Are muscled/defined women attractive?

I'm all about some ab definition, but I don't like the way a true 6-pack looks on a woman, even one who doesn't look like a bodybuilder. It just doesn't look feminine to me. I have nothing but admiration for the hard work it takes to achieve and maintain that level of leanness, but I don't find it attractive. Then again, I'm a woman, and I like men, so my opnion doesn't matter much.

So, a few weeks ago I was hosting a party and was talking amongst a bunch of people (both men and women, mid twenties). I was flipping through facebook and noticed one of the girls that I used to play volleyball with. She has amazing abs (like a true 6 pack), nice breasts, and an overall amazing body in my opinion. When I showed the picture to my friends, the reaction I got was surprising. Everyone thought that she was "too muscled" to have a sexually attractive body. What really astonished me was that the guys in the group found her abs revolting, and said that a flat stomach is nice, but that they would prefer a little pudge to defined abs.

So my question is, what do you think? Are defined women too masculine to be considered "sexy" in the societal normative way? Why or why not?

Personally I do not find it attractive in any way or form. Often the hips have shrunk and the shoulders are broad, so along with the defined muscle comes a more manly shape in general. I think a woman who is cut and toned is sexy, but some women take it too far to be attractive to me.

Edit: I find it hard to believe that men are just intimidated by these women, but whatever helps ya sleep at night... it seems more likely to me that they don't want to hit the sack with a woman who physically feels like their gym buddies. I can't imagine wanting to be with a woman who is as hard as a man... shudder

And to the above poster who pointed at her own photo and said YEY OR NEY... I feel like I WANT to answer because you asked, but also like maybe I shouldn't because it's probably not what you want to hear. Don't you think that on threads like these it's probably better to leave out the personal? That's like me going on a thread about fat people not being attractive, posting a pic and expecting people to change their mind. Seems like it'd just open up a world of hurt for me, you know?

<SNIP>. What really astonished me was that the guys in the group found her abs revolting, and said that a flat stomach is nice, but that they would prefer a little pudge to defined abs.<SNIP>

Maybe they figure she's way out of their league and so, instead of risking rejection, they don't even make attempt to 'go for it'.

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So, a few weeks ago I was hosting a party and was talking amongst a bunch of people (both men and women, mid twenties). I was flipping through facebook and noticed one of the girls that I used to play volleyball with. She has amazing abs (like a true 6 pack), nice breasts, and an overall amazing body in my opinion. When I showed the picture to my friends, the reaction I got was surprising. Everyone thought that she was "too muscled" to have a sexually attractive body. What really astonished me was that the guys in the group found her abs revolting, and said that a flat stomach is nice, but that they would prefer a little pudge to defined abs.

So my question is, what do you think? Are defined women too masculine to be considered "sexy" in the societal normative way? Why or why not?

I am a big fan of women with muscles. Not overly-competition-muscles (although I do admire women who are totally jacked). I think a nice show of muscle is very sexy. I've been places and I've seen girls who are thin and I often think "She's got a nice body but it would be a lot better if she had some muscle to her." That's just me though and it could be because I have muscles myself and I love them.

I like muscle on a girl but there can definitely be too much on a girl I do not like the bulky body builder type muscle that is so well defined you can't tell if the girl has pecks or boobs. sorry But I love a girl with some definition

I agree with some of your friends that I prefer pudge on a girl, makes her seem more womanly to me. :blushing:

But everyone is different there will be a host of guys who will love it, just comes down to personal preference I guess.

I know super ripped women that are hot. But, I also know super ripped women that are not. There's a lot more behind it than body fat % and muscle tone.

If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

Yup, this right here is what they're all afraid of!!! lol

I like muscled abs. I miss mine more than anything.

Women should stop caring what others think of their bodies and worry about being fit and healthy and living their best life possible. I can appreciate wanting to be attractive, but the truth is that it doesn't matter if your lean and fit, have abs, have flab, have rolls. Someone is going to find you attractive, and someone is going to find you unattractive. Be who you want to be. Let the rest of the world judge as they see fit.

FWIW, I think women who are fit are incredibly admirable and beautiful from the inside out. Same goes for women who make their health and fitness a priority in life even if they aren't ripped.

^^this, this and double this.

Triple this!

I don't give a damn what the rest of the world finds attractive. Pale brunette with short hair and small boobs rarely tops anyone's list of what's hot. So I go by, "Be true to yourself, and the right person will find that attractive."

If the chick looks like she may give me some go in a fight, the answer is no.

haha, I find this an interesting gender role example. I find it interesting that lots of men need to be stronger than their significant others. I wonder if it related to our society's definition of masculinity?

I have been overweight most my post-pubescent life. Even though I'm not ripped, I am very strong. I have been the physically stronger person in most, if not all, of my relationships. They didn't seem to care. I guess the boyfriends I've had liked me for who I was and weren't that self-conscious about their strength.

Gotta say not so much for me but I think curves are great. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so who can say what is attractive. People come in all shapes and sizes but that is just as well coz different people want different things. Hopefully that means there is somebody for everybody

Personally, I think all the "beauty is on the inside" crap is pretty ridiculous. Physical beauty is on the outside. Period. I'm glad you are a great person and everything, but that doesn't mean you are beautiful. Sorry. That's just the way it is. If you want to be attractive, you can't be fat. Sure, some people will find you attractive, but that is like saying a poor American is successful in Ethiopia.

Let the angry repsonses begin!

Agreed! Sorry, I'm not marrying you just because you're a nice dude. You gotta be hot too!

WOW, I feel sorry for your SO's. What happens in 20 years when they're not hot? Or you're not? So shallow!

There is beauty in everyone if you care to take the time to look. It might not be as obvious as the movie stars, but it's there. I do think there should be some level of attraction between couples...some kind of chemistry going on. If you're looking for the hottest of the hot remember that it doesn't last and you might not be completely happy if you don't have a deeper connection then just physical attraction.

I like muscle on a girl but there can definitely be too much on a girl I do not like the bulky body builder type muscle that is so well defined you can't tell if the girl has pecks or boobs. sorry But I love a girl with some definition

^^^This! Fit, healthy, and athletic is my goal. I DO NOT, however, wanna look like Chyna (the female pro wrestler)... :noway:

You will NEVER look like Chyna, she uses steroids, women do not have enough testosterone to look like that without gear.

yes! and I found the more I've gotten into shape the more I find them attractive. This may be due to the fact I know how hard it is to achieve these bodies, but I will say there are some women that I may think are to "buff" for my taste.