I don't know what to do.... divorce?

Well, I don't think that being married and having fun experiences are mutually exclusive. Is the guy you married not interested in your kind of fun? Do you share any common goals for the future?

I don't think it's wrong to get divorced if the relationship isn't good for you, but it might be worth it to talk - perhaps with a counselor - and work out if you two are on the same path or not.

Basically, I want a divorce but I don't think I could live with myself if he became suicidal or never married again...

It would not be your fault if he committed suicide or never married again. He is responsible for his actions.

I would suggest that you seek individual or couples counseling.

I think marriage is a promise you should try counseling an try to make it work, talk about it with him and seek professional help. Personally I'd do everything to try an make it work Hun. If after you tried everything and you still feel you guys need to split up you can at least know you tried everything!

I think marriage is a promise you should try counseling an try to make it work, talk about it with him and seek professional help. Personally I'd do everything to try an make it work Hun. If after you tried everything and you still feel you guys need to split up you can at least know you tried everything!

I agree with this - there is clearly enough between you to make the decision to get married, don't throw that away just because you are learning that long term relationships take work.
Put in the work, but if it really isn't going to work out for you both, then you can separate knowing that you gave it a good try.

Damn, that's cold.

Too bad! Your hubby looks like a very cute and nice guy! You might regret that someday....

I'm not religious, but I take the marriage vows I make very seriously, especially when it came to ending my first marriage, and now, about to marry my fiancé. I always want to be able to honor what I say.

If I were you, I would seek counseling both individually and as a couple to figure out what the two of you can work on and what you individually need in a relationship. When my ex informed me that he could not and would not grow with me and make some changes needed on his side, I knew it was over and told him the same in the counselor's office that day.

You need to approach this with him directly.

Might as well abolish marriage since 99% of the population doesn't take it seriously. :ohwell:

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Might as well abolish marriage since 99% of the population doesn't take it seriously. :ohwell:

I must say - not digging at you personally (who created the thread) but its young girls like you who are ruining the sanctity of marriage.
I feel blessed to be able to take my partners last name after 6 years of being together. We have been through it all.

Its dis-heartening to read of all these divorces etc.
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My husband and I were young and only knew each other for a few months when we got married. Our first year was rough, to say the least. But we were both determined that we were going to stick it out, no matter what, because marriage is sacred to us. If we wouldn't have made that decision, we would have gotten divorced, without a doubt. But because we committed to each other despite the hardship and fighting and trying to find ourselves, we are happily married 16 years later. It took a lot of work and a lot of learning, but it was so worth it.

My point is, I know how you feel - unsure of your love for him, feeling like you made a mistake, etc. But why not try to make it work despite how you feel? Sometimes our emotions are unreliable and lead us astray. Don't give up before you've even tried. You may regret that later, and some things can't be undone.