ashtonvv Posts: 144
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!! :laugh: :wink:


    LMAO.. this is epic!
  • TiffanyDeanee
    TiffanyDeanee Posts: 158
    Yeah lets burn our bras and end women's suffrage now!

    Well I have already ceased shaving. And you definately won't see me making any man any kind of sandwiches. :wink:
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    I'm a feminist and you're welcome to add me, but I'm very new to the site so I can't promise that I'll be anything more than a lurker.
  • wildboar1
    wildboar1 Posts: 88
    I was going to major in gender studies back in college, but then I realized that I actually had to support myself after I graduated by getting a job, so I majored in engineering. I realized that, since I am a man, I couldn't get a worthless, self-aggrandizing degree like Gender Studies because I couldn't count on the patriarchy to support me, i.e. I couldn't count on finding a rich woman to marry and become a house-husband. So I majored in Engineering. My wife has a degree in womens issues though, so I still support you feminists though! Keep up the good work.
  • wordpainter09
    wordpainter09 Posts: 472 Member
    I'm wouldn't call myself a feminist per say, but I'm definitely progressive. I'd like to see a world where "feminism" and advocacy is no longer needed, because different kinds of people actually DON'T hate each other and live in relative egalitarianism. Of course, that's not the reality of today. Hence the progressive view :laugh:

    Feel free to add me.
  • focus4fitness
    focus4fitness Posts: 551 Member
    "Feminism has fought no wars. It has killed no opponents. It has set up no concentration camps, starved no enemies, practiced no cruelties. Its battles have been for education, for the vote, for better working conditions.. for safety on the streets... for child care, for social welfare...for rape crisis centers, women's refuges, reforms in the law." (If someone says) 'Oh, I'm not a feminist,' (I ask) 'Why? What's your problem?'" - Dale Spender, author of For the Record: The Making & Meaning of Feminist Knowledge, 1985
  • Rayman79
    Rayman79 Posts: 2,009 Member
    Whoa, lets not turn this into an attack on feminism, I don't think this thread is the place for that. I'll leave this thread after this comment so as to avoid further issues...

    Wait, what's that? You want to hear my views on feminism? Oh, ok. :wink:

    Personally, whilst I see there was a great need for the feminist uprising (labelled as such), I personally believe that this is an outdated term and just reinforces the mental image of an opressed woman trying desperately to seek independance and equality.

    Whilst I grant that this is still a valid plight in many parts of the world, I believe that the majority of users of this forum have cast aside the shackles of male oppression, and indeed have more power than us mere males in many aspects of life. I fully support equal right (including equal pay and opportunities etc) for women and men, but the tag of feminism is counterproductive to the cause in my humble opinion.

    There are a number of groups that are not given entirely equal rights in the world, including a range of ethnicities, and people from various religious and socio-ecomonic backgrounds. Surely we should be striving to be at a point in society where 'feminism' in its original sense is no longer relevant, but that we should instead be spruiking 'equal right for all'?

    Anyway, my 2c... hopefully I've demonstrated that I'm not some uneducated yokel, and that my comment was meant entirely as humerous and not malicious.

    :flowerforyou:
  • abberbabber
    abberbabber Posts: 972 Member
    I love feminists! No-one does dishes and laundry as well as a feminist!!

    NOT FUNNY

    LIES!! :laugh:

    I thought it was hysterical, myself.
  • bewitchinglife
    bewitchinglife Posts: 167 Member
    Feminist in Washington here! Feel free to add me.

    I'm all for people taking their power and running with it. There is a lot of power in taking your health and wellness into your hands.
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    I'm down for the burning of the bra's, as someone suggested.
    I just came here to address something OP posted. As far as patriarchal beauty standards, screw 'em. It is healthy to be at a normal weight, and that is what you should strive for, health. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look a certain way for yourself. So long as you truly want to do it for you, you shouldn't worry about anything else.
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