Are muscled/defined women attractive?

So, a few weeks ago I was hosting a party and was talking amongst a bunch of people (both men and women, mid twenties). I was flipping through facebook and noticed one of the girls that I used to play volleyball with. She has amazing abs (like a true 6 pack), nice breasts, and an overall amazing body in my opinion. When I showed the picture to my friends, the reaction I got was surprising. Everyone thought that she was "too muscled" to have a sexually attractive body. What really astonished me was that the guys in the group found her abs revolting, and said that a flat stomach is nice, but that they would prefer a little pudge to defined abs.

So my question is, what do you think? Are defined women too masculine to be considered "sexy" in the societal normative way? Why or why not?
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  • 2getgeorge
    2getgeorge Posts: 81 Member
    beauty is always in the eye of the holder, as the saying goes. I personally love women who are ripped but not body builder big. But it really doesn't matter. Its what image the person in question is comfortable projecting. everyone needs to be comfortable in their own skin. don't make changes for anyone but yourself. just my opinion...
  • docktorfokse
    docktorfokse Posts: 473 Member
    A low body fat percent is required to see muscle on a body. Women with too little fat were less likely to be able to safely give birth, so people/our cultures evolved to find more body fat on women to be more attractive.

    That being said, the year is currently 2012 Common Era, and there is now vast variation from person to person in what can be considered attractive. Chances are if you have any given body type, there will be people who find it attractive. Personally, this fact gives me comfort, as I know what I want to look like, and this is all the more reason not to care if everyone I meet thinks I'm attractive. It's pretty much a given for everybody: some will, some won't.
  • nrdoty
    nrdoty Posts: 10 Member
    This is definitely a preference thing. For me a single vertical line on the abs, or even all three can be very sexy. If you start to see horizontal breaks in the abdominals, that's when I start to find it less attractive. I have no idea at what body fat% that a full 6-pack is usually visible on a woman; but I would imagine that probably does get into a lower-than-recommended range.

    That said, kudos to any women that just want's to get ripped. Chances are you will be more attractive overall than the women who don't take care of their bodies.
  • iKapuniai
    iKapuniai Posts: 594 Member
    Personally, I don't find super ripped women very attractive... I like them to look flat, yet soft... still with a little something to poke at. I like them to LOOK "skinny fat", but still be very strong lol
  • missallenxox
    missallenxox Posts: 175 Member
    i think its HOT, the determination, sweat, tears, effort, accountability, self discipline, its all hot!!!! i admire the women at the gym who look like beef cakes.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if your lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    ^^this, this and double this.
  • Syderelli
    Syderelli Posts: 439 Member
    IMO, I think it is amazing. Society? Who knows. Our society has some really warped ways of thinking..
  • mrob81
    mrob81 Posts: 36
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    Healthy is the main thing. Personally, I like a bit of definition but not too much.. Sure abs are great. Would love to see 'em so long as they are not like some Greek statue. Balance in all things.
  • maryd523
    maryd523 Posts: 661 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    Yeah, but WAY MORE people will find you attractive if you don't have rolls. Just sayin.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    Yeah, but WAY MORE people will find you attractive if you don't have rolls. Just sayin.

    And what is your point? Why do women care so damn much what other people think? Is this a popularity contest or life?

    My point is that if you're healthy and working to improve your life, why do we care so much what we look like? Somebody is going to find that attractive. Others won't. You'll never be happy if all you want in life is for everyone to find you attractive. Never going to happen.
  • El_guapo22
    El_guapo22 Posts: 902 Member
    In my opinion yes. I respect the dedication and work it takes. And lovely to look at also.
  • Jordant107
    Jordant107 Posts: 218 Member
    Lean, with some definition: yeah sure!!
    Heavily muscled and bodybuilder looking: no!!
    It's each to their own though- and a well defined and muscular chick is always going to look better than a fat and overweight person!!
  • LauraJo08
    LauraJo08 Posts: 219 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    Yeah, but WAY MORE people will find you attractive if you don't have rolls. Just sayin.

    And what is your point? Why do women care so damn much what other people think? Is this a popularity contest or life?

    I think that it is naive to say that you shouldn't care about what other people think. People naturally judge others based on appearance, and so first impressions are very important in friends, dating, and the job market. I am not ashamed to say that I care about what others think. I asked this question just because I was surprised as a former athlete who is trying to get back to a six pack.
  • LauraJo08
    LauraJo08 Posts: 219 Member
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

    haha, I find this an interesting gender role example. I find it interesting that lots of men need to be stronger than their significant others. I wonder if it related to our society's definition of masculinity?
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    Yeah, but WAY MORE people will find you attractive if you don't have rolls. Just sayin.

    And what is your point? Why do women care so damn much what other people think? Is this a popularity contest or life?

    I think that it is naive to say that you shouldn't care about what other people think. People naturally judge others based on appearance, and so first impressions are very important in friends, dating, and the job market. I am not ashamed to say that I care about what others think. I asked this question just because I was surprised as a former athlete who is trying to get back to a six pack.

    You are right. People judge based on looks, but that doesn't mean that you should spend your life worried about what people think of the way you look or change your goals based on somebody saying they think muscled chicks are gross. Even beautiful people will have people that find them unattractive. If you want to be an athlete and get your 6 pack back, do it. Let the rest of the world or your friends judge as they want. The people who really support you and care about supporting you in reaching your goals will be all for it. You'll look amazing, and you'll feel amazing for hitting your goals.

    It's not about how MANY people will find that attractive, but the quality of people that do. People who care about YOU will be in your corner no matter what. Focus on their opinions.
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    I think that is like asking "are blonde women attractive?" or "are brown eyed women attractive?"
    Some people will like a particular look and others won't.

    If I had to generalise, I'd say that a women who is comfortable in her body (whatever size and shape) and who exudes confidence and happiness is often very attractive. That's going to be about a whole lot more things than just body size and composition.
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    I think a woman with some muscle I can see looks better than a most woman who range from thin to big, but I think a thik woman looks better than a thin woman so I put a thik womanl right behind the woman with muscle.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    If they are in Figure or Bikini contest shape..............hell yeah. I'm with clients daily and only have a couple of females that I work with that have 6 packs. And both are smoking hot.


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  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Check out this thread: It's gone for almost 80 pages: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/626922-hot-women-with-muscles
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

    Unless you have a habit of trying to beat women, I don't see how this would even be an issue :huh:



    I feel like most strong and well built men have little issue with dating a strong and fit women. The guy's in my gym love the rare strong women who come to the weight room and work out with them. It's the little wimpy guys (sorry!) that have the biggest issue with their girl being in great shape. It's understandable too. I wouldn't date a guy who is weaker than me so I get why a guy wouldn't date a girl who can out-lift him at the gym.
  • Just_Dot
    Just_Dot Posts: 2,283 Member
    Elizabeth, I puffy heart you.

    I am so tired of these threads.

    I know, I know, why did I come in here? And WHY did I feel the need to comment?

    Because.

    The body hatred that has been pervading the boards has got to stop. As if young women didn't have enough problems with self -esteem and body image... Will today's adolescents also have to worry about being too muscley?

    Can't we work to accept and love women's bodies, regardless of the muscle or not? If females here are striving to get/be their healthiest, can't we be okay with that?

    SMH.
  • Iam918
    Iam918 Posts: 118 Member
    i think its HOT, the determination, sweat, tears, effort, accountability, self discipline, its all hot!!!! i admire the women at the gym who look like beef cakes.

    ^^ This! very very sexy!

    See Jamie Eason /drool
  • TheBigBoots
    TheBigBoots Posts: 74 Member
    Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if you're lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

    FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

    Yeah, but WAY MORE people will find you attractive if you don't have rolls. Just sayin.

    And what is your point? Why do women care so damn much what other people think? Is this a popularity contest or life?

    I think that it is naive to say that you shouldn't care about what other people think. People naturally judge others based on appearance, and so first impressions are very important in friends, dating, and the job market. I am not ashamed to say that I care about what others think. I asked this question just because I was surprised as a former athlete who is trying to get back to a six pack.

    You are right. People judge based on looks, but that doesn't mean that you should spend your life worried about what people think of the way you look or change your goals based on somebody saying they think muscled chicks are gross. Even beautiful people will have people that find them unattractive. If you want to be an athlete and get your 6 pack back, do it. Let the rest of the world or your friends judge as they want. The people who really support you and care about supporting you in reaching your goals will be all for it. You'll look amazing, and you'll feel amazing for hitting your goals.

    It's not about how MANY people will find that attractive, but the quality of people that do. People who care about YOU will be in your corner no matter what. Focus on their opinions.

    I like the cut of your jib, Elizabeth_C34. :)

    I just happened to read this tread today, which I think says it all:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/626995-something-to-think-about-gender-and-insecurity

    Bottom line: I don't get people who don't find strength and confidence sexy. Guess I'm just weird like that. Whateves y'all. :)
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    I'm actually curious to know how many women actually think lifting weights will give them an automatic six pack? I don't think people realize how hard it is for a woman to get that lean and the amount of work required to get to that point. I feel like people think if they lift weight they'll just have a 6 pack and big man muscles over night.
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

    You generally get into physical fights with the women you're in a relationship with?
  • mrob81
    mrob81 Posts: 36
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

    Unless you have a habit of trying to beat women, I don't see how this would even be an issue :huh:



    I feel like most strong and well built men have little issue with dating a strong and fit women. The guy's in my gym love the rare strong women who come to the weight room and work out with them. It's the little wimpy guys (sorry!) that have the biggest issue with their girl being in great shape. It's understandable too. I wouldn't date a guy who is weaker than me so I get why a guy wouldn't date a girl who can out-lift him at the gym.

    lol. This is an opinion based question. I am a pretty big dude. For a chick to look like she can give me some go, she is a lot bigger than the average female. I already get enough problems being bigger than most people I encounter. I don't want to tag team it with some buff girl on my hip as well. Imagine having dinner with a WWE wrestler and one of those WWE chicks. UNCOMFORTABLE.
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

    Unless you have a habit of trying to beat women, I don't see how this would even be an issue :huh:



    I feel like most strong and well built men have little issue with dating a strong and fit women. The guy's in my gym love the rare strong women who come to the weight room and work out with them. It's the little wimpy guys (sorry!) that have the biggest issue with their girl being in great shape. It's understandable too. I wouldn't date a guy who is weaker than me so I get why a guy wouldn't date a girl who can out-lift him at the gym.

    lol. This is an opinion based question. I am a pretty big dude. For a chick to look like she can give me some go, she is a lot bigger than the average female. I already get enough problems being bigger than most people I encounter. I don't want to tag team it with some buff girl on my hip as well. Imagine having dinner with a WWE wrestler and one of those WWE chicks. UNCOMFORTABLE.

    She'd have to be on steroids too so I'm sure other issues could be involved as well. I based this more on a low bf% defined woman, not really one with big steroid induced muscles :flowerforyou:

    I just thought it was a little strange a guy would worry about physically fighting a women. It just seems like its happened before lol
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    I don't find muscle on other people that attractive, male or female. A defined, muscled body type is the least attractive to me. However, I do like a bit of definition on my own body. Not enough to want a six-pack or anything to that level, but as I've lost weight and got fitter (I'm still very overweight) I've found that I really like my defined calves and the 'v' shape that's appearing on my abdomen, along with the faintest central line. I don't want to have really obvious muscle, but I'm enjoying this definition and looking forward to seeing it more once remaining fat is gone. I'm a bit of a hypocrite.