When You Cry... They Win. Stop.
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This is one of the best things I have ever read...EVER. And I've read a lot of ****. Preach on, brutha. Real talk.0
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As a therapist I'd love it If only it were that easy. Hey depressed person, stop being being sad. Hey low self esteem person, stop giving a crap what others think or say and believe in yourself. Hey person with conflicting ideology, stop caring when someone offends you. Hey person with emotions, don't feel anything negative, just ignore it or bottle it up where this arm chair psychologist can't see it and be annoyed; oh wait I forgot he doesn't give a *kitten* enough to start his own whinny post.
Posting in a forum, writing a blog entry, talking to a friend, all of these things are a perfectly healthy ways to deal with a negative experience. The danger is when people don't process those hurts and stop sharing and stop leaving their house, or start hording, or develop an eating disorder, or start cutting.
I'm not an armchair psychologist, I'm an attorney. And nowhere in my post did I advise people to "not feel emotions." I advised people on how to not allow those emotions empower those who hurt them.0 -
Well said!0
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LOVE this post!!!!!0
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LOVE
Thanks for the tough love. ; )0 -
I love it. everyone should read this post every morning to begin their day!0
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"Hey funny joke. Now, go get a spoon so you can eat my *kitten*."
This made me crack up laughing. :laugh:0 -
all I can say is amen amen amen. Preach it!!!!!!0
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As a therapist I'd love it If only it were that easy. Hey depressed person, stop being being sad. Hey low self esteem person, stop giving a crap what others think or say and believe in yourself. Hey person with conflicting ideology, stop caring when someone offends you. Hey person with emotions, don't feel anything negative, just ignore it or bottle it up where this arm chair psychologist can't see it and be annoyed; oh wait I forgot he doesn't give a *kitten* enough to start his own whinny post.
Posting in a forum, writing a blog entry, talking to a friend, all of these things are a perfectly healthy ways to deal with a negative experience. The danger is when people don't process those hurts and stop sharing and stop leaving their house, or start hording, or develop an eating disorder, or start cutting.
I get this to a point. I am like the living poster child of how opinions can hurt. I didn't think my family cared about me. They ignored me and I never felt good enough. I was diagnosed with manic depression when I was 8, suffered through 2 attempted suicides, anorexia, self mutilation, and spent years hating who I was. I was put down, made fun of, and all this culminated with being raped. I had therapy, I had pills, but none of that helped. I spent YEARS working on myself, finding my own outlets like writing as well as a few not so healthy things I went through in my teens to recover. You have to work on YOURSELF! Yes, talk to friends, talk to a therapist, but anyone knows that the internet is not the place to go if you want to find solace for your problems. People are ****s. You have to make the conscious decision to love yourself and eventually, you realize whose opinions matter and whose never did.
Maybe that sounds really callous, but as someone who has been there, I know a lot of it is fear and it is just easier to stay in that unhappy place. It is like being here to work on ourselves to be happy. It is hard, some days you don't want to do it...you'd rather sit on the couch and watch TV or play video games than workout. Those who are successful workout anyway. It's hard, but you just gotta do it.0 -
I love it!!! You rock0
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You have hit this one on the DOT!!! -- simply put... you can't control **** people say or do but you are in full control on how you will allow that **** to affect you, you have to give peeps permission to offend you and/or hurt you...0
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Every time I see you post a new thread, I think "Man, he's a little ridiculous."
Then I think "I want to be his friend."0 -
You are right!! Some stuff in my life I let overrule me at times and I will be posting this to remind myself to let the jack@ss's of the world stay in theirs and I will stay in mine!!0
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A. Freaking. MEN.
It's all mind over matter- if you don't mind, it don't matter.0 -
to the OP...great post!0
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Every time I see you post a new thread, I think "Man, he's a little ridiculous."
Then I think "I want to be his friend."
I get that a lot, less the friend part.0 -
Ok, tough-love time...
I've seen string-after-string of "whining" and "crying" about the things other people say.
Examples:
- "They insulted me."
- "They hurt my feelings."
- "They made me sad."
Here's a few steps to help some of you guys with the crushing things other people say...
Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what other people think.
Step 2: Repeat Step 1.
Gawd, I've been telling my husband this for years. I wish he would listen! He refuses to come play at the pool with his 5 yr old son because he's fat and doesn't want anyone to see him. Even wearing a swim shirt. I always tell him, "Why do you care what other people think of you? Are you trying to impress them? No? Then why does it matter what they think?" But I have yet to get him into the pool. Sigh.0 -
Best thing I've read all morning. Thank-you0
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This is a good post.
I do think it can be a difficult thing to learn how to do.0 -
Mean People Suck! You are my new favorite person! My co-worker cried yesterday because another co-worker told her that she always screws everything up. I wanted to call her a titty-baby and tell her to get over it.0
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