Is it ok for a woman..........

donjoe1024
donjoe1024 Posts: 30
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Is it ok for a woman to talk on the phone to a guy for three hours if she is married? and talk to him for an hour here and an hour there and txt him at 1030 at night? Is it being unsupportive to be uncomfortable with that and saying how you feel about it? I am curious. WHat everyones opinion is on it. Even if she says you can go do whatever and then brings up the fact that she is supportive of me cause she lets me hang with the guys every other weekend at his house playing Dungeons and Dragons, yes I said I am a role player. Please Id like the opinions of everyone. Thanks
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  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    Seems legit.
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
    No, theres something very off about that.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    What do you mean she "says you can go do whatever"?? Like, bang chicks? Because I bet that's what she means.
  • clydethecat
    clydethecat Posts: 1,087 Member
    if you wouldn't do the behavior in front of her husband, its wrong.

    she's married, no one should mess with that.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    do you wear chain mail?
  • JeepBrah
    JeepBrah Posts: 150
    I smell beta
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Sit down and say:

    "So you've been talking to Bob an awfully lot. I'm uncomfortable with this. I would like to know the nature of your relationship with Bob."
  • donjoe1024
    donjoe1024 Posts: 30
    I dont know what she means when she says whatever, She states I let you go to the VFW club because you like it, I let you leave every other weekend to play D and D with the guys and she says since she is being supportive of those things I should nt have a problem with who she talks to on the phone because she is a home body and that it should be ok whomever she talks to on the phone.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    Let's see: Would you want your wife behaving in this manner?

    Somethings amiss here. Tread carefully, my friend.
  • terryjo623
    terryjo623 Posts: 101 Member
    I am going to say NO!
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    Is this for real? Yes, there is something wrong with a married woman spending hours and hours talking on the phone to another man.
  • donjoe1024
    donjoe1024 Posts: 30
    I have sat her down and she has said they are good friends and nothing more and they have been friends for 14 years. She has told me I can not talk to my old gal friends and she has said that if they say anything innappropriate she will not talk to him anymore so can I trust what she is saying. I have been through this before with exs and it never ends up right at all. Thanks for the twentysided comment LOL that is hilarious.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    I think she found someone that doesn't still play Dungeons and Dragons.
  • f1ctional
    f1ctional Posts: 235
    Dude - I have seen this before, a lot. It is a systematic replacement strategy. So, yea, might want to nip that in the bud.
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    If the guy is gay and its more akin to girl talk then its fine. Other than that it sort of ventures into emotional cheating.

    Once someone becomes attracted to someone emotionally then its not hard to make that physical jump. I'm sure people are going to say its controlling if you stop the behavior but it isnt. Its serious enough to bother you since youre asking here. If she tries to say you dont trust her just tell her its hurtful that shes sharing her time with other men and not you.
  • SexyCook
    SexyCook Posts: 2,249 Member
    Something not right about that picture.....When a woman say go do whatever...ummm you should have a good eye on what all that texting and talking about....:huh:
  • calalily77
    calalily77 Posts: 240 Member
    I wouldn't say that is unsupportive. I would question that myself. Not saying that she is doing anything wrong. But by saying that you can do whatever you want makes it look a bit sketchy. Her letting you hang out with your MALE buddies every second weekend is not even close to the same thing. Good luck. I would talk to her about it.
  • donjoe1024
    donjoe1024 Posts: 30
    Yes it is for real Patti. I am not sure what to feel or think at this point
  • TheMaidOfAstolat
    TheMaidOfAstolat Posts: 3,222 Member
    Personally....this seems like the perfect storm for cheating. Talking to someone that much and that often leads to other things. Not saying that cheating will happen...but it may. My ex did the same and it lead to cheating which is why I am divorced, I trusted him to be on the phone with his friends...not knowing that one of his friends became more than that after a year or so of 'chatting harmlessly' on the phone. Be careful.
  • donjoe1024
    donjoe1024 Posts: 30
    thanks cala I appreciate it
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    After reading this a couple of times, it has to be a joke. No adult play Dungeons and Dragons. That's just...well...odd! But, to each his/her own.

    HAHA
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    Is this for real? Yes, there is something wrong with a married woman spending hours and hours talking on the phone to another man.

    And vice verse...
  • momma3sweetgirls
    momma3sweetgirls Posts: 743 Member
    hmmm...unless it's her brother, dad, or other male relative, I would say it's probably not appropriate.
  • FitCurves444
    FitCurves444 Posts: 169 Member
    Speak up! If you do not want to entertain this behavior, married or not, you need to put an end to it. While it is honerable that you want to spare her feelings, it seems to me that she has not considered yours.... or is at all being considerate. What adult person with a spouse has that kind of time!?
  • itsafrappe
    itsafrappe Posts: 162 Member
    I dont know what she means when she says whatever, She states I let you go to the VFW club because you like it, I let you leave every other weekend to play D and D with the guys and she says since she is being supportive of those things I should nt have a problem with who she talks to on the phone because she is a home body and that it should be ok whomever she talks to on the phone.

    you are not being unsupportive you are questioning something that makes you feel uncomfortable. sounds like she is trying to justify something
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    I dont know what she means when she says whatever, She states I let you go to the VFW club because you like it, I let you leave every other weekend to play D and D with the guys and she says since she is being supportive of those things I should nt have a problem with who she talks to on the phone because she is a home body and that it should be ok whomever she talks to on the phone.

    Not sure that you hanging out with guy friends is equal to her having a friendship with another man. It would certainly bother me.
  • shanolap
    shanolap Posts: 1,204 Member
    If the guy is gay and its more akin to girl talk then its fine. Other than that it sort of ventures into emotional cheating.

    Once someone becomes attracted to someone emotionally then its not hard to make that physical jump. I'm sure people are going to say its controlling if you stop the behavior but it isnt. Its serious enough to bother you since youre asking here. If she tries to say you dont trust her just tell her its hurtful that shes sharing her time with other men and not you.

    This was my first thought too.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Hey - Don't knock D&D too hard... I love me some hot geeky guys!!


    But, if the dice is taking up too much time, I could see a woman going to look for a new dungeon master...
  • tobnrn
    tobnrn Posts: 477 Member
    For me its not ok to talk to another man that much when your married. I find that would be disrespectful to my spouse. What would have to say to a man that isnt my husband for that long. For me it would be an intamacy issue. Just like I wouldnt want my husband to be talking for that long to another female. No issues with friends of the opposite sex but thats alot of time.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    Uhhh is this a friend you've always known about and she's always done this or is this a new "friend"?

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