Would you rather be "wanted" or "needed" ?

More than needed, though, I feel it is a need to be appreciated. If you work all day, and come home and I have done the laundry and made a nice dinner for you and waited to eat until you were home, I want you to appreciate that. You dont NEED me to cook dinner, but you appreciate all of the little things I do, like folding your underwear and matching your socks for you. You don't NEED me to feel love, you can feel it with someone else, but you appreciate the love that I offer so unconditionally. You don't NEED me to balance the checkbook, but you appreciate that I have taken that on, even if it is because I am kinda OCD about it. You appreciate my little quirks, that some may find annoying or strange. You think it is cute that I eat the food on my plate one item at a time, or that if a food can be eaten in layers (oreos, grilled chicken sandwiches, lasagna, even spaghetti) is always eaten top to bottom, or that if I know we will be going to some big party a week from now, I will, at least twice do a test run on my makeup, and know that it is less my vanity that compels me as it is my desire to make sure that the girl you call your "trophy" to your friends, gives them no reason to dispute it.

The "want" or desire is very important to me. It makes me feel like I am pretty, it makes me feel like I am fun. If you WANT to spend all of your time with me, If you WANT to kiss me as soon as you walk in the door every evening, if you WANT to take care of me when I am sick, or hold me when I cry, or laugh with (translation: at) me when I am drunk, or just hang out and watch the new episode of Deadliest Catch with me every Tuesday for the rest of your life, that means you DO appreciate and want me.

To know that even when we are old, and there isn't as much to talk about, and we just sit on the porch with each other, and are happy, is the most important aspect of a relationship. Not the first part. Yeah, that is fun and exciting. But, to think about the future and the parts that are not as fun or exciting or are down right sucky, and WANT to be with me through it all...... that is the "love" that I dream about. The "love" that I hope for.

desired.

I thought Cheap Trick resolved this issue:

I want you to want me.
I need you to need me.
Id love you to love me.
I'm begging you to beg me.

I thought Cheap Trick resolved this issue:

I want you to want me.
I need you to need me.
Id love you to love me.
I'm begging you to beg me.

and what if I do? then what? lol!!!!

Absolutely want to be wanted. Isn't it a refreshing feeling to wake up to someone who WANTS to wake up beside you and has that choice each and every day?

Yes :-)

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Both - I need to be Wanted and also I want to be Needed to be Appreciated etc. I Want to be Loved / Appreciated / Respected / Adored. In my mind its also a need, as without those things, life can be hard. That goes for any type of relationship. Obviously some types of relationships such as Love have a deeper level of those such qualities.

I/m a man and I would rather be wanted than needed.

It's nice to be needed, but far better to be wanted. Nothing like it.

To be " WANTED " is always good!

I definitely prefer to be wanted.

You could be worthless and still be wanted, but being needed, now that gives you some worth.

Wanted, you can't beat the passion and love from really wanting someone! I'm a mummy so I get best of both worlds, being needed as a mummy and wanted by my man

also there is nothing weak about needing someone, everyone needs somebody. We're not designed to be alone. the idea that its somehow braver and stronger and more virtuous to say you don't need anyone I don't agree with.

Fundamentally I think men like to be needed .

Woman need to be wanted.

For me i think it's a little of both. I want the woman I love. So because of that want, I now need her. It's nice to be wanted, but I also thrive on being needed. I think it's the want that creates the need.
By needing me I mean, I want to be the guy she can call and say “my car broke down will you come pick me up?" or " I need your help." “ I’m scared”…ect.
So..yeah while is great to be wanted..in the long run I’d rather be needed. For this simple fact ..If they never felt that they needed us (men )… they would be with their girlfriends. They are less hairy, can share most clothing, know more about their bodies and don’t leave the seat up. They just put up with our sht because they need us.The fact that they want us every now and again is a bonus.
after reading that back… my brain hurts.. good luck with that. Made sense when I typed it

You have a point:)