"babe" "hun"

I work in a field that is 95% men (police and fire) and I find that a lot of the guys do the same thing, especially the firemen. A lof of them call me darlin' or hun, one of them says chic. They do it to all of us and I really don't think they mean anything by it. Guys are just clueless. I find that most guys have nicknames for each other and I don't think they get that girls are not the same. I used to be offended by it, but now I just know that they are being men. If he tells you that he means nothing by it and has given you no reason to believe otherwise, I would trust him.

I would say hun is fine,

babe? maybe a step to far, I would get a slap!:ohwell:

ehh thats a little weird.

I could understand if HE was the bartender and calling other woman babe, doll, hun, etc. becasue thats part of the gig.

Sorry - But I am the ONLY wmoan in my guys like he should be calling sweetie.

i only call my kids babe, or baby..i doubt i would call anyone else that..not even my hubby..i cant say what i would do, since my hubby is not the nickname kind of guy..hun i guess isnt so bad..it make me personally feel weird, but many people do it, so i cant stop them..i guess just approach it in a less threatening manner ( than what he thinks) and go from there..good luck :flowerforyou:

When I think of the word "babe" I think of the pig, so that honestly doesn't matter to me. Actually, no terms of endearment bother me, and they never bother my boyfriend when someone calls me darling, sweetie, honey, etc. There are far more pressing things to worry about in life.

Hun - i am ok with, I mean I have women in the grocery store call me hun. So to me it really is not a big deal, But babe, only for my S/O.

Just talk to him and express how you feel.

When I' working i call all the elderly men and women Hun! It just comes out naturally as well as sweetie. Babe isn't one that I would appreciate my husband calling anyone but me. He never calls me by my name, its always baby, or babe, or hun. If he calls me by my name I am usually in trouble, lol. Like a kid. I agree you should talk to him but don't go out and do it to get back at him. that won't help anything!

lol... I loved this - me and my hubby were just talking the other day about how we NEVER call each other by our names... it feels weird. Every now and again I just call him by his name "Jim" and he gives me the funniest look... it's always honey, baby, sweetie...

Wow I totally know what you're talking about. When a girl says "thanks sweetie" to my wife, like when we go through a drive thru and she gives her money, I FLIP *kitten*!!!! I get up in her face and ask her "WTF B*TCH? YOU CAN'T CALL MY WIFE THAT!!! IS SOMETHING GOING ON BETWEEN YOU TWO? ILL FIND OUT! I CHECK HER TEXTS AND FACEBOOK AND TWITTER AND MFP AND FOLLOW HER!". She backed down quickly after that.

When someone calls me hun or sweetie, I give them my phone number and wink.

Lmao

I call a lot of people "dear" and "hun" and "sweetie". Around here, it's one of those things a lot of people do. You forget or don't know someone's name but you still want to acknowledge them and it sure sounds a lot nicer than "hey you". I agree that it's not really much different than guys calling each other "dude" and "bro".

Playing little jealousy games isn't really a grea idea... Why go that route and potentially cause more harm than good?

Look, I've got a jealous streak a mile long and even had a few blow outs with hubby that I'm kind of embarrassed about in hindsight (he's a bit of a flirt but I'm over it now). Here's the thing - your hubs should be the most important person in your life - your best friend, partner, lover and all that. If you can't trust him and want to retaliate with little childish games, I may agree with one of the above posters that it could be time for some counseling... Take a few breaths and trust what he says is true, that they're just harmless nicknames. Be cool...

I all everybody "love" "hun" "gorgeous" "beautiful" "honey" "baby" "good lookin". None of my gf's in the past have minded me saying that

This used to bother me. Then I realized it's just such a little thing to be upset over. However, if the endearment is followed by an *kitten* grab, then I have a problem.

Totally. If not it probably is habit, I called my students hon and stuff all the time because sometimes there are so many you just forget!! I think you are overreacting and I wouldn't do anything spiteful!

I call guys babe and hun all the time. I hope their gfs dont hate me!

The only place I never do this is at work since its a very male dominated field. I sort of have to act like one of the boys.

I didn't realize guys call each other babe and hun?

I don't think they do either but I'm a girl. I guess my cute kitty avatar doesn't give it away. I said I never call the other men at work that because I won't look professional. Men don't call other men babe and hun so I have to follow suit and not do the same either. I don't want to come across as being flirtatious pretty much.

my husband and i call each other by all sorts of pet names. and sometimes that just spills over. i tend to call people younger than me "sweetie". i used to work with a bunch of guys and i called them honey and sweetie... theres a bond that happens with coworkers, i wouldnt get bent out of shape because he calls people he's close to pet names...

the other part is, i tend to forget peoples names all the time, and calling them sweetie or honey covers that up. i have a terrible memory. that might be whats going on too.

dont be spiteful, that just gives women a bad name. be honest and calm. i'm sure if you came to your husband all hot and bothered he is going to say you're overreacting, because you are. if you went and sat on his lap, said hey honey, it makes me uncomfortable when you call women pet names in front of me and i would really appreciate if you stopped.. then give him a long lingering kiss. that might just do the trick

The first time The Hubby called someone he wasn't married to "babe" or "hun" would be the last time.

Babe, hun, sweety, are all terms of endearment in my world, when I say them it's with affection and hearing hubby saying them I would hear it with the same affection implied, and if it was being said to anyone outside our family it would drive me up a wall.

Truly I would just mention that you have boundaries and would appreciate it if he didn't use those phrases anymore since what he is saying to them is much different than what you are hearing him say to them. I've already laid out those ground rules with hubby so it hasn't ever come up- which I suppose is why if it ever DID happen I would definitely be not so forgiving or understanding.

I call guys babe and hun all the time. I hope their gfs dont hate me!

The only place I never do this is at work since its a very male dominated field. I sort of have to act like one of the boys.

I didn't realize guys call each other babe and hun?

clearly you do not watch Hawaii 50