"babe" "hun"

Yes TOTAL CRAP! I totally agree with you that your husband should only have cute nicknames for you. Its just like when a guy checks out another chick in front of you and says "Its not like I'm attracted to her" Then why do you do it? Its totally demeaning for guys to do things like that and still call you by those nicknames or tell you that you look good, it starts to not mean anything. I don't check out other guys cause I'm totally committed and I don't want my boyfriend to feel unwanted or like he's not enough. Idk why it seems like men and women are so far apart on issues like this.

Having been called "babe", "sweetie" & "hun" by both genders of clients (I'm a Realtor) I can vouch that most of the time it's just habit. I've never once taken it as anything other than that.

Having worked in the bar business for years, believe me, it's completely environmental, and not at all personal. I'd venture a guess that he could work with an incredibly attractive woman, and an absolutely hideous woman, and he'd call them both babe.

This is absolutely not something worth getting in a fight with your husband about.

This used to bother me. Then I realized it's just such a little thing to be upset over. However, if the endearment is followed by an *kitten* grab, then I have a problem.

If you're not okay with it, explain it to him, and ask him to stop. Giving him the side eye or the silent treatment won't solve your problem. Ask for what you want.

I would absolutely not be okay with my man calling some other woman anything that he calls me. And if he ever did, I would ask him not to do it in the future.

^This. If it's not "normal" for him to talk that way with others than definitely so.

if he calls EVERYONE 'babe', then it's fine.
if it's only young/attractive people, then i'd be annoyed

It does bother me - and i did tell him - his reponse was that i was overreacting!!!!

I'm a spiteful ***** - sometimes........i can play this game!!! Can't wait to go out - and call every male I see "babe' or "sweetie" or "hotness" all loud enough for my "husband" to hear.

Oh, there are so many things wrong with this ... that your husband doesn't understand, that you're intentionally being spiteful, that you call him your "husband." I think some marriage counseling might be in order.

I'm a spiteful ***** - sometimes........i can play this game!!! Can't wait to go out - and call every male I see "babe' or "sweetie" or "hotness" all loud enough for my "husband" to hear.

You are a child.

He's messing around on you, sweatheart. Get rid of him.

It does bother me - and i did tell him - his reponse was that i was overreacting!!!!

I'm a spiteful ***** - sometimes........i can play this game!!! Can't wait to go out - and call every male I see "babe' or "sweetie" or "hotness" all loud enough for my "husband" to hear.

Oh, there are so many things wrong with this ... that your husband doesn't understand, that you're intentionally being spiteful, that you call him your "husband." I think some marriage counseling might be in order.

^^^The issue is bigger than him calling some chicks "hun"

I call guys babe and hun all the time. I hope their gfs dont hate me!

The only place I never do this is at work since its a very male dominated field. I sort of have to act like one of the boys.

I didn't realize guys call each other babe and hun?

It's actually kind of funny. When I visited my long distance boyfriend in Louisiana for the first time, I was totally taken aback by the use of terms like that in everyday conversation. Saying "Thanks sweetie" to the cashier was very odd until I came to realize it was a regional, new orleans kind of thing.

Am I the only one that thinks that a husband should NOT be calling anyone but his WIFE "babe" and "hun"?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?

I think you should talk to him and let him know it bothers you. This is not a topic for an Internet forum, this is a topic that you and your husband should be reaching a solution on that best fits the two of you. He is speaking in perfectly appropriate terms from all the barkeeps and waitstaff I know, who call each other by pet names like that all the time. Not sure why, but that's the way it seems to be.

If this is a big deal to you, then it's a big deal to your marriage. Make as big a deal of it as you need to satisfy yourself that the behavior either stops or you learn to accept it. But pick your battles, because he may have to change to a different job or alienate his coworkers by insisting on formality in an informal workplace.

No anonymous Internet forum is going to resolve this because we're all in relationships with different rules. My wife worked for a company that had that sort of vibe going on, and while I thought it was odd I also did not feel it worth mentioning nor did I ever suspect she was cheating on me or anything, so I let it go at that. She and her coworkers seemed amused by the nicknames, and my wife and I have a relationship built on many decades of trust.

OK I do this alot and really never payed any attention to it but I also use Sweetie too. Does not seem to bother anybody in my group.

Ew...that would REALLY bother me. Have you talked to him about it and told him how it makes you feel? He may not realize he's hurting or offending you. My hubby only reserves those names for me - he and I both even hate it when a female waitress or someone calls HIM sweetie or hon - makes me want to deck her. lol. I would really chat with him more about it though. Communication is key in good relationships. Hubby and I have heart to hearts often, just to make sure everything we feel is out there - it really strengthens us.