Guys can never be right can they??

Trial- well, this wasn't titled "heteronormative couple" anything. Was it?

No, but it did have "guys" in the title, which would imply she was talking about guys, and not female-female relationships. Hetero relationships are still in the majority. And what was meant to be a goodwill post to others in such relationships about appreciating their man, has now turned to *kitten*.

Not everyone is going to be completely PC, but that doesn't mean we drive their good intentions into the ground.

It's ok man...they will continue to bash it until it's locked. Unless we all include recognition of their beliefs in everything we say...they will continue to try to pull it down around our ears.

Trial- well, this wasn't titled "heteronormative couple" anything. Was it?

No, but it did have "guys" in the title, which would imply she was talking about guys, and not female-female relationships. Hetero relationships are still in the majority. And what was meant to be a goodwill post to others in such relationships about appreciating their man, has now turned to *kitten*.

Not everyone is going to be completely PC, but that doesn't mean we drive their good intentions into the ground.

Pleas look up "heteronormative." I am in a relationship with a man.

I didn't mean to imply you were, and I'm sorry if it came out that way. I read it as you had an issue with it leaving out same sex couples.

advice i gave to a guy dating a friend of mine (hes in his early 20s)....

men can be correct about something, but we will NEVER be right.

OP- Thanks for writing such a sweet post. Sorry it got derailed with the bickering. I'm out! :flowerforyou:

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I'm glad you are feeling gratitude for the loved ones in your life. That's what we all should do, traditional gender roles aside.
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Agreed!

OP- Thanks for writing such a sweet post. Sorry it got derailed with the bickering. I'm out! :flowerforyou:

I was going to leave too...

wait i was posting about men who go outside the norms of relationships... did you even read what i posted before the bashing began??

i also would like to add to my topic post that men should be thanked for the way they smell.. the feel of their arms when you need to be held and how they can hold your hair while you puke and then tell you you are the most beautiful woman in the world and mean it with every breath they breath.
men who hold you while you cry and stand at your side no matter what battle you face are stronger then superman.
i will kill a spider but there is something to be said for the man who will kill the really big one because it scared the daylights out of you and you really need to pee.

But this girl and how she feels are worthy of recognition. I love the posts she's made, FOR the traditional gender roles they embrace.

Thank you again!

And yes, they'll bash this too...it's ok, they can only argue with people who respond.

If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

this is not a guy bashing thread but more of a light bulb moment for me tonight.
guys can never be right can they?? if a woman is a round she usually thinks she is right and will not give up on it till she is.
and they still answer us when we ask how yet another outfit looks. at least pretend to care if our shoes match our bags and do their best to notice the little things we do to ourselves to feel like we look better, even though our new eyeshadow has no effect on how much they love us.
men should be given extra credit for putting up with our hormons and mood swings. our crazy based souly in our own mind fears and body issues.
they should be given a gold star for buying pads and tampons and silver for at least walking down the isle with us and not pretending they accidently went the wrong way.
they should be rewarded for letting us wear their shirts, pants and boxers when we wouldnt let them wear ours.
and if he tells you you look pretty/sexy/nice/hot/whatever compliment it is take it cause if you rebuff them all he will stop saying them.
im not against women. and it might just be me who has taken my man for granted but i wanted to remind my fellow women that they should take a second and let him be right tonight.

Heck yes! probably best post of the year. Any guy willing to run to the store for you to buy you tampons deserves a freaking medal and a little something "extra"....

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If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

She's also a girl. Where i'm living and a lot of parts of the world, for a man to do that is normally out of their comfort zones band not something that biologically the have to deal with. especially older generations like my father who's almost 70 where growing up it was pretty much a forbidden topic. Heck, when my sisters (both in their mid 30's) were growing up it still wasn't talked about as openly as it is now.

If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

She also a girl. Where i'm living and a lot of parts of the world, for a man to do that is normally out of their comfort zones band not something that biologically the have to deal with. especially older generations like my father who's almost 70 where growing up it was pretty much a forbidden topic. Heck when my sisters (both in their mid 30's) were growing up it still wasn't talked about as openly as it is now.

If you paid attention, she never has and will never will menstruate, thus it's as "out of her comfort zone" as it is for any man, as it's biologically something she will never have to deal with.
To buy tampons you don't exactly have to talk about it, either. Just go through a checkout. You aren't going to have a lengthy discussion on clotting and hormonal fluctuations with the checkout guy. They'll ring you up and probably barely look at what you're buying.

[i shall ignore the argument and base my answer on my own experience and research. ]

My DH and I often argue about who has to put up with the most cr@p from the other, difference being that he's comfortable reciting my faults to me while I'd rather not do that to him.

Fortunately, neither my husband nor I has ever had a problem with his buying me sanitary protection, just the same as we can both buy toilet roll, or tissues or condoms. I'd think it was an age thing, but actually I don't think either of us have ever had a problem with it, and we met in our early 20s.

Research has proven that men have cycles too (apparently more accidents happened on a railway at a certain point in the male workers' 'cycle') and I do suspect this is why my DH will be fine for weeks on end and then throws a hissy fit over nothing. Problem is, there's no visible sign of his TOM, so he can't see the pattern as easily or learn to counteract it. If I'm in a foul mood before my TOM I can rationalise it as hormones and bite my tongue or apologise. Because he hasn't got this knowledge of his hormone cycle he thinks his feelings are 'real' and 'justified' and the apology can't come until the next day.

I think I might just start logging his strops and look for a pattern.

If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

She's also a girl. Where i'm living and a lot of parts of the world, for a man to do that is normally out of their comfort zones band not something that biologically the have to deal with. especially older generations like my father who's almost 70 where growing up it was pretty much a forbidden topic. Heck, when my sisters (both in their mid 30's) were growing up it still wasn't talked about as openly as it is now.

Don't argue with them dear...just let her rant. She has about 1/3 the life experience you do, and is 3yrs older. It will just end up stressing you, and it's not worth it.

for a long time men were taught that doing things like buying tampons was not acceptable and despit how far we personally come as a society we are lacking.. so for a man who will never experance something like a period to break these long standing unwritten rules should be given some credit...
besides i have faced the wall of pads and know how daunting it can be and i have been at this a while now i can only imagine how overwheling it must be for someone who hasnt.

As you know I'm single lol...but I still buy them for my 14yr old daughter...who is still at that stage where any mention of it is mortifying, and having to stand there and pick them out herself would be absolutely terrifying.

The conversation on the phone (she won't even go with me...and since I buy the biggest package I can, I always forget what kind by the time I have to buy them again) while I'm standing there trying to figure out which ones I got last time is comical, I'm sure.

Are you my doctor? Didn't think so. Nice ad hominem though.


HEREZ UR GOLD STARRRR

[i shall ignore the argument and base my answer on my own experience and research. ]

My DH and I often argue about who has to put up with the most cr@p from the other, difference being that he's comfortable reciting my faults to me while I'd rather not do that to him.

Fortunately, neither my husband nor I has ever had a problem with his buying me sanitary protection, just the same as we can both buy toilet roll, or tissues or condoms. I'd think it was an age thing, but actually I don't think either of us have ever had a problem with it, and we met in our early 20s.

Research has proven that men have cycles too (apparently more accidents happened on a railway at a certain point in the male workers' 'cycle') and I do suspect this is why my DH will be fine for weeks on end and then throws a hissy fit over nothing. Problem is, there's no visible sign of his TOM, so he can't see the pattern as easily or learn to counteract it. If I'm in a foul mood before my TOM I can rationalise it as hormones and bite my tongue or apologise. Because he hasn't got this knowledge of his hormone cycle he thinks his feelings are 'real' and 'justified' and the apology can't come until the next day.

I think I might just start logging his strops and look for a pattern.

LOL! I fully believe this is possible .

If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

She's also a girl. Where i'm living and a lot of parts of the world, for a man to do that is normally out of their comfort zones band not something that biologically the have to deal with. especially older generations like my father who's almost 70 where growing up it was pretty much a forbidden topic. Heck, when my sisters (both in their mid 30's) were growing up it still wasn't talked about as openly as it is now.

Don't argue with them dear...just let her rant. She has about 1/3 the life experience you do, and is 3yrs older. It will just end up stressing you, and it's not worth it.

for a long time men were taught that doing things like buying tampons was not acceptable and despit how far we personally come as a society we are lacking.. so for a man who will never experance something like a period to break these long standing unwritten rules should be given some credit...
besides i have faced the wall of pads and know how daunting it can be and i have been at this a while now i can only imagine how overwheling it must be for someone who hasnt.

As you know I'm single lol...but I still buy them for my 14yr old daughter...who is still at that stage where any mention of it is mortifying, and having to stand there and pick them out herself would be absolutely terrifying.

The conversation on the phone (she won't even go with me...and since I buy the biggest package I can, I always forget what kind by the time I have to buy them again) while I'm standing there trying to figure out which ones I got last time is comical, I'm sure.

THIS!!! You are the perfect example of how dads should be! you and my dad are the only ones i know who are willing to do it. Everyone else's fathers are too embarrassed. My dad made a good point, he said its not like anyone thinks its for him

If you're mature enough for a relationship you should be mature enough to understand that menstruation is just a bodily function and tampons are no different than buying band-aids or toilet paper. I talk to my girlfriend (who has never and will never menstruate) in detail about my menstruation and she doesn't bat an eyelash. She has picked me up tampons at the store before. I appreciate it, but I don't give her any gold stars, because it's a matter of being nice. And anyone should be nice to their partner in a relationship, or I have no idea why they would have the relationship to begin with.
Men/women don't deserve special recognition just for not being jerks.

She also a girl. Where i'm living and a lot of parts of the world, for a man to do that is normally out of their comfort zones band not something that biologically the have to deal with. especially older generations like my father who's almost 70 where growing up it was pretty much a forbidden topic. Heck when my sisters (both in their mid 30's) were growing up it still wasn't talked about as openly as it is now.

If you paid attention, she never has and will never will menstruate, thus it's as "out of her comfort zone" as it is for any man, as it's biologically something she will never have to deal with.
To buy tampons you don't exactly have to talk about it, either. Just go through a checkout. You aren't going to have a lengthy discussion on clotting and hormonal fluctuations with the checkout guy. They'll ring you up and probably barely look at what you're buying.

Correct me if i'm wrong, but she has a vagina right, cause thats a hell of a lot closer the men have it. If it's so out of her comfort zone then give her a back massage or something, since it's such a big deal she wont ever have her period. Seriously, there are so many misandrists on here, it's insane.

A vagina makes it so much easier to buy a box of cotton.
But no, she doesn't have one.
MISANDRY OMGZ

So she doesn't have girly parts but is a she? Not being sarcastic, just confused. I'm pretty certain to actually be a girl you need a vagina. Unless she is actually a transgender, in which case you've been a little misleading here. Le sigh...I am so confused